Is this ok to suggest to the coach (5th grade rec basketball)

[MikeL]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No. It's really not OK. Not your place. At all.

Yes. It's okay to say to the coach that everyone can shoot and add points to the game - from the foul lane or from the field.

The coach knows this.

Trust me. If you start insisting such and such a player do such and such, the coach will smile politely but write you off as one of "those" parents. If you know about the sport and wish to coach it, step up. Don't second-guess from the stands. That goes for referees, too.

+1000

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:on DS's team there's this less athletic kid who appears to have a pretty good shooting ability (in practice shoot around) but has never had a chance to take even one shot so far this season according to the mom.

the only way i could think of for the coach to guarantee the kid a shot in a game would be the free throw granted after a technical foul (?) on the other team where any player on the court could take the free throw...

so my question is, is this something i could mention to the coach that if such occasion arises please send this kid to the line? i believe all coaches almost always send the best free throw shooters to do this but might it be ok since we're talking about kiddie rec ball, plus it's not like the kid can't shoot...

No. You are not the coach. Just cheer for the kids. Don't say anything during, before or after the game. Keep your mouth shut.

[Anonymous]

Are there a lot of technical fouls in 5th grade rec basketball? I'm going to say no. Unless one of the couches get out of line, which is not good.

Stay out of it. If you'd like to help, ask the coach if they need extra hands at practices. I've coached youth sports and you could almost ALWAYS use an extra set of hands. But only if you are willing to do what's asked and not try to take over...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Are there a lot of technical fouls in 5th grade rec basketball? I'm going to say no. Unless one of the couches get out of line, which is not good.

Stay out of it. If you'd like to help, ask the coach if they need extra hands at practices. I've coached youth sports and you could almost ALWAYS use an extra set of hands. But only if you are willing to do what's asked and not try to take over...

Er, coaches. Not couches. That'd be weird.

[Anonymous]

as a former coach but still parent to a player who had this situation arise, they need to recognize that all the kids aren't there to make it to the next level and it is about fun and the coach needs to check his ego at the door.

Perfect example of this. last weekend my kids team which is average was down in the first quarter with the "starters" in against the other teams non starters. In the second, the non starters on our team against the starters on the other team and they pull ahead. The one guy on the team who has never scored- scored a few baskets and it got them going. In the forth quarter with a 6 point lead he pulls out the non starters who built the lead to put in the "starters" and they end up losing the game.

Any and all confidence the non starters built up in themselves was gone, the kid who scored his first baskets -the excitement was gone because of the ego of the coach to try to win the game but in the end it cost them a lot more.

it sounds like your kids coach is in coaching for the wrong reasons.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:as a former coach but still parent to a player who had this situation arise, they need to recognize that all the kids aren't there to make it to the next level and it is about fun and the coach needs to check his ego at the door.

Perfect example of this. last weekend my kids team which is average was down in the first quarter with the "starters" in against the other teams non starters. In the second, the non starters on our team against the starters on the other team and they pull ahead. The one guy on the team who has never scored- scored a few baskets and it got them going. In the forth quarter with a 6 point lead he pulls out the non starters who built the lead to put in the "starters" and they end up losing the game.

Any and all confidence the non starters built up in themselves was gone, the kid who scored his first baskets -the excitement was gone because of the ego of the coach to try to win the game but in the end it cost them a lot more.

it sounds like your kids coach is in coaching for the wrong reasons.

this Is my post and I also wan tot add, to be a REC coach you have to understand everyone on the team. If he is being the ego maniac, there is probably turnover on the team. Turnover on a rec team is the first sign of a bad coach. most rec teams have been together for years with little turnover and I am willing to bet this team has a turnover rate of 2-3 players each year.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Ugh. And this is rec ball? Does the kid manage to get open but no one passes the ball to him. As a coach, I have a personal goal to have every kid on my team score a least once...especially if they are young and just starting out. that can really change a kid's confidence. Hopefully it is an oversight by the coach. I prefer building the team aspect among players as that seems to go a long way ... even off the court. I hope it isn't a matter of only helping out kids who might move into AAU.

As a parent I'd probably start cheering for that kid especially when he's open.

My child's coach is like this, and I really appreciate it! He tells the kids--all of them--to take shots when they have the opportunity (and personally talks to the kids who might need a little extra encouragement). I can see when he's working hard to get the ball to a player who doesn't get it as often. Thanks, coach!

OP, I'd point out that your idea of free throw opportunity might be very stressful, since all eyes would be on him[i][u]. Instead, I'd encourage your child to look for that other kid when he's open. And you can cheer for him to take a shot if he's in position.

THIS! I was that kid in 6th grade. The one time I had to take a free throw I almost ended in tears. (I didn't make the basket, but I didn't cry either, so I considered it a success.)
OP, it's sweet of you to think about this, but really let the kid, his parents, and the coach handle it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Ugh. And this is rec ball? Does the kid manage to get open but no one passes the ball to him. As a coach, I have a personal goal to have every kid on my team score a least once...especially if they are young and just starting out. that can really change a kid's confidence. Hopefully it is an oversight by the coach. I prefer building the team aspect among players as that seems to go a long way ... even off the court. I hope it isn't a matter of only helping out kids who might move into AAU.

As a parent I'd probably start cheering for that kid especially when he's open.

My child's coach is like this, and I really appreciate it! He tells the kids--all of them--to take shots when they have the opportunity (and personally talks to the kids who might need a little extra encouragement). I can see when he's working hard to get the ball to a player who doesn't get it as often. Thanks, coach!

OP, I'd point out that your idea of free throw opportunity might be very stressful, since all eyes would be on him. Instead, I'd encourage your child to look for that other kid when he's open. And you can cheer for him to take a shot if he's in position.

THIS! I was that kid in 6th grade. The one time I had to take a free throw I almost ended in tears. (I didn't make the basket, but I didn't cry either, so I considered it a success.)
OP, it's sweet of you to think about this, but really let the kid, his parents, and the coach handle it.

cool advice but nobody is handling it. the kid is with the same team/coaches for 2 years/3 seasons, yet nothing has changed.