FIL merely rinses off his utensils and dishes and puts them back

[Anonymous]

My dad used to do this. He's older and simply didn't put it together until I said "hey dad, we're not worried about old food, we're worried about germs around DS (who is immunocompromised)." He frowned, thought about it, and then started using the soap. Sometimes it's just easier to point these things out - obvious as they may seem to you.

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Anonymous wrote:Yes my grandma does this. We actually get incredibly sick when we visit her (diarrhea, hospital visits and lots of gastro issues). It's been an ongoing issue for the past 20 years. I'm convinced she's Typhoid Mary (wish I was exaggerating). Her house is picked up and looks clean, but we all get ridiculously sick. She's older now so we're helping to care for her while we're there. We make sure absolutely everything goes in the dishwasher and we dump all the silverware in the dishwasher when we arrive when she can't see it. We love her and try to be kind, but after 5 of us ended up on IV drips in the hospital last time, it's all getting bleached and washed.

I would just keep telling your FIL no and that you use the dishwasher. Don't let him prepare any of his own meals or do dishes.

OMG, I'm sorry but this is hilarious.

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Why is he visiting for several weeks?

[Anonymous]

That's disgusting. I'd eat with plastic until he leaves.

[Anonymous]

That's disgusting! Sorry.

[Anonymous]

My FIL will butcher a chicken or truss a turkey and just wipe his hands on a dish towel afterward. On something like that, I will say something.

[Anonymous]

I'd simply say "ooops let me get that for you. If you are only rinsing it with water, put it in the dishwasher next. If you are actually cleaning it with soap, you may then use the dishrack to dry." Treat it like you caught an oversight.

That's what I've done when guests try to unload my dishwasher without washing their hands.

[Anonymous]

Interest fact (to me, anyway): Rinsing is actually significantly more important to sanitation than using soap. This has been fairly extensively studied in developing countries. Relatedly, rinsing your hands without soap in water known to be contaminated is still more sanitary than not washing your hands at all after using the restroom.

(I'm not saying you shouldn't ALSO use soap; just that I think people tend to assume its the more important of the two in sanitation).

[Anonymous]

Reminds me of my MIL who was grossed out by us mixing a potato salad with an olive oil dressing with our (washed immediately before beginning cooking) hands, and wouldn't eat it, but who had zero problem with handling raw chicken and then handling everything else in her kitchen without washing her hands in between.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:That's what I've done when guests try to unload my dishwasher without washing their hands.

I never specifically wash my hands before unloading my dishwasher. Am I the only one?

[Anonymous]

"Hey, Ned, either use soap or put them in the dishwasher, OK? Otherwise I don't know what's clean, and I have to put it all in the dishwasher."

When it happens again, put all the flatware in the dishwasher. He'll need a spoon and there won't be any, and it will drive the point home.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:"Hey, Ned, either use soap or put them in the dishwasher, OK? Otherwise I don't know what's clean, and I have to put it all in the dishwasher."

When it happens again, put all the flatware in the dishwasher. He'll need a spoon and there won't be any, and it will drive the point home.

Just ask him to put them in the sink, and let him know you'll wash them. Then you can put them in the dishwasher, or handwash them. If you try to make him wash them, I bet that will open up another can of worms. (Like PP who's FIL wiped face off w/ dish towel, or wiping down counters with the sponge, etc) I think the key is to kindly get him out of the kitchen ASAP.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:That's what I've done when guests try to unload my dishwasher without washing their hands.

I never specifically wash my hands before unloading my dishwasher. Am I the only one?

Then you are getting all of your dishes dirty! Yes, I do hope you are the only one.

[Anonymous]

He has lost kitchen privileges. Ew, get him outta there!

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:That's what I've done when guests try to unload my dishwasher without washing their hands.

I never specifically wash my hands before unloading my dishwasher. Am I the only one?

No I never do either. And I'm a clean person with a clean house.