Do you ever apologize to the teacher when your you are wrong?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Teacher here. The people on this thread are definitely in the minority. I have never received an apology from a parent who later learned they were wrong about something. Not once.

This has been my experience as well.

[Anonymous]

Yes. But I wouldn't write a "snippy" email in the first place.

[Anonymous]

ugh, when will parents learn that their children lie. Sometimes they lie because they are being deliberately misleading. Sometimes it because they are self-centered and don't have perspective yet. Doesn't matter. Don't ever take what your child says about a teach at face value.

When I was a teacher, you'd be shocked at how many parents would say, "My child NEVER lies". Are you kidding me?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If your middle school DC misinformed you, so you shot off a snippy email, do you apologize to the teacher when it turns out you are wrong?

Of course. Do you apologize to anyone when you are wrong. Of course! Teachers are human too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No. I write the email and never send it.

You should try that..it's therapeutic.

Why not just apologize?

NP: Because there is nothing to apologize for ... that's the point. She didn't shoot off the ill-informed email in the first place.

Yes, she did.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No. I write the email and never send it.

You should try that..it's therapeutic.

Why not just apologize?

NP: Because there is nothing to apologize for ... that's the point. She didn't shoot off the ill-informed email in the first place.

Yes, she did.

The first poster in this string of quotes said she writes the email and never sends it. That is word for word the quote. In other words, it sits in drafts and doesn't go anywhere. There's no need to apologize for a snippy email that was never sent -- because nothing worthy of an apology actually happened.

This is the techie version of advice my grandmother once gave me... if you're mad at someone write them an angry letter, keep it until you're not mad anymore, then throw it away.

Works fairly well and has never once caused me a problem like OP is having now.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Teacher here. The people on this thread are definitely in the minority. I have never received an apology from a parent who later learned they were wrong about something. Not once.

Wow, really? Last year I showed up to DD's Back to School Night in a HORRIBLE rage, and honestly, was so rude to her teachers, specifically one. I apologized to him in person two days later, flat out saying, "I'm sorry I was such an asshole the other night. I have five hundred reasons why, but none of them really excuse how I treated you." He kindly accepted my apology and got along swimmingly for the rest of the year. I can't imagine how much worse and awkward things would have been if I hadn't apologized.

[Anonymous]

The only time I have ever not apologized to a teacher for a misinformed email was when I emailed the principal about a situation in dd's 4th grade class. Dd said the teacher called the class a bunch of asses. We had a conference and it turns out, the teacher said she called the class a bunch of smartasses, not asses. She seemed indignant about my mistake. I didn't apologize though. She no longer teaches, thank goodness.

I think I generally tried to ask for clarification in person rather than sending snippy emails. It's easier to avoid the need to apologize later.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Teacher here. The people on this thread are definitely in the minority. I have never received an apology from a parent who later learned they were wrong about something. Not once.

+1 Teacher here and I was thinking the same thing!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Teacher here. The people on this thread are definitely in the minority. I have never received an apology from a parent who later learned they were wrong about something. Not once.

This has been my experience as well.

Well, I have never sent a snippy email. I have sent plenty asking for more information, or to make an appt to discuss, but never snitty. Since I don't put anything in email that makes judgments, I am fairly certain I have never needed to apologize.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Teacher here. The people on this thread are definitely in the minority. I have never received an apology from a parent who later learned they were wrong about something. Not once.

Wow, really? Last year I showed up to DD's Back to School Night in a HORRIBLE rage, and honestly, was so rude to her teachers, specifically one. I apologized to him in person two days later, flat out saying, "I'm sorry I was such an asshole the other night. I have five hundred reasons why, but none of them really excuse how I treated you." He kindly accepted my apology and got along swimmingly for the rest of the year. I can't imagine how much worse and awkward things would have been if I hadn't apologized.

curious..why were you so mad?

[Anonymous]

Yeah, why were you do mad to behave in that manner.
I think people think teachers are their employees...someone on their staff of help.

[Anonymous]

If you get told something upsetting about a teacher or the way that something was handled in class....calm down. Write an email and have your dh or some other *very* trusted person review it before you send it.

[Anonymous]

Yes you should apologize, as should your child. It's a good lesson for your child that a single lie can spiral into problems for other people and cause them to lose trust in him/her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Teacher here. The people on this thread are definitely in the minority. I have never received an apology from a parent who later learned they were wrong about something. Not once.

Wow, really? Last year I showed up to DD's Back to School Night in a HORRIBLE rage, and honestly, was so rude to her teachers, specifically one. I apologized to him in person two days later, flat out saying, "I'm sorry I was such an asshole the other night. I have five hundred reasons why, but none of them really excuse how I treated you." He kindly accepted my apology and got along swimmingly for the rest of the year. I can't imagine how much worse and awkward things would have been if I hadn't apologized.

curious..why were you so mad?

As I said, five hundred reasons. Here are the top six:
1. I can't learn shit lecture-style and this was sitting in a cafeteria while various school people lectured us.
2. I vehemently hate the school and think it's pathetic
3. I was overheated
4. I was disgusted by the behavior of other parents (really? taking a phone call right there in the 'audience' while someone is talking?)
5. It was REALLY long (they cut it this year)
6. Each teacher who talked made me more and more upset/angry/worried/enraged about DD's education

The San Francisco public school system is awful, and we are stuck in it. DD is at a public charter, a middle school that's supposed to be considered one of the best publics here, and last year at the end of sixth grade she was doing math I did in 3rd or 4th grade. She wasn't pushed academically, just organizationally and workload-wise. At this year's Back to School night I was much better at keeping my mouth shut.