bicurious in middle school?

[Anonymous]

Same thing at our Arlington MS, but it's really only a girl thing. There's one girly in particular who's gotten very vocal about it -- pronouncements on Instagram constantly (with related photography) and the like. Meanwhile, the couple of girls who seem genuinely gay are "out" to their friends if not their parents, but don't seem to make it a "thing."

My inclination is the ones who are making a big production out of it are seeking attention and are easily swayed by popular media, which IMHO has gone beyond shaming homophobia into actively glamorizing being gay.

[Anonymous]

Not all kids are into whatever the popular crowd is doing. Some don't even care about the popular crowd at all.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It seems that being bicurious and dating both sexes interchangeably is normal for my child's 8th grade peers based on what the parents are saying. We are in FCPS middle school. Do other find this is the norm among the normal popular group of kids in 8th these days? It kind of surprised me but my child does not date at all and maybe I am old and clueless.

*eyeroll*

Kids imitating what's "trendy".

[Anonymous]

Have not seen evidence of this yet, but my 13 year does not have a phone yet. Both my MS and HS kids have told me some of their classmates came out as gay. My HS is a little annoyed by one classmate's flaunting (over the top feminine jesters) and in your face gayness. He otherwise thinks it's not anyone else's business if someone chooses(yes, he believe it's a choice by some) to be gay.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It seems that being bicurious and dating both sexes interchangeably is normal for my child's 8th grade peers based on what the parents are saying. We are in FCPS middle school. Do other find this is the norm among the normal popular group of kids in 8th these days? It kind of surprised me but my child does not date at all and maybe I am old and clueless.

No, at least not according to my kid. Most of the 8th graders are not "dating" anybody of any gender. ("Dating" in quotation marks because it doesn't involve actual dates.)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Have not seen evidence of this yet, but my 13 year does not have a phone yet. Both my MS and HS kids have told me some of their classmates came out as gay. My HS is a little annoyed by one classmate's flaunting (over the top feminine jesters) and in your face gayness. He otherwise thinks it's not anyone else's business if someone chooses(yes, he believe it's a choice by some) to be gay.

It's also not anyone else's business if a boy makes "feminine" gestures and says, "I'm gay! I'm gay!" Consider telling him that?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Have not seen evidence of this yet, but my 13 year does not have a phone yet. Both my MS and HS kids have told me some of their classmates came out as gay. My HS is a little annoyed by one classmate's flaunting (over the top feminine jesters) and in your face gayness. He otherwise thinks it's not anyone else's business if someone chooses(yes, he believe it's a choice by some) to be gay.

It's also not anyone else's business if a boy makes "feminine" gestures and says, "I'm gay! I'm gay!" Consider telling him that?

NP It is if he's obnoxious about it, just like anyone who's obnoxious about any personal characteristics.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Have not seen evidence of this yet, but my 13 year does not have a phone yet. Both my MS and HS kids have told me some of their classmates came out as gay. My HS is a little annoyed by one classmate's flaunting (over the top feminine jesters) and in your face gayness. He otherwise thinks it's not anyone else's business if someone chooses(yes, he believe it's a choice by some) to be gay.

It's also not anyone else's business if a boy makes "feminine" gestures and says, "I'm gay! I'm gay!" Consider telling him that?

NP It is if he's obnoxious about it, just like anyone who's obnoxious about any personal characteristics.

No, it still isn't. My obnoxiousness is not your business, any more than your obnoxiousness is my business.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Have not seen evidence of this yet, but my 13 year does not have a phone yet. Both my MS and HS kids have told me some of their classmates came out as gay. My HS is a little annoyed by one classmate's flaunting (over the top feminine jesters) and in your face gayness. He otherwise thinks it's not anyone else's business if someone chooses(yes, he believe it's a choice by some) to be gay.

That's funny, because I get pretty tired of straight kids "flaunting" their straightness.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Have not seen evidence of this yet, but my 13 year does not have a phone yet. Both my MS and HS kids have told me some of their classmates came out as gay. My HS is a little annoyed by one classmate's flaunting (over the top feminine jesters) and in your face gayness. He otherwise thinks it's not anyone else's business if someone chooses(yes, he believe it's a choice by some) to be gay.

That's funny, because I get pretty tired of straight kids "flaunting" their straightness.

Get over yourself. Straight or gay, anyone would be annoyed with someone constantly in your face saying, 'see me, i'm gay, i'm gay, and i'm special'

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Another reason to go to Catholic school.

+1

Really hoping that this entire thread is a group of trolls with nothing better to do with their time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Have not seen evidence of this yet, but my 13 year does not have a phone yet. Both my MS and HS kids have told me some of their classmates came out as gay. My HS is a little annoyed by one classmate's flaunting (over the top feminine jesters) and in your face gayness. He otherwise thinks it's not anyone else's business if someone chooses(yes, he believe it's a choice by some) to be gay.

That's funny, because I get pretty tired of straight kids "flaunting" their straightness.

Get over yourself. Straight or gay, anyone would be annoyed with someone constantly in your face saying, 'see me, i'm gay, i'm gay, and i'm special'

It's the constantly-in-your-face thing that's annoying, right? Regardless of what they say? For example, "I'm straight, I'm straight" -- that would be annoying too, right?

Another thing that's annoying is when Person A, who is not X, tells Person B, who is X, the right way to be X.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Another reason to go to Catholic school.

If you think that there aren't gay or bi kids at Catholic school -- well, there are.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Another reason to go to Catholic school.

If you think that there aren't gay or bi kids at Catholic school -- well, there are.

+1

(They are all over Instagram.)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Have not seen evidence of this yet, but my 13 year does not have a phone yet. Both my MS and HS kids have told me some of their classmates came out as gay. My HS is a little annoyed by one classmate's flaunting (over the top feminine jesters) and in your face gayness. He otherwise thinks it's not anyone else's business if someone chooses(yes, he believe it's a choice by some) to be gay.

That's funny, because I get pretty tired of straight kids "flaunting" their straightness.

Get over yourself. Straight or gay, anyone would be annoyed with someone constantly in your face saying, 'see me, i'm gay, i'm gay, and i'm special'

You are assuming that is what this child is doing, yes? That he's running around shouting "I'm gay!" in people's faces? Because PP only referred to "over the top feminine jesters [sic]" and "in your face gayness." I'm not even sure what that means. Sounds to me like this kid is just comfortable in his own skin. Good for him. And don't worry - there are plenty of people out there who will "put this kid in his place" if that's what you're after - inevitably he will be called "faggot" and many other awful things, if he has not already.

I grew up in a small town and was petrified that people would find out I was gay. When my parents did find out when I was 17, they told me repeatedly to not "flaunt" it. So many gay kids are told this. Being afraid of getting hate crimes perpetrated against me? Having to go through hoop after hoop to legally marry my wife and adopt my child? Not being protected in a job because of who I married? I carry that with me every day. It's part of me. So I will not just get over myself. See me. I'm gay. My kid has two moms. And I'm scared for him because of people who think like you.