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[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Please don't act like this is a competition your child "won" It starts the attitudes that are prevalent at some school between "us and them".

I am simply anxious to find out the result. It's my own business, and in general I am more concerned about what my own kids are doing. I don't brag or share with others. As in life, there are always people who are more concerned about what OTHER people are doing. I think that's where the hate comes from. If you take a peek at the discussions about TJ, those who don't even have experience (no kids who have gone through the school) are the ones denouncing it.

Partly, but also people who are concerned only with themselves fail to realize that things that effect themselves and their kids also affect others in different ways. TJ affects every school in Fairfax County regardless of whether children go there or not. So does AAP. Everything is interconnected.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Different PP. If you want to keep the AAP program, the other poster is right. Try to make sure the students blend in with others and don't make such a big deal about it. The more the program is touted as "Separate" the more people that have issues with it.

Then how about waiting until someone actually acts like it's a "competition" and then scold that individual specifically, it that's your thing. The incorrect idea that an entire population needs to be warned not to gloat is evidence that an "us and them" mentality already exists in the mind of the PP warning against such things.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Please don't act like this is a competition your child "won" It starts the attitudes that are prevalent at some school between "us and them".

I am simply anxious to find out the result. It's my own business, and in general I am more concerned about what my own kids are doing. I don't brag or share with others. As in life, there are always people who are more concerned about what OTHER people are doing. I think that's where the hate comes from. If you take a peek at the discussions about TJ, those who don't even have experience (no kids who have gone through the school) are the ones denouncing it.

Partly, but also people who are concerned only with themselves fail to realize that things that effect themselves and their kids also affect others in different ways. TJ affects every school in Fairfax County regardless of whether children go there or not. So does AAP. Everything is interconnected.

I see your point. But, FCPS schools are really good in general. People whine because the county doesn't have enough programs and differentiation in instruction to meet the needs/abilities of students. We whine when there are too many. There are 4 levels of AAP, honors and AAP in middle school, IB and AP in high school. Academies in different disciplines in high school, TJ of course. Not to mention all of the language immersion programs. Go to Minnesota and see what they offer. It's not even close.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Different PP. If you want to keep the AAP program, the other poster is right. Try to make sure the students blend in with others and don't make such a big deal about it. The more the program is touted as "Separate" the more people that have issues with it.

Then how about waiting until someone actually acts like it's a "competition" and then scold that individual specifically, it that's your thing. The incorrect idea that an entire population needs to be warned not to gloat is evidence that an "us and them" mentality already exists in the mind of the PP warning against such things.

Unfortunately many people have already seen this and not just on this board. That is the issue.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Different PP. If you want to keep the AAP program, the other poster is right. Try to make sure the students blend in with others and don't make such a big deal about it. The more the program is touted as "Separate" the more people that have issues with it.

Then how about waiting until someone actually acts like it's a "competition" and then scold that individual specifically, it that's your thing. The incorrect idea that an entire population needs to be warned not to gloat is evidence that an "us and them" mentality already exists in the mind of the PP warning against such things.

Unfortunately many people have already seen this and not just on this board. That is the issue.

We have seen it and it is very real. We even had teachers "congratulating" the kids. Just awful.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So excited I will have my son pick up mail when he comes from school

case in point. The Golden Ticket!!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So excited I will have my son pick up mail when he comes from school

case in point. The Golden Ticket!!!

What would you have him do? Tell you on the phone if there is something from FCPS and then ask him to open it? There would be no other reason to have him check them mail since you'd get a notification either way.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So excited I will have my son pick up mail when he comes from school

case in point. The Golden Ticket!!!

So basically there's a pack of killjoys milling around here just waiting to pounce on parents for expressing any level of satisfaction. Tell me, is there an acceptable, non-triggering way for parents to share results? I assume exclamation points are out of the question. But what about emojis?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So excited I will have my son pick up mail when he comes from school

case in point. The Golden Ticket!!!

So basically there's a pack of killjoys milling around here just waiting to pounce on parents for expressing any level of satisfaction. Tell me, is there an acceptable, non-triggering way for parents to share results? I assume exclamation points are out of the question. But what about emojis?

Why do people have such a need to brag about their kids to strangers? I get telling your family and friends or even having a little celebration with your kid. But what's the point in typing how great your kid is on a public message board? Does it make you feel superior or something?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So excited I will have my son pick up mail when he comes from school

case in point. The Golden Ticket!!!

