Anyone else worried to ask teacher questions about your child for fear it may alter GBRS?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Who is asking your child questions like, "Why is a dollar bill a rectangular prism and not a rectangle?"

It was her part of her homework. The teacher doesn't need me to tell her how DD answered it because DD handed it in and will be graded on it.

[Anonymous]

Homework isn't "graded" in FCPS. The question isn't for a teacher - it is for you to work with your child on, like manners or anything else you want modified.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The real problem is that this whole process is very anxiety producing for everyone involved. I think that OP is too concerned about minute details. I think her question is over the top. However, I can't blame her because I have been there before. It's so hard to know when to loosen your grip and when you should step in. There is no real guideline for parents. It's compounded by the talk in the neighborhood and you start to feel like you aren't doing enough. It's just so stressful. We all want to do best by our children.

-parent and teacher

I agree with the above post.
We do want the best for our children but the OP is putting her fear of the GBRS ahead of doing what's best for her child.
If OP is concerned about the child's behavior, then the question should be asked, AAP or not, GBRS or not.

When you say that the "whole process" is anxiety producing, are you talking about the AAP process? Yes, it does cause anxiety, but moreso for the folks who are too concerned.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The real problem is that this whole process is very anxiety producing for everyone involved. I think that OP is too concerned about minute details. I think her question is over the top. However, I can't blame her because I have been there before. It's so hard to know when to loosen your grip and when you should step in. There is no real guideline for parents. It's compounded by the talk in the neighborhood and you start to feel like you aren't doing enough. It's just so stressful. We all want to do best by our children.

-parent and teacher

I agree with the above post.
We do want the best for our children but the OP is putting her fear of the GBRS ahead of doing what's best for her child.
If OP is concerned about the child's behavior, then the question should be asked, AAP or not, GBRS or not.

When you say that the "whole process" is anxiety producing, are you talking about the AAP process? Yes, it does cause anxiety, but moreso for the folks who are too concerned.

Yes, I mean the AAP process. I think the first time most people are faced with having to make the decision to apply or not, it is very anxiety producing. It was for me. I was listening to so many of the other parents talking about how they were going to apply, and how gen ed was much worse, etc. I was very conflicted and it took me time to figure out what was really important to me and what was the best fit for my child, when I took away what everyone else thought. Once I did that, my anxiety subsided. But for those who are in the thick of it, facing deadlines, trying to put their packet together, etc., I can understand them being worried.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The real problem is that this whole process is very anxiety producing for everyone involved. I think that OP is too concerned about minute details. I think her question is over the top. However, I can't blame her because I have been there before. It's so hard to know when to loosen your grip and when you should step in. There is no real guideline for parents. It's compounded by the talk in the neighborhood and you start to feel like you aren't doing enough. It's just so stressful. We all want to do best by our children.

-parent and teacher

I agree with the above post.
We do want the best for our children but the OP is putting her fear of the GBRS ahead of doing what's best for her child.
If OP is concerned about the child's behavior, then the question should be asked, AAP or not, GBRS or not.

When you say that the "whole process" is anxiety producing, are you talking about the AAP process? Yes, it does cause anxiety, but moreso for the folks who are too concerned.

Yes, I mean the AAP process. I think the first time most people are faced with having to make the decision to apply or not, it is very anxiety producing. It was for me. I was listening to so many of the other parents talking about how they were going to apply, and how gen ed was much worse, etc. I was very conflicted and it took me time to figure out what was really important to me and what was the best fit for my child, when I took away what everyone else thought. Once I did that, my anxiety subsided. But for those who are in the thick of it, facing deadlines, trying to put their packet together, etc., I can understand them being worried.

I don't remember a shred of anxiety when my kid went to GT years ago. I didn't prepare a packet and didn't do a referral form. Back then it was pretty obvious which kids would go to a center and you didn't have everyone and their Uncle thinking their child's future would be ruined if they didn't get in.

FCPS has really mucked up the whole idea of who "needs" gifted services and hurt the Gen Ed program in the process. I feel sorry for parents now. It's elementary school for goodness sake, but people have convinced them it's do or die. So silly and unnecessary.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The real problem is that this whole process is very anxiety producing for everyone involved. I think that OP is too concerned about minute details. I think her question is over the top. However, I can't blame her because I have been there before. It's so hard to know when to loosen your grip and when you should step in. There is no real guideline for parents. It's compounded by the talk in the neighborhood and you start to feel like you aren't doing enough. It's just so stressful. We all want to do best by our children.

-parent and teacher

I agree with the above post.
We do want the best for our children but the OP is putting her fear of the GBRS ahead of doing what's best for her child.
If OP is concerned about the child's behavior, then the question should be asked, AAP or not, GBRS or not.

When you say that the "whole process" is anxiety producing, are you talking about the AAP process? Yes, it does cause anxiety, but moreso for the folks who are too concerned.

