IL visits: Christmas then birth

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP do you want to celebrate Christmas with them? What about just celebrating it with your own family this year? I can't imagine hosting Christmas at 9 months pregnant.

This.

I'd scrap the entire Xmas trip. Blame pregnancy. Sit with your feet up and soak up every last minute of having only one child.

[Anonymous]

"My doctor wants me to rest and have as much quiet as possible. I managed to get the "ok" to host Christmas but that's it. I'm devastated, too, but you know, Doctors orders" said with a sad smile and a shrug if you can muster all that

[Anonymous]

Hotel or day trip. The moment of discomfort you feel will be far outweighed by the stress caused if they stay for 3 weeks.

[Anonymous]

No lag time on the herd showing up with a C-section, is there. I hope they cook and clean. Good luck.

[Anonymous]

What is due date, OP? I wouldn't make any plans to host people starting from two weeks before it. You can't count on scheduled C-Section date and may as well deliver earlier.

[Anonymous]

No one can "insist" on being there for the birth.
Give me a break.
YOU are the one incubating another human being and recovering from getting that person out into the world. YOU get to have the say. Seriously, you are not being unreasonable. Tell them what to do, set a boundary, and if they are hurt then that is on them, not you.
Hosting Christmas sounds super stressful to me. I'd put your feet up and do nothing. And then kick them out whenever you want. And not feel a bit guilty about it.

[Anonymous]

Another DIL who doesn't understand her in-laws are FAMILY.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Another DIL who doesn't understand her in-laws are FAMILY.

Hosting for Christmas and right after the birth sounds awfully familial to me!

[Anonymous]

I'm sure she'll be a dream. So welcoming. Begrudging her in-laws a week or two. It's shameful.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm sure she'll be a dream. So welcoming. Begrudging her in-laws a week or two. It's shameful.

Wow.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm sure she'll be a dream. So welcoming. Begrudging her in-laws a week or two. It's shameful.

Troll score: -2

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:"My doctor wants me to rest and have as much quiet as possible. I managed to get the "ok" to host Christmas but that's it. I'm devastated, too, but you know, Doctors orders" said with a sad smile and a shrug if you can muster all that

+ 1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Another DIL who doesn't understand her in-laws are FAMILY.

What a selfish poster. You have no concern at all for the woman late in her pregnancy. It's all about what the inlaws want.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Another DIL who doesn't understand her in-laws are FAMILY.

And here we have another MIL who doesn't realize that pregnancy and childbirth aren't about HER AT ALL. YOU GET NO SAY IN HOW IT GOES! Sorry.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Another DIL who doesn't understand her in-laws are FAMILY.

What a selfish poster. You have no concern at all for the woman late in her pregnancy. It's all about what the inlaws want.

Yep. MIL from hell.