Parents suddenly want to go to church

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:http://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/503942.page#7677581

Older parents do this it seems - a trend unfortunately.

Not sure why this is unfortunate.
Good for them. They want to deepen their faith and meet a community of other believers.
Nothing wrong with that, OP. I think you are reading too much into this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:http://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/503942.page#7677581

Older parents do this it seems - a trend unfortunately.

Not sure why this is unfortunate.
Good for them. They want to deepen their faith and meet a community of other believers.
Nothing wrong with that, OP. I think you are reading too much into this.

Maybe OP fears Mom and Dad will give a lot to the church, thus cutting down on inheritance money.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I was brought up in the church, but I don't think my parents ever went after I left for college. Now, they tell me they want to start going again, and that concerns me. I feel like this is something people do when they think they are about to die. They are early 60's, but my mom's parents died young. Are my fears unfounded? I asked why they wanted to start now and they said they just felt like it.

(FYI, I'm fairly devout, so this isn't about them going to church, just concerned about the reasons to start going now after all the years of not going)

This makes no sense, OP. You claim that you are "fairly devout" yourself, and yet you can't understand what people get out going to church on a regular basis?

Nice try, Troll.

Seriously? I've always gone to church. They haven't. You can't see the difference in our situations?

No, frankly, I can't. If you seriously, really have "always gone to church," then -- presumably -- it means something to you. It would then logically follow that you would be happy that your parents -- the people in the world who loved you first -- are also finding their way to God, through church. I think the PP who suggested you may be worried about your inheritance is on to something.

The plot thickens.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I was brought up in the church, but I don't think my parents ever went after I left for college. Now, they tell me they want to start going again, and that concerns me. I feel like this is something people do when they think they are about to die. They are early 60's, but my mom's parents died young. Are my fears unfounded? I asked why they wanted to start now and they said they just felt like it.

(FYI, I'm fairly devout, so this isn't about them going to church, just concerned about the reasons to start going now after all the years of not going)

This makes no sense, OP. You claim that you are "fairly devout" yourself, and yet you can't understand what people get out going to church on a regular basis?

Nice try, Troll.

Seriously? I've always gone to church. They haven't. You can't see the difference in our situations?

No, frankly, I can't. If you seriously, really have "always gone to church," then -- presumably -- it means something to you. It would then logically follow that you would be happy that your parents -- the people in the world who loved you first -- are also finding their way to God, through church. I think the PP who suggested you may be worried about your inheritance is on to something.

The plot thickens.

Ok, let me spell it out for you.

I am seriously afraid my mom (who is always at the doctor for something) got some bad health news and is trying to "get right with God" before she passes away. I would be very happy if they found their way back, but not so happy about a huge reminder that my parents are mortal beings.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I was brought up in the church, but I don't think my parents ever went after I left for college. Now, they tell me they want to start going again, and that concerns me. I feel like this is something people do when they think they are about to die. They are early 60's, but my mom's parents died young. Are my fears unfounded? I asked why they wanted to start now and they said they just felt like it.

(FYI, I'm fairly devout, so this isn't about them going to church, just concerned about the reasons to start going now after all the years of not going)

This makes no sense, OP. You claim that you are "fairly devout" yourself, and yet you can't understand what people get out going to church on a regular basis?

Nice try, Troll.

Seriously? I've always gone to church. They haven't. You can't see the difference in our situations?

No, frankly, I can't. If you seriously, really have "always gone to church," then -- presumably -- it means something to you. It would then logically follow that you would be happy that your parents -- the people in the world who loved you first -- are also finding their way to God, through church. I think the PP who suggested you may be worried about your inheritance is on to something.

The plot thickens.

Ok, let me spell it out for you.

I am seriously afraid my mom (who is always at the doctor for something) got some bad health news and is trying to "get right with God" before she passes away. I would be very happy if they found their way back, but not so happy about a huge reminder that my parents are mortal beings.

So if they stay away from church, YOU can continue down the blind denial path that your parents are going to live forever? Please think that through OP. Rationally, it makes no sense.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I was brought up in the church, but I don't think my parents ever went after I left for college. Now, they tell me they want to start going again, and that concerns me. I feel like this is something people do when they think they are about to die. They are early 60's, but my mom's parents died young. Are my fears unfounded? I asked why they wanted to start now and they said they just felt like it.

