Grandparents involvement

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My mom just says, "It's up to you," in that annoying guilt-trippy way that she did when we disagreed on a shirt I wanted to buy in 8th grade.

Don't worry, I know I need therapy.

Ugh, I totally get you! My skin crawls whenever I hear 'it's up to you' because of the several years my mom tried to subtly manipulate, guilt trip me and act passive-agressive while saying it. I also need therapy, badly.

[Anonymous]

^^^if your mother can still get under your skin this much perhaps you do need therapy. Just a thought...

[Anonymous]

Yep, both my parents and ILs do this all of the time. Agree with previous posters that what works is a smile and a "thanks for the feedback"-type of response and then do it your way anyway.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:^^^if your mother can still get under your skin this much perhaps you do need therapy. Just a thought...

... Says the person with a normal mother.

Yes, I know I need therapy. SO DOES MY MOTHER!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:^^^if your mother can still get under your skin this much perhaps you do need therapy. Just a thought...

... Says the person with a normal mother.

Yes, I know I need therapy. SO DOES MY MOTHER!

My mother was an extreme hoarder and suffered from multiple mental illnesses. She was anything but normal. You cannot change your mother or force her into therapy. You can only work on your own issues.

[Anonymous]

OP I think the second (applying for citizenship) is maybe more common than the first (getting into the weeds when child has a cold). Whether or not you're overreacting depends on what you're saying in the moment. Agree with PPs about staying cheerful.

As for the citizenship, they might be (wisely) recognizing that life only gets more busy - not less busy - over the years, and you'd be smart to move that up on your To Do list.

[Anonymous]

Not normal. Are grandparents Asian or Indian?

[Anonymous]

My Inlaws and parents always do this. If my son or daughter are exhausted or generally grumpy and they're not smiling while sitting silently eating kale, then they try to "parent" my kids all the time. My rockstar kids totally ignores them and they give up eventually.

[Anonymous]

^^^your kids are took stars because they ignore an adult? Wow. That is some kind of messed up parental pride.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:^^^your kids are took stars because they ignore an adult? Wow. That is some kind of messed up parental pride.

Fuck off PP!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:^^^your kids are took stars because they ignore an adult? Wow. That is some kind of messed up parental pride.

Fuck off PP!

You are seriously messed up and it appears well on your way to padding your pathology on to your children. Get a grip on your anger and get some help.