So basically there's a pack of killjoys milling around here just waiting to pounce on parents for expressing any level of satisfaction. Tell me, is there an acceptable, non-triggering way for parents to share results? I assume exclamation points are out of the question. But what about emojis?

Why do people have such a need to brag about their kids to strangers? I get telling your family and friends or even having a little celebration with your kid. But what's the point in typing how great your kid is on a public message board? Does it make you feel superior or something?

Nope, and that's just the point. When I posted my kid's results last year I didn't feel superior nor did I feel "such a need to brag". I was simply taking part in a mildly cathartic sharing of information on a thread made for that purpose. Did I make you feel inferior by doing so? I suspect not. So why would you even ask if posters on such threads share news solely for the purpose of feeling "superior or something"? What difference does it make?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Different PP. If you want to keep the AAP program, the other poster is right. Try to make sure the students blend in with others and don't make such a big deal about it. The more the program is touted as "Separate" the more people that have issues with it.

Then how about waiting until someone actually acts like it's a "competition" and then scold that individual specifically, it that's your thing. The incorrect idea that an entire population needs to be warned not to gloat is evidence that an "us and them" mentality already exists in the mind of the PP warning against such things.

Unfortunately many people have already seen this and not just on this board. That is the issue.

We have seen it and it is very real. We even had teachers "congratulating" the kids. Just awful.

They really should congratulate kids who are accepted to TJ. What a great accomplishment for those students (not my kids).

My kids middle school teachers congratulate kids for doing well in sports. For having a successful spring musical. For scoring high at a band or choir competition. For many, many accomplishments and achievement of a goal they know is important to the kids.

TJ deserves congratulations just as much as winning a soccer tournament or any other successful achievement of a goal.

It is about the kids and not the parent egos...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Please don't act like this is a competition your child "won" It starts the attitudes that are prevalent at some school between "us and them".

But it is a competition. Whether it should be or not is another discussion. For anything where there are limited spots, there is a competition. Portfolios are being compared with other portfolios in the pool especially for those with lower scores. I will be excited if my child gets in. I will be excited if my child makes the basketball team, cheerleading squad or what ever activity they choose to become involved. However, I will not be devastated if my child does not get into AAP. They will ultimately be successfully with proper motivation and guidance regardless of where they go to school. I am and will always be excited when my child has new opportunities. What parent wouldnt?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Please don't act like this is a competition your child "won" It starts the attitudes that are prevalent at some school between "us and them".

But it is a competition. Whether it should be or not is another discussion. For anything where there are limited spots, there is a competition. Portfolios are being compared with other portfolios in the pool especially for those with lower scores. I will be excited if my child gets in. I will be excited if my child makes the basketball team, cheerleading squad or what ever activity they choose to become involved. However, I will not be devastated if my child does not get into AAP. They will ultimately be successfully with proper motivation and guidance regardless of where they go to school. I am and will always be excited when my child has new opportunities. What parent wouldnt?

Sorry. There are not limited spots in AAP. It is for anyone who qualifies and truly needs it. Therefore, should not be seen as a competition.

[Anonymous]

Why are people so ignorant about AAP? There are not limited spots. It is not a competition. Nor is it something to celebrate. Just a placement.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Different PP. If you want to keep the AAP program, the other poster is right. Try to make sure the students blend in with others and don't make such a big deal about it. The more the program is touted as "Separate" the more people that have issues with it.

Then how about waiting until someone actually acts like it's a "competition" and then scold that individual specifically, it that's your thing. The incorrect idea that an entire population needs to be warned not to gloat is evidence that an "us and them" mentality already exists in the mind of the PP warning against such things.

Unfortunately many people have already seen this and not just on this board. That is the issue.

We have seen it and it is very real. We even had teachers "congratulating" the kids. Just awful.

They really should congratulate kids who are accepted to TJ. What a great accomplishment for those students (not my kids).

My kids middle school teachers congratulate kids for doing well in sports. For having a successful spring musical. For scoring high at a band or choir competition. For many, many accomplishments and achievement of a goal they know is important to the kids.

TJ deserves congratulations just as much as winning a soccer tournament or any other successful achievement of a goal.

Totally agree about TJ. Kids work extremely hard to get in (mine did not get in). Congratulations are in order for those who get in. AAP is not the same. Elementary kids did nothing spectacular to get in it's just about finding the right academic "fit" for them.

It is about the kids and not the parent egos...