(FYI, I'm fairly devout, so this isn't about them going to church, just concerned about the reasons to start going now after all the years of not going)

This makes no sense, OP. You claim that you are "fairly devout" yourself, and yet you can't understand what people get out going to church on a regular basis?

Nice try, Troll.

Seriously? I've always gone to church. They haven't. You can't see the difference in our situations?

No, frankly, I can't. If you seriously, really have "always gone to church," then -- presumably -- it means something to you. It would then logically follow that you would be happy that your parents -- the people in the world who loved you first -- are also finding their way to God, through church. I think the PP who suggested you may be worried about your inheritance is on to something.

The plot thickens.

Ok, let me spell it out for you.

I am seriously afraid my mom (who is always at the doctor for something) got some bad health news and is trying to "get right with God" before she passes away. I would be very happy if they found their way back, but not so happy about a huge reminder that my parents are mortal beings.

Ask you Mom if she's ill. If so, make sure she is getting proper care, so your mind can be at ease in that regard. If going to church makes her feel better, with or without a mortal illness, and isn't filling her head with crazy ideas or taking all your inheritance, please just leave her alone and find a way deal with your own fears without disrupting your mother's life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I was brought up in the church, but I don't think my parents ever went after I left for college. Now, they tell me they want to start going again, and that concerns me. I feel like this is something people do when they think they are about to die. They are early 60's, but my mom's parents died young. Are my fears unfounded? I asked why they wanted to start now and they said they just felt like it.

(FYI, I'm fairly devout, so this isn't about them going to church, just concerned about the reasons to start going now after all the years of not going)

This makes no sense, OP. You claim that you are "fairly devout" yourself, and yet you can't understand what people get out going to church on a regular basis?

Nice try, Troll.

Seriously? I've always gone to church. They haven't. You can't see the difference in our situations?

No, frankly, I can't. If you seriously, really have "always gone to church," then -- presumably -- it means something to you. It would then logically follow that you would be happy that your parents -- the people in the world who loved you first -- are also finding their way to God, through church. I think the PP who suggested you may be worried about your inheritance is on to something.

The plot thickens.

Ok, let me spell it out for you.

I am seriously afraid my mom (who is always at the doctor for something) got some bad health news and is trying to "get right with God" before she passes away. I would be very happy if they found their way back, but not so happy about a huge reminder that my parents are mortal beings.

If you are out of touch with your own and your parents morality, reminders are good. Are you looking for advice to go into denial? Ultimately it won't work. We're all mortal. Some religions offer the hope of immortality, which means (if religion is right) you'll get to see your parents in heaven - forever, once you're all dead. But there's no way of knowing that until you're dead, so it's a good idea to appreciate your parents while they are here.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I was brought up in the church, but I don't think my parents ever went after I left for college. Now, they tell me they want to start going again, and that concerns me. I feel like this is something people do when they think they are about to die. They are early 60's, but my mom's parents died young. Are my fears unfounded? I asked why they wanted to start now and they said they just felt like it.

(FYI, I'm fairly devout, so this isn't about them going to church, just concerned about the reasons to start going now after all the years of not going)

This makes no sense, OP. You claim that you are "fairly devout" yourself, and yet you can't understand what people get out going to church on a regular basis?

Nice try, Troll.

Seriously? I've always gone to church. They haven't. You can't see the difference in our situations?

No, frankly, I can't. If you seriously, really have "always gone to church," then -- presumably -- it means something to you. It would then logically follow that you would be happy that your parents -- the people in the world who loved you first -- are also finding their way to God, through church. I think the PP who suggested you may be worried about your inheritance is on to something.

The plot thickens.

Ok, let me spell it out for you.

I am seriously afraid my mom (who is always at the doctor for something) got some bad health news and is trying to "get right with God" before she passes away. I would be very happy if they found their way back, but not so happy about a huge reminder that my parents are mortal beings.

Ask you Mom if she's ill. If so, make sure she is getting proper care, so your mind can be at ease in that regard. If going to church makes her feel better, with or without a mortal illness, and isn't filling her head with crazy ideas or taking all your inheritance, please just leave her alone and find a way deal with your own fears without disrupting your mother's life.

I'm disrupting her life by asking a question on DCUM? Mmmm-kay.

