Episode #4,593 of "My Borderline Mother"

[Anonymous]

Here's the thing about having a crazy mom. When you tell one story, like OP has done, ppl criticize and think you are a bad daughter or "drama queen" as pp stated above.

But this is the 4000th "crazy story" and it's so illogical, OP could only make sense of it by telling this funny story.

My crazy mom (bi-polar with delusions) hate-texted me because I didn't thank her for my 6yr old's birthday card which contained my bio-father's obit in it. I didn't meet this man in life, don't care that he's dead and it is INAPPROPRIATE that she sent an obit in a b-day card.

Hate text included such phrases as "you'r a fraud" and "you think you are so high-and mighty" and "can't you see, I was just trying to save a s tamp"

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Here's the thing about having a crazy mom. When you tell one story, like OP has done, ppl criticize and think you are a bad daughter or "drama queen" as pp stated above.

But this is the 4000th "crazy story" and it's so illogical, OP could only make sense of it by telling this funny story.

My crazy mom (bi-polar with delusions) hate-texted me because I didn't thank her for my 6yr old's birthday card which contained my bio-father's obit in it. I didn't meet this man in life, don't care that he's dead and it is INAPPROPRIATE that she sent an obit in a b-day card.

Hate text included such phrases as "you'r a fraud" and "you think you are so high-and mighty" and "can't you see, I was just trying to save a s tamp"

OP here. Thank you for getting it. One can either internalize these incidents or laugh them off. I choose to laugh.

And I am familiar with the greeting card dramas, PP. Oh, the greeting card dramas. So sorry.

[Anonymous]

I hear you, op. I hear you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Here's the thing about having a crazy mom. When you tell one story, like OP has done, ppl criticize and think you are a bad daughter or "drama queen" as pp stated above.

But this is the 4000th "crazy story" and it's so illogical, OP could only make sense of it by telling this funny story.

My crazy mom (bi-polar with delusions) hate-texted me because I didn't thank her for my 6yr old's birthday card which contained my bio-father's obit in it. I didn't meet this man in life, don't care that he's dead and it is INAPPROPRIATE that she sent an obit in a b-day card.

Hate text included such phrases as "you'r a fraud" and "you think you are so high-and mighty" and "can't you see, I was just trying to save a s tamp"

I completely agree.

[Anonymous]

Ladies, you know all this shit is hereditary, right? Right?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ladies, you know all this shit is hereditary, right? Right?

I know you're joking and serious at the same time, but hereditary does not mean that a disorder has 100% risk of being passed from one parent to every one of his or her children. I know I am way more rational and reasonable than my mother, and that I will never replicate her crazyiness. I have other faults, though, and who knows where they came from!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Here's the thing about having a crazy mom. When you tell one story, like OP has done, ppl criticize and think you are a bad daughter or "drama queen" as pp stated above.

But this is the 4000th "crazy story" and it's so illogical, OP could only make sense of it by telling this funny story.

My crazy mom (bi-polar with delusions) hate-texted me because I didn't thank her for my 6yr old's birthday card which contained my bio-father's obit in it. I didn't meet this man in life, don't care that he's dead and it is INAPPROPRIATE that she sent an obit in a b-day card.

Hate text included such phrases as "you'r a fraud" and "you think you are so high-and mighty" and "can't you see, I was just trying to save a s tamp"

OP here. Thank you for getting it. One can either internalize these incidents or laugh them off. I choose to laugh.

And I am familiar with the greeting card dramas, PP. Oh, the greeting card dramas. So sorry.

My MIL has bipolar with delusions. She does not take meds because the government is trying to poison her. Seeing a greeting card envelope in the mailbox makes my heart sink. She won't have a phone because Satanists are always bugging her phone. She won't use the Internet because the Satanists spy on her through the computer. She sends a couple of cards to DH per week and sometimes to the kids. DH can't deal with it anymore. I open them, read them, and then hand them off to DH if there is something he needs to know about (Ie. she packed all of her stuff and was going to move to Georgia -- with no money, no where to go, and no plan). I screen the kids' mail for appropriateness. She's exhausting and she isn't even my mother. I can't imagine how much worse it would be if she were my mother and I was emotionally invested in the relationship.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ladies, you know all this shit is hereditary, right? Right?

You are not funny. Bipolar and borderline are both serious disorders, not just some "crazy mom" stuff. Bipolar is heritable, but if you have a bipolar parent you only have about a 15% chance of being bipolar. Borderline probably has a heritable component, but it has to be triggered and it's mostly a product of severe child abuse, frequently sexual abuse.

Why don't you run down to the local elementary school and make fun of the special ed kids, next?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ladies, you know all this shit is hereditary, right? Right?

Hey funny guy / gal:
My greatest, deepest, wake in a cold sweat fear is that I'm just like my mom. After all, we look alike and she's been telling me all my life *I'm* the cruel, vicious, dishonest one. So, you know, thanks for that hilarious joke.

-not OP

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Nothing in your post indicates that she is "borderline." A pain in the ass but not borderline. Why doe people continue to throw around diagnosis without any understanding of what they are diagnosing?

I agree. Time to grow up, OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The thread title and original post serve to show how big of a drama queen OP is.

Do you think mom's behavior was anything like normal? Go away.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Nothing in your post indicates that she is "borderline." A pain in the ass but not borderline. Why doe people continue to throw around diagnosis without any understanding of what they are diagnosing?

I agree. Time to grow up, OP.

I was grown up at 11, when my mother thought she won the lottery.

I was grown up at 9, when my friends ganged up on me in the neighborhood park to announce "Your mother is weird."

I was grown up at 19 when I was locked out of the house for stealing her friends.

I was grown up the day I brought my preemie home from the hospital and Mom had opened all the windows in the house (February) because it's just too hot in here.

I could continue this, but my wonderful husband has taught me to laugh at these incidents instead of cry. Thats's part if why I love him so much. I yhink also it's very difficult to convey to others the chaos and pain that borderline people cause. It looks from the outside that people are making a big fuss , and borderlines love to play the victim. I know when I was growing up, I couldn't understand why my father got so angry with my mother. Anyway, if you don't get it, you don't get it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Nothing in your post indicates that she is "borderline." A pain in the ass but not borderline. Why doe people continue to throw around diagnosis without any understanding of what they are diagnosing?

I agree. Time to grow up, OP.

I was grown up at 11, when my mother thought she won the lottery.

I was grown up at 9, when my friends ganged up on me in the neighborhood park to announce "Your mother is weird."

I was grown up at 19 when I was locked out of the house for stealing her friends.

I was grown up the day I brought my preemie home from the hospital and Mom had opened all the windows in the house (February) because it's just too hot in here.

I could continue this, but my wonderful husband has taught me to laugh at these incidents instead of cry. Thats's part if why I love him so much. I yhink also it's very difficult to convey to others the chaos and pain that borderline people cause. It looks from the outside that people are making a big fuss , and borderlines love to play the victim. I know when I was growing up, I couldn't understand why my father got so angry with my mother. Anyway, if you don't get it, you don't get it.

I'm sorry OP! You are lucky to have your DH.