My daughter's okay, right?

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Anonymous wrote:My seventh grader called me tonight asking if i could pick her up at the train so she wouldn't have to walk home in the dark, since her mom was bartending. So I rushed to meet her where she got off the train, and on our way to her house stopped at Old Navy. Last time I was helping DD with laundry we saw almost all her t-shirts were too short, so I wanted to look into getting her some new, longer ones.

In general DD's mom and I are on the same page with clothing. DD is naturally fairly conservative so we let her pick whatever she wants. She picked, a tissue-thin black shirt, a grey t-shirt, a black & white flannel shirt, and a grey sweatshirt, then a pair of grey and black fuzzy socks. She seems just as happy as always (which is pretty happy) and even joked about how her color palette is kind of bland. But is she dressing on the outside how she feels on the inside? Or is this just a trend and I don't know that bc she's the only girl her age I know? When I picked her up today she was wearing dark blue jeans and a dark grey sweatshirt with a mint green t-shirt underneath. Her pjs are much more colorful - is it possible she thinks color isn't cool right now?

My DD is in 7th grade in Los Angeles and this is her first year without uniforms. She has gone shopping with her dad (my DH) twice recently (because every time I turn around, she wants to go shopping and I'm sick of going). They have come home with surprisingly conservative things that, btw, look great. Gray, lots of gray, black, grey and black stripes. I think it's about their development--they don't want to be the little girls in pink and purple right now.

Also, a great book OP is Girls will be Girls (on amazon.com) and there is discussion about at this stage, the girls are "camouflaging" which is sort of akin to the cocoon stage of the butterfly. They don't want to stand out while they are getting used to their new bodies, and they will wear whatever their friends wear--it's a stage.

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My daughter dressed like this in 7th and 8th grades. Now she's in college and loves to wear pastels.

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Anonymous wrote:Why would this not be okay? I'm seriously confused.

It's okay. Just a distinct deviation from her former wardrobe which was always MUCH more colorful.

You are an awesome Dad! My daughter too is dressing more in darker colors and I do miss the fun bright colors she used to wear.

I know you were doing just a dash in for a quick trip, but at that age they like to shop at Forever 21 and Hot Topic too.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why would this not be okay? I'm seriously confused.

It's okay. Just a distinct deviation from her former wardrobe which was always MUCH more colorful.

You are an awesome Dad! My daughter too is dressing more in darker colors and I do miss the fun bright colors she used to wear.

I know you were doing just a dash in for a quick trip, but at that age they like to shop at Forever 21 and Hot Topic too.

Thanks. I saw her on Saturday and asked if she needed anything at Forever 21 but she said no.