Fertility treatments if you work FT

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:As other posters have said, the monitoring is early in the morning so likely your work will be unaffected (figuring out childcare may be tricky though). You will have to miss work the day of retrieval, and will have a few days notice for that. Just think of it this way - if you came down with the flu, you'd be out of work for a day or more with even less notice. You can work before and after the transfer - bed rest makes no difference. I found prenatal appointments and random appointments for my kids now that I have them to be much harder to manage than IVF. The hardest part is if you have a job that demands last-minute travel. if that is the case, you will have to come up with a plan for that.

And the PP who said "if you can't afford IVF you can't afford a kid" is nuts - there is a huge difference between child care costs that are spread out (and most people can find an option for less than $3K/month) and the huge up front cost of IVF.

If someone going through IVF can't afford the cost or has to borrow money it means they haven't been able to save money with their current paychecks. It's only going to get worse with a large childcare payment every month and baby expenses

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:As other posters have said, the monitoring is early in the morning so likely your work will be unaffected (figuring out childcare may be tricky though). You will have to miss work the day of retrieval, and will have a few days notice for that. Just think of it this way - if you came down with the flu, you'd be out of work for a day or more with even less notice. You can work before and after the transfer - bed rest makes no difference. I found prenatal appointments and random appointments for my kids now that I have them to be much harder to manage than IVF. The hardest part is if you have a job that demands last-minute travel. if that is the case, you will have to come up with a plan for that.

And the PP who said "if you can't afford IVF you can't afford a kid" is nuts - there is a huge difference between child care costs that are spread out (and most people can find an option for less than $3K/month) and the huge up front cost of IVF.

If someone going through IVF can't afford the cost or has to borrow money it means they haven't been able to save money with their current paychecks. It's only going to get worse with a large childcare payment every month and baby expenses

NP here -- I totally agree that you're nuts to say if you can't afford IVF you can't afford a kid. Not everyone has $3k/month daycare payments. Plus, you need to do IVF sooner rather than later -- waiting to save money to do it gets you nowhere because you age. Your type of mentality actually results in unnecessary delay (and the need to use IVF at all). This isn't saving for retirement. It's having a child. And difficulties scheduling a slew of appointments doesn't really indicate an inability to be a parent, either.

[Anonymous]

OP - this thread seems to have gone off track, but you got some good advice. There are not that many morning appointments for IVF. What will need to happen is that you will need DH or a friend to take your kid to camp / school when you have appointments. You will have a rough idea when, but realistically you will have 2-4 days notice. You will go to a clinic close to work and have your appointments at 7am. Maybe once or twice you tell work you have an appointment to cover for later. You will be tired, but no one at work will know. Once you get to your retrieval and transfer
you will tell work this - My dermatologist found a mole on my lower back (basically your butt) and it needs to be biopsied. Since it is not an emergency, but needs to be taken care of sooner or later, the outpatient surgery center scheduler will give me 1-3 days notice with my time slot. I will have to got back 3-5 days later to have my sutures checked.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP - this thread seems to have gone off track, but you got some good advice. There are not that many morning appointments for IVF. What will need to happen is that you will need DH or a friend to take your kid to camp / school when you have appointments. You will have a rough idea when, but realistically you will have 2-4 days notice. You will go to a clinic close to work and have your appointments at 7am. Maybe once or twice you tell work you have an appointment to cover for later. You will be tired, but no one at work will know. Once you get to your retrieval and transfer
you will tell work this - My dermatologist found a mole on my lower back (basically your butt) and it needs to be biopsied. Since it is not an emergency, but needs to be taken care of sooner or later, the outpatient surgery center scheduler will give me 1-3 days notice with my time slot. I will have to got back 3-5 days later to have my sutures checked.

Yes. Or -- you just call in sick the day of your egg retrieval (you will be too woozy after the ER to go back to work). For the egg transfer there is no need to take a sick day -- most ETs are done in the morning, so just say you have a doc appointment in the morning. Unless you have an active job you can go back to work and chill at your desk after the ET (this is what I did).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Here's the sad truth...if you can't handle work and fertility appointments you can't handle work and prenatal appointments or taking time off for the baby.

It's similar to women who can't afford the cost of IVF. If you can't afford the cost of IVF you can't afford a baby. Daycare is around 3k a month here. So 36k a year.

Fwiw most of the IVF monitoring appointments are in the morning. You can probably go first appointment of the day for your consultation appointment. Go for the bloodwork (infectious diseases) during lunch one day. You'll need half a sick day for the hcg, one sick day for the egg retrieval and one sick day for the embryo transfer.

NO, daycare is not around 3k a month here.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Here's the sad truth...if you can't handle work and fertility appointments you can't handle work and prenatal appointments or taking time off for the baby.

It's similar to women who can't afford the cost of IVF. If you can't afford the cost of IVF you can't afford a baby. Daycare is around 3k a month here. So 36k a year.

Fwiw most of the IVF monitoring appointments are in the morning. You can probably go first appointment of the day for your consultation appointment. Go for the bloodwork (infectious diseases) during lunch one day. You'll need half a sick day for the hcg, one sick day for the egg retrieval and one sick day for the embryo transfer.

NO, daycare is not around 3k a month here.

You're right, it's not. For 2 kids, it's going to be more like $3,600+