Anyone here married to younger guys?

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Anonymous wrote:DH is 5 years younger than me. It has never been an issue. Can't imagine why it would be. I get the song thing, though! He proposed in his late 20s with no pressure from me.

Exactly the same for us. It's a non issue.

Another person in the same situation. We've been married for 15 years.

Do you ever worry you're aging faster than him? Just curious since men usually are attracted to younger women.

this is an issue for every woman. most of my friends are married to men their age or a few years older, and they are all now in their 40s. Men are always going to check out and be attracted to young women. Whether you're the same age as your DH, a few years younger, or a few years older, doesn't make a big difference. Unless you plan on marrying someone 25 years older than you and having your youth be the reason your DH stays with you, then the argument that you're "aging faster" doesn't mean much when you're talking in the long term

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Do you ever worry you're aging faster than him? Just curious since men usually are attracted to younger women.

No, I'm not worried about it. My DH is attracted to women. Some women are older than me, some are younger. Depends on what it is he finds attractive about them.

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DH is 2.5 years younger than me. I guess I was slightly more ready to get married than he was, but I think that's his personality- he's more risk adverse (wanted to be fiscally healthy before marriage) and I'm not. We both were totally committed from day 1, though- we both knew right away that we would get married some day.

The most obvious difference in our ages is most of his friends were later to get married, most of mine got married sooner. But no big deal.

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Anonymous wrote:I don't mean 10+ years younger. More like 2-3 years younger than you.

How does your dynamic work? Did the age difference bother you? What did it mean regarding the engagement, marriage, kids timeline? Did he take longer because he was younger?

Mine is 5 year younger. No big deal.

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DH is 19 months younger than me. Not a big deal. We look about the same age, although some people can't always tell how old I am. (I think they're not very good at guessing an Asian person's age).

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If we were in HS at the same time, I don't consider it dating younger/older. 2-3 years is nothing. I made a big deal of it in my 20s and missed out on a good guy as a result.

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Anonymous wrote:DH is 19 months younger than me. Not a big deal. We look about the same age, although some people can't always tell how old I am. (I think they're not very good at guessing an Asian person's age).

Seriously? 19 months? It's not surprising that you look about the same age as someone who is less than 2 years younger than you.

I think as long as you are within the classic (your age)/2 + 7 = (the youngest you can date without being a cougar/dirty old man) formula, you have nothing to worry about.

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DH is two years younger and we started dating when we were 17 and 19. Married at 29 and 27 and, yes, I applied some pressure. He was the one who started raising the idea that it was time to have a kid (I was 32 at the time) and I'm glad he did because it took 6 months to get pregnant with her and we've been trying for another for a year. I do sometimes think about how he might not have that problem if I were younger, but then again he might. For me the hardest part about him is it took awhile to be fully "grown up" as he was getting his PH.D. / researching on his own time for years, but I know men younger than he is who really have their act together so that's him more than age.

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Anonymous wrote:I don't mean 10+ years younger. More like 2-3 years younger than you.

How does your dynamic work? Did the age difference bother you? What did it mean regarding the engagement, marriage, kids timeline? Did he take longer because he was younger?

I'm 50 and my DH is 47. We met in law school but dated after law school-- married about 18 years now.

I think the only way it affects us is in a good way. I recognize that societal standards are such that he could be with a 35 y.o. right now and nobody would bat an eyelash. So that fact motivates me to stay in shape. I don't want to look like his mother. Ha, but btw that said, he is salt and pepper and now so am I, but I'm in shape and dress nice so it's ok.

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DH is 4 years younger than me. Only thing that is weird (to me only) is that i am exactly the same age as his older sister.

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Just under 3 years younger. We're getting divorced now, but I don't think it had anything to do with the age difference.

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He's five years younger. It's never been an issue and we're both over 50 now. We don't look different in age. We met when he was almost 30. Once you're that age range and older, five years is nothing.

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My long term BF is 10 years younger than me. I look really young for my age although I do worry about aging, so I try to take extra good care of myself (skin regiment, and I work out a lot). He's got his shit together career wise (as do I) and we have very similar personalities as far as money, social activities, and family wants. So it works. (I know I'm out of your age designation, but I really don't see why 2-4 years' difference would be any kind of big deal at ALL.)

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Anonymous wrote:I don't mean 10+ years younger. More like 2-3 years younger than you.

How does your dynamic work? Did the age difference bother you? What did it mean regarding the engagement, marriage, kids timeline? Did he take longer because he was younger?

Unless you are pretty young I don't think that small a difference in age makes much difference. If you are 18 and they are 21 you will probably have profound differences. Once you hit mid 20's that age difference has no issues

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wife is 7 years older. we met in college. she was a grad student, I was undergrad... goingon nearly 20 years married....