Does your kid know his/her IQ score?

[Anonymous]

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I don't know how he knows the term IQ score but I do remember him last year saying that so and so in class was saying she had a 141 IQ score. He just asked at dinner last night and it just surprised me. He asked if I know his IQ score. I said yes. He asked if I can tell him. I said no.

One of my kids has an IQ score, one does not. The one with the IQ had it done due to a disability. Anyway, that child does NOT know the IQ score. Neither child knows their score on the NNAT or the CoGat either. The reason why is because of what the posted above commented. Even though my kid(s) would promise not to tell anyone, in all likelihood they will share the information at school...not that my kids would even know what the numbers equate to.

[Anonymous]

I think age factors into the deciding. DC is 17 and knows but he also knows all of his scores on his last complete evaluation- the strengths and the weaknesses. He did not know in elementary school. I can't remember when we let him see his evaluation. It was in January of 8th grade- so obviously after that. The previous one was in ES.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP here.
My child is 11. He wanted to know his IQ score. I told him no, not right now. It's not information that will be useful for him.

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Why does your kid even know the term IQ score?

I don't know how he knows the term IQ score but I do remember him last year saying that so and so in class was saying she had a 141 IQ score. He just asked at dinner last night and it just surprised me. He asked if I know his IQ score. I said yes. He asked if I can tell him. I said no.

My DC came home with a similar story in ES. It turned out they were doing an online IQ test on their own.

[Anonymous]

To be clear CogAT and NNAT are not IQ tests.

My kids know that there IQs are very high: one is genius, one is highly gifted and one is gifted. They are all very well adjusted, involved in sports, and have many friends. They don't know the number because they've never asked.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:To be clear CogAT and NNAT are not IQ tests.

My kids know that there IQs are very high: one is genius, one is highly gifted and one is gifted. They are all very well adjusted, involved in sports, and have many friends. They don't know the number because they've never asked.

Why on earth would you tell your kids that their IQs are "very high?" Also, it is "their."

[Anonymous]

Sorry about the typo.

Why? Why not! They should know that they are extremely smart and have extreme potential to do great things for humanity.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sorry about the typo.

Why? Why not! They should know that they are extremely smart and have extreme potential to do great things for humanity.

Genius IQ does not mean one is destined for greatness. Hard work is still required. I knew my IQ at 12. I believed that, as someone with a 145 IQ, school work should be optional. Net result was a 7th grade where I brought home a report card with 3D's and an F. I did not develop the work ethic required for real success until college.

(I did better in HS than MS; did better in college than HS; did better in grad school than college).

I got the concepts right off the bat, but would make careless mistakes which were compounded by my learning disability (Dyslexic).

[Anonymous]

Perhaps, but my DC with genius IQ is A honor roll, the other highly gifted is almost all 4s, with one 3. The gifted DC is 2E with low processing and add inattentive with an equal amount of 4s and 3s.

FWIW, my DC with genius numbers is over 150.

Lazy is not an option.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Perhaps, but my DC with genius IQ is A honor roll, the other highly gifted is almost all 4s, with one 3. The gifted DC is 2E with low processing and add inattentive with an equal amount of 4s and 3s.

FWIW, my DC with genius numbers is over 150.

Lazy is not an option.

Regardless, I find it shameful that you shared this with CHILDREN. Do as you wish, but I see no good coming of it. The effort should be praised. One of my kids is the "smartest" one in our family and I would never, ever want this child to know it (as a child.) Also, I highly doubt you have a kid with "all" 4s and one 3. The report cards cover so many items, that I can't see your kid getting every single grade as a 4. Music? Gym? Effort? Self control?

[Anonymous]

Well, it's true! Believe or not. Facts don't change.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sorry about the typo.

Why? Why not! They should know that they are extremely smart and have extreme potential to do great things for humanity.

Genius IQ does not mean one is destined for greatness. Hard work is still required. I knew my IQ at 12. I believed that, as someone with a 145 IQ, school work should be optional. Net result was a 7th grade where I brought home a report card with 3D's and an F. I did not develop the work ethic required for real success until college.

(I did better in HS than MS; did better in college than HS; did better in grad school than college).

I got the concepts right off the bat, but would make careless mistakes which were compounded by my learning disability (Dyslexic).

OP here.
I told my kids that regardless of what their IQs are, that perseverance, a good work ethic, and being happy with who your are is what matters.
I have 2 kids and there is a 30 point difference between their IQs, one has ADHD.

I agree that Genius IQ does not mean one is destined for greatness. I have family members who were geniuses:
My dad- hard worker and achieved the highest level recognition in his profession but was so completely unhappy with his life.
My oldest brother- didn't finish high school
My other brother- can pretty much ace any test, never studied in school, haven't achieved much.
My uncle- achieved a heck of a lot and was debilitated by mental illness

[Anonymous]

Yep ^^ high IQ can be at least as much a curse as a gift. I have a cousin who was told he was brilliant by his mother -- off the charts IQ, best schools yada, yada --left top-ranked college before graduation, was never able to really hold down a job. Now stays home to care for his autistic son. I think he's found a measure of happiness, but certainly not the kind of success that would impress PP Mom of 3 with high IQs in home where "lazy" isn't an option. Good luck with that, btw. As much as parents seem to hate it -- and I know I do -- sometimes, for teens in particular, lazy is the only option.

[Anonymous]

And I come from a family of high IQs, and all of us are well-adjusted adults with high HHI, happy families, and no mental illness.

[Anonymous]

No. He has never asked. If he did, I would tell him. But I would be surprised if he asked. I don't think he's all that interested.

[Anonymous]

I remember when my mom let me read the testing report for the elementary gifted program. My mom thought that the lady was biased against my sister and I for some reason since my report basically said I was definitely gifted but also kind of a bitch. Honestly? That lady was totally right. It's probably good I didn't see it until high school.

As an adult, I have used my giftedness to hold a completely normal job that anyone could do, I just do it faster than most people and use my extra time to do whatever I want.