Sex with my soon to be ex-husband

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This seems like a bad idea.
Buy some sex toys and watch porn.

Sometimes the real dick is soooooo much better.

I can't deny that, but this is not the situation to just go for it. I think OP knows that as well which is why she asked. I can see this getting very complicated.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This seems like a bad idea.
Buy some sex toys and watch porn.

Sometimes the real dick is soooooo much better.

Very true. But in this case it may come back to bite the OP.
OP I think you should start dating/find a fwb.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Nothing wrong with it unless you think he'll bring it up in court. Then it will set your divorce back because sex resets the clock. If it were me I wouldn't risk it.

This.

[Anonymous]

After my ex-boyfriend and I decided to break up and told the kids and everything, we had sex. It was the best ever.

[Anonymous]

How can you be divorcing when you love each other and still want sex???? I don't get this at all.
Probably you should not have sex. Too confusing.

[Anonymous]

^pp again ^^
That was a genuine question not a criticism. If you would rather not answer I understand.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How can you be divorcing when you love each other and still want sex???? I don't get this at all.
Probably you should not have sex. Too confusing.

Not OP, but you can love someone and want to have sex with them and still know they aren't the right life partner for you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Free refills!!

Yes!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My understanding is that even living in the same house sets the clock back. I could be wrong.

That is correct, the clock doesn't start until someone moves out of the residence. The OP needs to realize this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My understanding is that even living in the same house sets the clock back. I could be wrong.

That is correct, the clock doesn't start until someone moves out of the residence. The OP needs to realize this.

Not necessarily, not if both spouses agree on the date of separation. The danger here is she can't control what her husband says if she starts sleeping with him again. Frankly she can't control it either way, but this might make him more likely to go back on their agreement.

[Anonymous]

I mean, since you are two horn dogs living under the same roof, it will happen sooner or later. If he approached you, it doesn't sound like you would run and hide. The opposite in fact.

So since it is inevitable that it will happen, make sure you do so with a closed heart.

It is much easier for a man to sleep with a woman without feeling than for a woman to do so.

If you keep this in mind and keep a healthy perspective on what could happen down the line, then go ahead. Just keep your heart at bay.

But if you feel like doing this will set you months back in progress, find a FWB and go that route.

[Anonymous]

Glad that you guys don't have kid and my advice is not to do it. Get it over with and move on to a new life. I wish and many wish we can do that, but again if it wasn't for the kid line. I am still sucking it up just for my kid till I can't breath, then the final resort is divorce and an arm or leg child support

[Anonymous]

you live together. If you both want to do it, you will do it regardless of what we say.

so the real unanswered question is why are you even getting a divorce?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My understanding is that even living in the same house sets the clock back. I could be wrong.

That is correct, the clock doesn't start until someone moves out of the residence. The OP needs to realize this.

Not necessarily, not if both spouses agree on the date of separation. The danger here is she can't control what her husband says if she starts sleeping with him again. Frankly she can't control it either way, but this might make him more likely to go back on their agreement.

I have been through this, that is how it works. Sorry to bust your bubble.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My understanding is that even living in the same house sets the clock back. I could be wrong.

That is correct, the clock doesn't start until someone moves out of the residence. The OP needs to realize this.

Not necessarily, not if both spouses agree on the date of separation. The danger here is she can't control what her husband says if she starts sleeping with him again. Frankly she can't control it either way, but this might make him more likely to go back on their agreement.

I have been through this, that is how it works. Sorry to bust your bubble.

I know a judge who signed off on a divorce decree dividing up the house because of financial reasons (i.e. H will reside in this bedroom, W in this, shared kitchen etc.). So at the stage of separation, it absolutely can happen but it's harder to prove. You'd have to actually prove it rather than it being presumed because of living arrangements. Having sex though? Huge check for resetting the clock and starting the date of separation over.