[Anonymous]

Unless there are other cognitive issues that have cropped up, I would chalk it up to boredom and a nostalgic desire to connect with their religious roots. Which is perfectly fine. It's not a cult, right?

[Anonymous]

I've seen cancer patients do this.

[Anonymous]

My MIL started going again after retiring. My grandparents started going in their 70s. I think it's about simply more free time to participate in church activities, volunteering, etc.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My MIL started going again after retiring. My grandparents started going in their 70s. I think it's about simply more free time to participate in church activities, volunteering, etc.

Ah, good point. She hasn't worked in a few years, and my dad is slowly dialing back his consulting business.

And no, it's not a cult.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I was brought up in the church, but I don't think my parents ever went after I left for college. Now, they tell me they want to start going again, and that concerns me. I feel like this is something people do when they think they are about to die. They are early 60's, but my mom's parents died young. Are my fears unfounded? I asked why they wanted to start now and they said they just felt like it.

(FYI, I'm fairly devout, so this isn't about them going to church, just concerned about the reasons to start going now after all the years of not going)

This makes no sense, OP. You claim that you are "fairly devout" yourself, and yet you can't understand what people get out going to church on a regular basis?

Nice try, Troll.

Seriously? I've always gone to church. They haven't. You can't see the difference in our situations?

No, frankly, I can't. If you seriously, really have "always gone to church," then -- presumably -- it means something to you. It would then logically follow that you would be happy that your parents -- the people in the world who loved you first -- are also finding their way to God, through church. I think the PP who suggested you may be worried about your inheritance is on to something.

The plot thickens.

Ok, let me spell it out for you.

I am seriously afraid my mom (who is always at the doctor for something) got some bad health news and is trying to "get right with God" before she passes away. I would be very happy if they found their way back, but not so happy about a huge reminder that my parents are mortal beings.

Ask you Mom if she's ill. If so, make sure she is getting proper care, so your mind can be at ease in that regard. If going to church makes her feel better, with or without a mortal illness, and isn't filling her head with crazy ideas or taking all your inheritance, please just leave her alone and find a way deal with your own fears without disrupting your mother's life.

I'm disrupting her life by asking a question on DCUM? Mmmm-kay.

No, you would be disrupting your mother's life if you approached her about your fears without first checking on their validity

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I was brought up in the church, but I don't think my parents ever went after I left for college. Now, they tell me they want to start going again, and that concerns me. I feel like this is something people do when they think they are about to die. They are early 60's, but my mom's parents died young. Are my fears unfounded? I asked why they wanted to start now and they said they just felt like it.

(FYI, I'm fairly devout, so this isn't about them going to church, just concerned about the reasons to start going now after all the years of not going)

This makes no sense, OP. You claim that you are "fairly devout" yourself, and yet you can't understand what people get out going to church on a regular basis?

Nice try, Troll.

Seriously? I've always gone to church. They haven't. You can't see the difference in our situations?

No, frankly, I can't. If you seriously, really have "always gone to church," then -- presumably -- it means something to you. It would then logically follow that you would be happy that your parents -- the people in the world who loved you first -- are also finding their way to God, through church. I think the PP who suggested you may be worried about your inheritance is on to something.

The plot thickens.

Ok, let me spell it out for you.

I am seriously afraid my mom (who is always at the doctor for something) got some bad health news and is trying to "get right with God" before she passes away. I would be very happy if they found their way back, but not so happy about a huge reminder that my parents are mortal beings.

Ask you Mom if she's ill. If so, make sure she is getting proper care, so your mind can be at ease in that regard. If going to church makes her feel better, with or without a mortal illness, and isn't filling her head with crazy ideas or taking all your inheritance, please just leave her alone and find a way deal with your own fears without disrupting your mother's life.

I'm disrupting her life by asking a question on DCUM? Mmmm-kay.

No, you would be disrupting your mother's life if you approached her about your fears without first checking on their validity

Which I haven't done, in case that wasn't clear.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My MIL started going again after retiring. My grandparents started going in their 70s. I think it's about simply more free time to participate in church activities, volunteering, etc.

Ah, good point. She hasn't worked in a few years, and my dad is slowly dialing back his consulting business.

And no, it's not a cult.

Exactly. I posted above about how your parents no longer have Larla's snowboots/soccer game/college applications/endless logistics at the fronts of their minds. So now they can start to think about bigger, more spiritual issues. It sounds refreshing, actually.