Has anyones kid been made fun of for having 2 Moms/2 Dads in pub school?
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Anonymous
| I doubt it. I'm a divorced mom, and while my kid has a dad and a mom, he always talks about imaginary friends with two dads or two moms. We knows of married gay couples, just none with kids yet. And he's never thought it strange (nor should he) nor ever said people should marry opposite sex (nor do I ever correct him if he says he wants to marry a boy). So I doubt kids in this day and age do discriminate, but who knows. It's so sad, if so. |
Anonymous
| most of the kids at my neighborhood school just live with their mom or grandma--it's the two-married-parent thing that is unusual, not the sex of the parents. But there doesn't seem to be much teasing about it, though some of the older kids do use "gay" as an insult and the teachers are not very quick to address it (no slower than they are to address other disciplinary issues--they just let a lot slide in general). |
Anonymous
| OP, fwiw, I have a teenager in PGCPS, there are a bunch of kids in my son's world with two dads or two moms, and I can't remember it ever being an issue for them that I'm aware of. |
Anonymous
Is Mothers/Father's Day really a problem? Even when I was a kid, kids without a mom or dad could make cards for a grandparent or other special person in their lives. And we didn't have any same sex parents in my class. |
Anonymous
| 14:04, I'm not saying it *will* be a problem. Just saying that in the lower grades, the kids tend to make stuff for Mother's Day and Father's Day. I can see a kid feeling a little left out for not having one or the other. |
Anonymous
Actually, it is. When you have same sex parents and your teacher only allows you to make one card, you have to choose which mom or dad to give the card to. This issue caused a significant amount of tears, agonizing and heartbreak when teachers were insensitive. Fortunately, most are not and allow kids to make two cards or two projects. |
Anonymous
| What a bunch of baloney- teacher won't let you make cards for second mommy..... This is fantasy victimhood status. |
Anonymous
I think the pp sounded pretty realistic. We have a nice picture book called Stella Brings the Family about a little girl with two dads trying to figure out what to do for the Mother's Day party at her school. It's a really cute book and nice story. |
Anonymous
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not at our school. I mean, maybe just like any other parent they would be made fun of for listening to lame music or being "uncool" but in 2015 in DC same sex parents aren't unique.
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Anonymous
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My own children have yet to notice anything out of the ordinary re the two-mommy family in our circle. We've had playdates, where both moms were present. The children know and say "hello" to each mom. It hasn't clicked that this is anything out of the ordinary at all. I'm a single mom, so maybe they understand that families can look different? My DS once said that two men can't marry when DD suggested that two Joker figures should get married after Batman and Catwoman. When I told him they indeed could, his eyebrows went up, but he accepted it bc "Mommy doesn't lie." You get married to make a family. This is what I've said in response to my DD and DS's desire to marry one another! Since they're already family, they don't need to get married.  Maybe that information has traveled and is how they make sense of the two mommies?
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Anonymous
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My daughter doesn't think anything of it because we have friends with two moms, two dads, one mom, one dad, we have a transgender female friend and just all sorts of constructed families.
I find it weird when people live in the city and only have friends that look like them (race, SES, family construct). |
Anonymous
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One of my kids got an invitation for a drop off birthday party for one of the kids in their 2nd grade class. It was the first drop off party for many of those kids. My own child is pretty chatty and happened to know that the birthday child had two moms. So when I dropped my child off at the party I knew (and my child knew) to expect to see two moms there. It was no big deal.
But it did make me wonder how some of the other parents might feel finding out at the door that they were dropping their child off at a party hosted by a gay couple. I'm sure that some of them were surprised (this was years ago). The kids had a good time, it was a typical bouncy house, free play, pinata, cake & ice cream party. Did anyone make fun of the birthday kid? No. They all liked the birthday kid and they were having FUN. |
Anonymous
| My kid never had any problems at school with two moms. I wouldn't worry about it any more than you would worry about anything else. I find that kids pick up what their parents say, and if any parents had a problem with it, I probably didn't even know them so they had no clue. |
Anonymous
| Two mom family here - We had no issues until 3rd grade - at which point a kid told my son that it was weird to have 2 moms. We are in PG County. Now he is very self conscious about it (didn't want to include a picture of our family in his personal collage) and doesn't want to share about his family during times when the class is sharing. His teacher was the one who reached out to us to see what she can do to support him/us. We are letting him take the lead on what to share with classmates, but it breaks my heart. |
Anonymous
| I taught a boy with two moms and he seemed to want to keep it hidden to. |