Stepfamilies/blended families/"bonusfamilies"

[Anonymous]

sorry: I hit "send" too soon.

To the OP and other well-meaning step parents: I wish my dad had found someone as caring and as interested as you.

[Anonymous]

since poster indictacted that she didn't need advice on babymama drama, I thought I would add some observations. My boyfriend in college had divorced parents and I was really impressed with the whole relationship between the various people. I noticed that at big events, everyone was there ..mom and stepdad and dad and girlfriend--even stepdad's earlier kids would be there and everyone had a great time. His mom once said that once the divorce is over, you are relieved but the real work begins and that is how to create the best environment for your kids (she had two with his dad). I think that caring environment is one reason why my exboyfriend was/is a great guy who can roll into any situation (we wound out not being right for marriage but parted as friends) and handle is positively.

[Anonymous]

Just because the ex's don't get along doesn't mean that there is pathology.