MIL birthday
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Anonymous
Celebrating your Husband's birth and Mothers Day with the woman who gave birth to him and raised him is a crap fest for you? How very odd. |
Anonymous
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So something apart (perhaps each with your spouses?) on the actual day. Have a little family gathering the weekend before or after with cake.
I like my MIL just fine, but she lives 45 mins away and on her birthday we're expected to drive to her. That's fine, but if it were also my birthday, I wouldn't want to do that. I'd want to celebrate how I want (with my DH and kids) and then do something for her on another day. However, I wouldn't die on this hill because I don't REALLY care that much. If MIL does, it's better to let her have this one, and take another day to celebrate. |
Anonymous
I think she means all the showering of appreciation on her on mothers' day gets lost amidst the birthdays. If it helps, PP, most everyone has to "share" mothers' day with both their own mothers and their MILs. I, personally, don't really like mothers' day anyway. Instead of buying me flowers or going out to brunch at a crowded restaurant or whatever to express your "appreciation," you just appreciate me the other 364 days of the year rather than just expecting me to do just about everything without comment? |
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I love how people just jump in conclusion themselves.
I am asking question as "What would you do ...?" for ideas because every year we just go to have dinner together and it is boring. Well, I admitted I am not clear so replier can think of anything they want. this  means schocking as how often this happens to DIL and MIL.
OP. |
Anonymous
THERE IS NOTHING SHOCKING ABOUT THIS. Coincidences aren't "shocking." Coincidences happen. That's why we have a word for them. |
Anonymous
| but is there a coincident emoticon? |
Anonymous
How about saying, "What a coincidence!" If Hemingway, Austen and Toni Morrison could capture the full range of human emotions with just words and no emoticons, you can probably express mild surprise at a low-level coincidence without them. |
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Holy crap. OP asked a simple question.... What would you do. The responses are so hostile. What really gets me are the responses SCREAMING "I am not 5!!!" and being belligerent to OP. PPs if you are so mature please lead by example and respond with some class and maturity.
OP, do you and MIL get along? What have you done in the past. I think if it was a milestone bday I'd let her have first dibs. If it's a regular bday you can celebrate together or if you want your own thing that's fair too, it your bday! Split it - she gets brunch and then you celebrate how you want, you get sat she gets sun. Worst case scenario you get two parties. Happy upcoming birthday by the way and good luck! |
Anonymous
For fucks sake, now you are going to get mad at her for not writing like Hemingway? She used emoticons, words would have been better. Ok so what? Do we need to tear down OP for everything? |
Anonymous
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What would I do? I don't know, like, go out to dinner or bake her a cake. If it's her milestone birthday, a larger family party. If someone wanted to also sing me Happy Birthday, great, whatever.
I'm firmly in the camp of no one really needs a big deal-big deal after the age of 21. What do you expect us to suggest, pony rides? A trip to Disney? You're both adults! Maybe a box of Georgetown Cupcakes? |
Anonymous
NP. OP was upset that everyone "misread" her "shocked emoticon," and said she used it because there's no "coincidence emoticon." The point is, just SAY "It's a coincidence, huh?" I personally think OP did mean to convey shock/upset the first time, then backpedaled when she saw that no one else seems to GAF about "sharing" a birthday. |