Group gifts with siblings - how do you split the cost?

[Anonymous]

Decide on money amount first, decide on gift, split equally. Otherwise, opt out.

[Anonymous]

I sympathize, OP. DH's family is like this, while my family is like yours. It sucks. Anyway, you are not alone.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:One of 4. For a long time my brother and I would basically foot the entire bill. Now we're all on more even footing and split equally. Never had an argument or bad feelings over it. We don't even keep track. Someone different ends up getting the gift each year, and inevitably one or more of us can't rmemeber if we sent a check or not, and whoever bought the gift usually has no idea because they didn't keep track of who paid.

But, we're all really close and have great relationships. Dinners out and meeting for drinks and taking turns picking up the tabs. I could see getting irritated at inequality if you weren't close to the sibs.

DHs family is not close, but claim to be when they need something. Watch out for this, OP.

[Anonymous]

Politely decline to participate in the group gift and give your own gift you chose and pay for.

[Anonymous]

If you make more just pay more. I'm one of three siblings and me and my older sibling make more than the other, so we cover more of the gift. If it's a financial burden on you...say something.