Yes, I mean the AAP process. I think the first time most people are faced with having to make the decision to apply or not, it is very anxiety producing. It was for me. I was listening to so many of the other parents talking about how they were going to apply, and how gen ed was much worse, etc. I was very conflicted and it took me time to figure out what was really important to me and what was the best fit for my child, when I took away what everyone else thought. Once I did that, my anxiety subsided. But for those who are in the thick of it, facing deadlines, trying to put their packet together, etc., I can understand them being worried.

I don't remember a shred of anxiety when my kid went to GT years ago. I didn't prepare a packet and didn't do a referral form. Back then it was pretty obvious which kids would go to a center and you didn't have everyone and their Uncle thinking their child's future would be ruined if they didn't get in.

FCPS has really mucked up the whole idea of who "needs" gifted services and hurt the Gen Ed program in the process. I feel sorry for parents now. It's elementary school for goodness sake, but people have convinced them it's do or die. So silly and unnecessary.

I'm the PP and I couldn't agree more. It really is sad and it's a shame, too. Unnecessary anxiety and also, I believe a very diluted AAP program.

[Anonymous]

I think that if I had not looked at DCUM during that entire process, I would have been a lot less anxious. People keep talking about that GT nirvana from a long time ago but what was also absent was the anxiety-producing back and forth DCUM banter. There was just no social media. Years ago, you didn't get daily photos of what your long ago friends ate for breakfast. Wasnt ignorance just bliss when you werent getting photos of your wealthy friends' vacation photos and daily political rantings? These days you are inundated with info and the ones who will be posting on DCUM are the ones that feel so strongly about these aap topics. In real life, I don't see most of the stuff that I see here. My kid and I very happy with our aap experience.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The real problem is that this whole process is very anxiety producing for everyone involved. I think that OP is too concerned about minute details. I think her question is over the top. However, I can't blame her because I have been there before. It's so hard to know when to loosen your grip and when you should step in. There is no real guideline for parents. It's compounded by the talk in the neighborhood and you start to feel like you aren't doing enough. It's just so stressful. We all want to do best by our children.

-parent and teacher

I agree with the above post.
We do want the best for our children but the OP is putting her fear of the GBRS ahead of doing what's best for her child.
If OP is concerned about the child's behavior, then the question should be asked, AAP or not, GBRS or not.

When you say that the "whole process" is anxiety producing, are you talking about the AAP process? Yes, it does cause anxiety, but moreso for the folks who are too concerned.

Yes, I mean the AAP process. I think the first time most people are faced with having to make the decision to apply or not, it is very anxiety producing. It was for me. I was listening to so many of the other parents talking about how they were going to apply, and how gen ed was much worse, etc. I was very conflicted and it took me time to figure out what was really important to me and what was the best fit for my child, when I took away what everyone else thought. Once I did that, my anxiety subsided. But for those who are in the thick of it, facing deadlines, trying to put their packet together, etc., I can understand them being worried.

I don't remember a shred of anxiety when my kid went to GT years ago. I didn't prepare a packet and didn't do a referral form. Back then it was pretty obvious which kids would go to a center and you didn't have everyone and their Uncle thinking their child's future would be ruined if they didn't get in.

FCPS has really mucked up the whole idea of who "needs" gifted services and hurt the Gen Ed program in the process. I feel sorry for parents now. It's elementary school for goodness sake, but people have convinced them it's do or die. So silly and unnecessary.

I'm the PP and I couldn't agree more. It really is sad and it's a shame, too. Unnecessary anxiety and also, I believe a very diluted AAP program.[u]

Like nails on a chalkboard.

[Anonymous]

I doubt the teacher is really reading the homework anyway!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I doubt the teacher is really reading the homework anyway!

Why would you say this? I'm a teacher and I read the homework! Statements like these are so insulting!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I doubt the teacher is really reading the homework anyway!

Why would you say this? I'm a teacher and I read the homework! Statements like these are so insulting!

I taught elementary school for years. My second grader's teacher does not read his homework.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I doubt the teacher is really reading the homework anyway!

Why would you say this? I'm a teacher and I read the homework! Statements like these are so insulting!

I taught elementary school for years. My second grader's teacher does not read his homework.

I think homework for kinds below 3rd grade is such a waste of time but my kids get it so we do it. But if teachers aren't looking at it, why is it given? What is the point of homework? I thought the effort grade on the report card was all about homework.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I doubt the teacher is really reading the homework anyway!

Why would you say this? I'm a teacher and I read the homework! Statements like these are so insulting!

I taught elementary school for years. My second grader's teacher does not read his homework.

I think homework for kinds below 3rd grade is such a waste of time but my kids get it so we do it. But if teachers aren't looking at it, why is it given? What is the point of homework? I thought the effort grade on the report card was all about homework.

Sorry -kids, not kinds

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I doubt the teacher is really reading the homework anyway!

Why would you say this? I'm a teacher and I read the homework! Statements like these are so insulting!

I taught elementary school for years. My second grader's teacher does not read his homework.

Well I do. Please don't make such a negative blanket statement. It's untrue.