Overheard my 6 year old talking about boyfriends...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is how it goes.

A girl "likes likes" a boy.
The boy has no clue
The girl's friends go to the boy on the playground, "do you like Larla?"
The boys is like "uh, duh, ummmm Larla uh I guess"
Then they are going together.
A week later the boy has not spoken to the girl.
The girl "breaks up" with the boy.

Lol!!

[Anonymous]

And then they think boys are stupid for a few years then they start like-liking them again. And the boys will be behind because they always are.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I didn't get involved in the conversation in any way. My husband and I could hear them chatting and we were sitting there kind of shocked and laughing. My DD was trying to give her friend advice on how to tell the boy she likes, that she likes him. My DD said she should pass him a note in class because it seems to work in the movies.

I thought this stuff would happen more around age 12 and up!

Do you have no memories of elementary school?

I remember having "crushes" on boys in early elementary, the biggest one being the new boy "Nick" in the second grade. I also recall me and my friends and my younger girl siblings and their friends having discussions about who liked a boy and who was going to marry who.

A few boys (maybe one or two) would go along with it but the rest were either grossed out or clueless.

I was in elementary school in the 70s. My dad talks about school "romances" in the first grade when he was a kid back in tue 50s. This has been going one for eons.

[Anonymous]

I remember having a crush on a boy in first grade. He is "friends of friends" on FB, so I can see he is now a lawyer living in Florida. I'm sure he's a very nice person, but I don't think 6yo me had the best taste.

[Anonymous]

I had crushes on boys when I was about 5. I remember getting punished by a teacher because I was making a fuss trying to get the boy's attention.

Probably now I'll be termed as a 5 year old sexual harasser.

[Anonymous]

I wanted to marry my cousin when i was like 3 or 4. My dad told me it was not possible.

[Anonymous]

I remember chasing boys around on the playground in elementary school. All of the girls would decide some boy way cute, and then we would all chase him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I didn't get involved in the conversation in any way. My husband and I could hear them chatting and we were sitting there kind of shocked and laughing. My DD was trying to give her friend advice on how to tell the boy she likes, that she likes him. My DD said she should pass him a note in class because it seems to work in the movies.

I thought this stuff would happen more around age 12 and up!

Do you have no memories of elementary school?

I remember having "crushes" on boys in early elementary, the biggest one being the new boy "Nick" in the second grade. I also recall me and my friends and my younger girl siblings and their friends having discussions about who liked a boy and who was going to marry who.

A few boys (maybe one or two) would go along with it but the rest were either grossed out or clueless.

I was in elementary school in the 70s. My dad talks about school "romances" in the first grade when he was a kid back in tue 50s. This has been going one for eons.

op here. I do remember elementary school. But my earliest memory of this pseudo dating began in 4th grade.

[Anonymous]

its the hormones in the milk

[Anonymous]

It all depends on your view of dating at young age.
One thing is to like someone, and other is to have a boyfriend. It is normal that she is starting to notice boys in that way. and liking someone I would say is inevitable, But you, as her mom, would need to teach her the rules of your home, and what is age appropriate.
For one family could be OK to date young, while for another family, the rule would be dating until they are serious and ready for marriage.
Kids need guidance in every area, this is one of them, and a very important one. They learn a lot from their parents, we all just need to know what we would love for their future, and guide them through the path.
Now, in my opinion, the earlier they start, the more break ups they go through, and that is not good, because it trains them to break up when ever things are hard, and that unfortunately, trains through the many years and breakup for a divorce.
I have two teen girls, and we always talk about everything, since they were young, and through the years, I have learned that the best teachable moments are not when we are scolding them, but when everyone is in a good mood, and in a friendly, loving environment.
This is a wonderful teachable moment for the rules you may want to see years from now. It is a good moment, even if it is scary as a mom.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:From whAt I can tell, at that age is is fairly normal for girls to like like boys, and boys to have zero interest (I think my son was just confused by the whole conversation). I would not make a big deal about it, but no harm in starting a conversation.

See, this is how I thought it would be, but boys started trying to look up girls skirts and kiss some of the girls (including my DD) in K!!! I could not believe I was dropping my 5 yr old off last year and purposefully NOT pointing out to DH which boy DD said tried to kiss her, or my DH woulda probably gotten in a 5 yr old boy's face and threatened him if he didn't stay away from his DD lol!

But seriously, the boy interest in girls can start that young. There's still definitely a level of "I don't care" or "Girls are gross", but many of the boys in DD's school absolutely try to play with her and smile at her and tell her or other girls who likes them. Totally freaks me out but I try to stay calm

[Anonymous]

No joke - when DD was in PS3, our first parent teacher conference they told us there were a few "couples" in the class, and that DD liked a boy named ________ (Larlo) and when they were in centers and this boy didn't go to the same activity center as DD, she would wail "LAAAARRRRLLOOOO!!! Whyyyyyyyy aren't you following meeeeeeee???" Couldn't believe it, was so not ready!

Good news is, she and Larlo still go to same school and are totally over each other. Barely talk when they see each other. But it seems to have been an amicable split...

[Anonymous]

this is classic. I cant wait to have kids (genuinely)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It all depends on your view of dating at young age.
One thing is to like someone, and other is to have a boyfriend. It is normal that she is starting to notice boys in that way. and liking someone I would say is inevitable, But you, as her mom, would need to teach her the rules of your home, and what is age appropriate.
For one family could be OK to date young, while for another family, the rule would be dating until they are serious and ready for marriage.
Kids need guidance in every area, this is one of them, and a very important one. They learn a lot from their parents, we all just need to know what we would love for their future, and guide them through the path.
Now, in my opinion, the earlier they start, the more break ups they go through, and that is not good, because it trains them to break up when ever things are hard, and that unfortunately, trains through the many years and breakup for a divorce.
I have two teen girls, and we always talk about everything, since they were young, and through the years, I have learned that the best teachable moments are not when we are scolding them, but when everyone is in a good mood, and in a friendly, loving environment.
This is a wonderful teachable moment for the rules you may want to see years from now. It is a good moment, even if it is scary as a mom.

You're overthinking it.

The remainder of this thread has me in TEARS.lol Hilarious. I remember having a crush on a boy in K and my aunt and uncle were chaperones on a school trip. They picked up on it and teased me for years!lol

[Anonymous]

The girls in my daughters K class have already decided who they will marry. This week she told me she and her friend have switched because she doesn't like the job her "husband" wants when he grows up.

I figure I'm doing something right.