I fell in love and I am married

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Anonymous wrote:How could you love someone careless enough to have a bunch of kids? He sounds like someone who enjoys the chase, getting women to fall for him. He's not stable, and will abandon you like he's abandoned the others.

Others? I don't recall OP saying the million kids were from million women...

One wife, married for 25 years. No he is not what you think, and he doesn't even know about my feelings. It is all me.

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Anonymous wrote:Bridges of Madison County. Read it or watch the movie.

http://www.chumplady.com/2012/11/bridges-of-bullshit/

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How to get it out of your system? Pretend like your husband is the love of your life. Find all the great things about him, even down to how he takes the trash out regularly. You aren't judging the dream guy on the same standard as your husband. Your husband gets credit for taking care of the kids while you were off spending a week meeting the perfect stranger. Your husband is a gem you couldn't do without. Remember that, and then have sex with your husband. Have a date with him. Remember why you married HIM.

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Anonymous wrote:Bridges of Madison County. Read it or watch the movie.

http://www.chumplady.com/2012/11/bridges-of-bullshit/

Thank you. Reading it. Some good comments under.

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Anonymous wrote:Thank you all. I know it is all crazy and short-term, I will probably never see him again. I know him only for a week and he is already gone from my life. Crazy or not, it is not a simple lust and not physical attraction. In fact, I am not even sure I would like to have sex with him right now. It is something totally different and I feel pain like I lost a parent or sibling. The feeling is like I know this person, perhaps from another life. I am not usually spiritual person but this is something I never experienced in my life. It is not the"love", I called it wrong, but unfortunately I don't know how to call this. It is not a physical attraction at all.

Did you tell each other you would keep in touch? If there is no physical attraction, there should be no problem? You can stay in touch as friends and maybe over the years you will realize the basis for the bond or deja you feel. It could be that you will learn or grow through knowing this person.

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Anonymous wrote:Thank you all. I know it is all crazy and short-term, I will probably never see him again. I know him only for a week and he is already gone from my life. Crazy or not, it is not a simple lust and not physical attraction. In fact, I am not even sure I would like to have sex with him right now. It is something totally different and I feel pain like I lost a parent or sibling. The feeling is like I know this person, perhaps from another life. I am not usually spiritual person but this is something I never experienced in my life. It is not the"love", I called it wrong, but unfortunately I don't know how to call this. It is not a physical attraction at all.

Did you tell each other you would keep in touch? If there is no physical attraction, there should be no problem? You can stay in touch as friends and maybe over the years you will realize the basis for the bond or deja you feel. It could be that you will learn or grow through knowing this person.

No we did not. I have his number and he has mine. I don't want to be a creep, and who knows maybe he will get back with his wife? He might not want to be friends with me. If he would make first step in reaching out I probably would.

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Anonymous wrote:Re-read your post. What you describe cannot be love. It is infatuation. That you don't know the difference indicates you have no business being married. Your husband deserves better.

Absolutely True. OP, you are infatuated. It is a crush. You don't have a relationship with this person that is reciprocal. Work on getting over it.

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Anonymous wrote:How to get it out of your system? Pretend like your husband is the love of your life. Find all the great things about him, even down to how he takes the trash out regularly. You aren't judging the dream guy on the same standard as your husband. Your husband gets credit for taking care of the kids while you were off spending a week meeting the perfect stranger. Your husband is a gem you couldn't do without. Remember that, and then have sex with your husband. Have a date with him. Remember why you married HIM.

+1 good advice

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Thank you all. I know it is all crazy and short-term, I will probably never see him again. I know him only for a week and he is already gone from my life. Crazy or not, it is not a simple lust and not physical attraction. In fact, I am not even sure I would like to have sex with him right now. It is something totally different and I feel pain like I lost a parent or sibling. The feeling is like I know this person, perhaps from another life. I am not usually spiritual person but this is something I never experienced in my life. It is not the"love", I called it wrong, but unfortunately I don't know how to call this. It is not a physical attraction at all.

Did you tell each other you would keep in touch? If there is no physical attraction, there should be no problem? You can stay in touch as friends and maybe over the years you will realize the basis for the bond or deja you feel. It could be that you will learn or grow through knowing this person.

No we did not. I have his number and he has mine. I don't want to be a creep, and who knows maybe he will get back with his wife? He might not want to be friends with me. If he would make first step in reaching out I probably would.

It would be nice if you could somehow keep in touch. Or maybe you will run into each other again in some other context.

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I don't get the "he has a million kids" part.

Typo or am I missing something here....??!

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Anonymous wrote:Here is the reply you know you are looking for: He could be your soulmate, and the only way you will know is to have sex with him.

Problem solved.

This only works if he is your neighbor.

And if he has been tested for Aspergers