WWYD - small inheritance?

Anonymous

Does your dad plan to mention it?
Anonymous
Absolutely keep it. Do you want to disclose it or not to your siblings, it is a different issue.
Anonymous
$500 to each sibling. When my uncle left his sister $50,000 she have my mom and two brothers $2000 a piece. Very nice of her.
Anonymous
gave not have
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I might pay for a trip that we would take together. But I wouldn't just cut a check.


This.

Money is the root of all evil. It has taken 15 years to even begin to heal a rift between me and another relative over my receiving a token inheritance while she received nothing.


The LOVE of money is the root of all evil. Not money itself.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Does your dad plan to mention it?

How does dad know? Lawyer should have disclosed nothing.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:I might pay for a trip that we would take together. But I wouldn't just cut a check.


This is what I would do
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Does your dad plan to mention it?

How does dad know? Lawyer should have disclosed nothing.


It's in op's original post. She told her dad.
Anonymous
Just keep it and don't mention it. They didn't have any relationship with her, and it's not a lot of money. I do like the idea of taking a family trip, but it sounds like you could use the money for something else.

I can totally see splitting it in other circumstances, like if a bigotted relative cut someone out of the will for being gay or something like that. But that's not the case here.
Anonymous
Well, too late to take the route of not telling anyone - but my vote have been not to say anything, because that feels like rubbing in their face, but I agree with the others that it was your aunt's call on what to do and if no one else could be bothered to maintain a relationship with her, then what other outcome could they expect?

I found out recently that I'm the only one of my siblings who's bothering to keep in touch with my grandma, which I think is absolutely ridiculous considering all she did for us growing up - and she's never, ever done anything mean spirited towards any of us. In my family, the inheritance probably won't be affected but it kinda bugs me that people who won't even return 85 yo grandma's calls are going to get cash for what? Their ingratitude.
Anonymous
I would have never disclosed the amount to anyone. That way you could share a small amount with each if you wanted. Of course you shouldn't feel obligated if your siblings chose not to have a relationship with her but if life situations prevented them from having a closer relationship (busy with school, kids, too young to know her, etc) than I would consider sharing.
Anonymous
I feel like if she wanted to give money to those people she could have. She gave it to you. It's yours. Why are you even feeling guilty about this?
Anonymous
Should keep that info to yourself. Your siblings won't be told unless now your dad tells them. Yes it was given to you, nothing to do with the siblings.
Anonymous
Should keep that info to yourself. Your siblings won't be told unless now your dad tells them. Yes it was given to you, nothing to do with the siblings.
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