Men that got cheated on

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My dh's exwife cheated on him. No kids. He found out and ended the marriage. Problem is that he did no therapy to uncover what his role in the demise of the marriage was

Um, victim blame much?

Anonymous wrote: He plays the victim really well

HE WAS THE VICTIM, YOU STUPID BITCH.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My dh's exwife cheated on him. No kids. He found out and ended the marriage. Problem is that he did no therapy to uncover what his role in the demise of the marriage was (there were lots of other problems and he says the cheating gave him the excuse he needed to end it). We married a few years later and 15 years and two kids later I almost walked out on him. He plays the victim really well and does everything to protect his own feelings, including emotionally abandoning me. The last few years have been awful. We went to couples counseling for a solid year and while I also went to individual counseling he refused to go. Things have changed just enough for me to stay because of young kids, but I do not feel cherished or adored, even if he says he feels both. He may feel it but it is more important to protect his feelings than to let them out and really connect. I have asked repeatedly for him to tell me what I did wrong and how I've hurt him so that I can be a better spouse but I have yet to get an answer.

Things were not like this when we married. We were madly in love. The whole thing is depressing.

OMG, who would not want to walk out on you? You sound way to high-maintenance for a sane person to deal with. Honestly, I admire men for even attempting to deal with crazies like you

[Anonymous]

PP must be a man who has been cheated on before.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:PP must be a man who has been cheated on before.

No, but I find the general female attitude towards men who get cheated on (scorn, contempt) disgusting, as well as her particular attitude that he is to blame and really he should shut up and focus on what she wants.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:PP must be a man who has been cheated on before.

No, but I find the general female attitude towards men who get cheated on (scorn, contempt) disgusting, as well as her particular attitude that he is to blame and really he should shut up and focus on what she wants.

It is rather simple. If a man gets cheated on, it's his own damn fault. If a woman gets cheated on, it that OW bitch who must die.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:PP must be a man who has been cheated on before.

No, but I find the general female attitude towards men who get cheated on (scorn, contempt) disgusting, as well as her particular attitude that he is to blame and really he should shut up and focus on what she wants.

It is rather simple. If a man gets cheated on, it's his own damn fault. If a woman gets cheated on, it that OW bitch who must die.

Please you both missed the part of the PP where the DH admitted there had been problems in his previous marriage leading up to the cheating. But you conveniently left that out of you obnoxious analysis.

[Anonymous]

Wife cheated on me after 25 years. That was 7 years ago now, and she still has trust issues to this day.

I cannot divorce her because of a chronic illness she has had over the past 5 years. In nearly every social circle, I would appear at fault, even though I have remained loyal and faithful for over 32 years.

IMHO there are more women cheaters these days than men. Especially through women's mid-life crisis age. There is a certain attitude of entitlement at this age. And many of these "girls-night-outs" do not end with just girls.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This thread is for men. Stop stepping on men's voices.

I love you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:i predict a short thread. It just doesn't happen very often.
Women just aren't that interested or motivate for sex.

IMO, it will be a short thread, because men don't tend to whine about this as much. As far as cheating, I'm pretty sure women are on par with men. Both genders are human after all.

Yep it's about equal. Men are expected to keep their woman happy. If she cheats, it's his fault. Maybe if he had bought her more stuff or did more domestic work, she would not have had the affair.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:PP must be a man who has been cheated on before.

No, but I find the general female attitude towards men who get cheated on (scorn, contempt) disgusting, as well as her particular attitude that he is to blame and really he should shut up and focus on what she wants.

It is rather simple. If a man gets cheated on, it's his own damn fault. If a woman gets cheated on, it that OW bitch who must die.

Please you both missed the part of the PP where the DH admitted there had been problems in his previous marriage leading up to the cheating. But you conveniently left that out of you obnoxious analysis.

OMG, what is so obnoxious about the "analyses"? How does "there had been problems" indicate DH's fault? Why are you so quick to jump to an assumption about who PP is?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What did you do? Did you stay with her or divorce? Kids or no? How long married? What would you do differently?

Married 10 years, 2 young kids, she cheated. Wanted to work it out and went to therapist. Wouldn't stop relationship and separated.
It has has taken a long time get over it. I wish I had never married her and had kids with such a lame POS.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:i predict a short thread. It just doesn't happen very often.
Women just aren't that interested or motivate for sex.

Bullshit ..women just dont get caught like men.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wife cheated on me after 25 years. That was 7 years ago now, and she still has trust issues to this day.

I cannot divorce her because of a chronic illness she has had over the past 5 years. In nearly every social circle, I would appear at fault, even though I have remained loyal and faithful for over 32 years.

IMHO there are more women cheaters these days than men. Especially through women's mid-life crisis age. There is a certain attitude of entitlement at this age. And many of these "girls-night-outs" do not end with just girls.

I would have divorced her, who cares after that about her chronic illness. Except you might have to pay alimony until she remarries since she could be viewed as disabled. Is that why you stayed?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Women cheat for life love and relationship.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
OMG, what is so obnoxious about the "analyses"? How does "there had been problems" indicate DH's fault? Why are you so quick to jump to an assumption about who PP is?

Also, this is PP 8:21's obnoxious, self-serving version of events, which is of doubtful veracity given the determined effort to shift all blame onto her DH.