Get back together with ex husband?
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Anonymous
| Did you all do counseling before the divorce? If you're getting along now it's probably because you're talking and the communication is better than before. |
Anonymous
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What you are experiencing is that rememberance that your spouse IS an awesome person. As long as you don't have to personally live with and deal with his flaws, foibles, and issues. Everyone marries the person they marry because at one point, they think they are wonderful and amazing. Then years of living with that person can reveal that they are that person, their wonderful and amazing characteristics just don't work well with your personality.
You can appreciate from a distance that your spouse is a great person. Money and house work and whatever else isn't an issue when you aren't married and don't live together. Those things would once again BE an issue when or if you were again together and had to tackle them as a team once more. I think it's a great strength for people who can say "My spouse and I are both great people, we recognize that, we're just not great TOGETHER." No hate, no animosity, but no delusions either. |
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My parents divorced for very good reasons, when I was about 9 years old. They remarried about a year later and stayed together until they died, when I was in my forties. They each changed something, left something behind with the divorce. My father stopped traveling so much, for example. It was meaningful stuff. It wasn't just that they missed each other. It wasn't true love that won out. They each took steps to reconcile. It worked for them. Does it seem the same for you? Or, is it just that living apart has meant you don't have to confront the problem areas? |
Anonymous
| A good friend growing up had this sort of happen. Her parents fought, got divorced, and after 2-3 years apart started dating again and go remarried. They've been married since (that was about 15 years ago). |
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