Being Counseled Out?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you are on FA they will cut it.

People should stop writing garbage like this. Who do you think runs these schools? Cruella de Vil or Mr. Creakle?

With schools that start in pre-K or the early elementary years, sometimes a child starts and it becomes clear by middle school, say, that they have academic or emotional or behavioral needs that cannot be met by the current school. It's not an easy thing for schools or families but most people will tell you years later that they were very glad their child switched to a school that worked better for the child's needs.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Our neighbor attended the same private school that our children attended. They said during the parent/teacher conference the teachers said their son was not being invited back. The parents pointed out the large donation from the maternal grandmother (names were different) and the son's contract was extended!

Oh, this is such BS. Students get counseled out of private schools, yes. It's not something that a classroom teacher would spring on a parent during a conference. I'm sorry-- simply would not happen.

[Anonymous]

Does STA council out the boys who can't keep up with the academics? Everyone always says the boys who come from Beauvoir are not prepared well enough for the rigors of STA, so do these boys ever get counseled out?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Almost weekly calls from the teacher, a request to get a pyschoeducational evaluation, frequent meetings with the head, followed by a couple meetings with the principal.

This is correct, in our experience. Lots of teacher contact in which they keep telling you that your kid is not succeeding and asking you to tell them how to make them succeed.

[Anonymous]

Why would you want to stay in a school that can't handle or teach your child in the best possible way? Find a school that is eager to have him/her for who they are...then give them $ if you can.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Our neighbor attended the same private school that our children attended. They said during the parent/teacher conference the teachers said their son was not being invited back. The parents pointed out the large donation from the maternal grandmother (names were different) and the son's contract was extended!

I call bs on this post.

everyone knows it is not the teacher that delivers this message and certainly not at a parent teacher conference.

stop trolling

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Does STA council out the boys who can't keep up with the academics? Everyone always says the boys who come from Beauvoir are not prepared well enough for the rigors of STA, so do these boys ever get counseled out?

go away troll

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Does STA council out the boys who can't keep up with the academics? Everyone always says the boys who come from Beauvoir are not prepared well enough for the rigors of STA, so do these boys ever get counseled out?

I've heard that STA counsels out boys whose parents don't know the difference between "council" and "counsel."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Our neighbor attended the same private school that our children attended. They said during the parent/teacher conference the teachers said their son was not being invited back. The parents pointed out the large donation from the maternal grandmother (names were different) and the son's contract was extended!

If the donation was already made, why wouldn't the school just say " yes, we really appreciated that donation. Your kid needs to leave."
The kid's grandmother was not the first, the only or the last large donor the school will have and they know that,

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you are on FA they will cut it.

People should stop writing garbage like this. Who do you think runs these schools? Cruella de Vil or Mr. Creakle?

With schools that start in pre-K or the early elementary years, sometimes a child starts and it becomes clear by middle school, say, that they have academic or emotional or behavioral needs that cannot be met by the current school. It's not an easy thing for schools or families but most people will tell you years later that they were very glad their child switched to a school that worked better for the child's needs.

Ok, sorry. This is what they told me. Very glad this is not the case.

[Anonymous]

Independent schools rely on donations. Not sure why you don't think they will keep a student that should be expelled for behavior or is not a good fit academically if the family makes a large donation. It happens everyday all over this country.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Independent schools rely on donations. Not sure why you don't think they will keep a student that should be expelled for behavior or is not a good fit academically if the family makes a large donation. It happens everyday all over this country.

This is true. I've taught in several independents, and each one had a handful of students with severe behavior or academic issues that the school could not handle or accommodate, but the students were retained because their parents made large donations and/or were "important parents" (one head, upon entering a meeting in which teachers were discussing a student's severe behavior issues, asked "Is this an important parent?"). Several of the parents did not want their child to be "labeled", so refused to have their child screened/diagnosed, and therefore treated, and the schools bent over backwards to keep these "important" parents happy. These students were assured passing grades, and their behavior issues were permitted to continue unabated. If you can pay enough, any problem will go away.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Our neighbor attended the same private school that our children attended. They said during the parent/teacher conference the teachers said their son was not being invited back. The parents pointed out the large donation from the maternal grandmother (names were different) and the son's contract was extended!

I call bs on this post.

everyone knows it is not the teacher that delivers this message and certainly not at a parent teacher conference.

stop trolling

You know nothing. Nice to know that you think you are the expert. It happened.

[Anonymous]

I am sorry. What was the question and how do these outlier stories, if true, have any informative value to the average person in this situation?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Our neighbor attended the same private school that our children attended. They said during the parent/teacher conference the teachers said their son was not being invited back. The parents pointed out the large donation from the maternal grandmother (names were different) and the son's contract was extended!

I call bs on this post.

everyone knows it is not the teacher that delivers this message and certainly not at a parent teacher conference.

stop trolling

You know nothing. Nice to know that you think you are the expert. It happened.

NP here and I don't believe it either. For one thing, the timing is off. Schools have parent teacher conferences in the fall, way before such decisions are made, and sometimes in the spring, after contracts are/are not extended. Second, parents of a kid having trouble would know it, long before they were told not to come back; if the donation was protection, it would have come up long before this ultimate conversation. Third, when a kid is at the point of being asked not to come back, conferences involve way more than the teacher: depending on issue and school, the learning specialist, counselor, division head would all be there.