Teen afraid to come out to me and her father

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Isn't the lesbian thing a "thing" right now?[/quote
Yes, it's a brand new thing!! All the kids are doing it.

[Anonymous]

She might not be certain. I never involved my parents in my romantic life until it was very very serious.

Also kids lie to their friends. I had a friend who used to tell me about her ocd but it turned out to be a lie. She was just really interested in it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Isn't the lesbian thing a "thing" right now?

It seems to be. 75% of the teen girls in NW DC describe themselves as "bisexual".

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think you should give her time to come to you on her own. Maybe make a comment like "I heard that (x celebrity name) came out recently. Isn't that amazing? I'm so happy for them. It must be such a relief to get that off your chest and start anew, beautiful life" or something. I think she will get the hint, people who are waiting to come out are usually hanging on every word, waiting for some indication.

If you let her know you read her texts, I think she could feel her privacy was invaded, and it would also kind of rob her of the opportunity to process this very important event in a gay person's life

And btw, I speak from experience! Good luck!

I agree. Sounds like a plan OP

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Isn't the lesbian thing a "thing" right now?

It seems to be. 75% of the teen girls in NW DC describe themselves as "bisexual".

You pulled that number out of your ass, but even if you hadn't, it's probably because they are. Kinsey. Learn something. Also, bisexual and lesbian are different things.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She might not be certain. I never involved my parents in my romantic life until it was very very serious.

Also kids lie to their friends. I had a friend who used to tell me about her ocd but it turned out to be a lie. She was just really interested in it.

OP here. Sexuality is fluid, IMO. I honestly have no preference for her sexuality, but I do know that what she thinks now may not be what she thinks later. I'm not saying that it's a phase. I believe sexuality exists on a spectrum. Where she falls on that spectrum may look different to her as she gets older and more aware.

[Anonymous]

OP, I agree that I think you sit tight and wait for her to come to you. Just keep loving her and being supportive.

[Anonymous]

OP, you're awesome! I agree with PP who suggests letting her "write her own" coming out story. But if I were you I would talk to my daughter about my dating history. If you've told her about boyfriends previously, now you can tell her about girlfriends.