If you decided against having 3 when your kids were little, are you still happy with that choice now

[Anonymous]

Mine are 9 and 6. I sometimes get a twinge of regret that we don't have a 3rd, but I'm happy we're done with diapers and naps.

[Anonymous]

I wanted four, DH barely wanted one, we have two. I am now glad he convinced me to stay with two. We can barely manage all the sports and costs of two teens and their fighting, I can't imagine how much noise 4 would have been. A year ago I thought I was pregnant, and it wasn't a happy moment at all, I was so unhappy just with a possibility, but I am in my 40s now so if I was younger maybe I would have felt differently.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Love my 2. They are now in MS and HS
From friends with 3...moving from "man on man" to "zone" defense as a parenting strategy is more challenging
things in life (restaurant tables, sitting together on public transportation, etc) are set up for groups of 4 but not groups of 5

This

Logistically more inconvenient.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Mine are only 5.5 and 2.5, but I definitely do not long for another child. I don't anticipate that changing.

Why would you respond to this? You're not in the phase of life OP is asked about. You don't have the perspective she's seeking.

I do wish we had had one more. Those early years are tough, but it's amazing to watch the magic unfold as the years go by.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Now that you're out of babyhood/toddlerhood with your kids, are you still happy you stuck with 2 kids instead of having the 3rd? Or, do you wish you'd gone for it and suffered the insanity while they were little? just interested in others' perspectives who are in a different place in their children's' lives than I am.

It varies depending on the day.

I think I am missing having a son. I had an early pregnancy loss that I feel certain was a boy. I see biracial boys of a certain age on the street and see bits of myself and my daughters in their thick curls and golden skin. Those days I regret not having a third.

But then, I have days when I have to read some ridiculous email from my XH or remind him that CS is 8 days past due ("Is it April already? My bad! I'll send a check Monday.") and I realize two is enough.