Ever just feel dead inside?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There are some good guys out there, but they seem to be the exception instead of the norm.

Wrong, you just don't care for them.

[Anonymous]

OP you are being much too hard on yourself here.

Try to think rational here. You do not attract losers, there is no loser magnet that you possess for cheaters to come to you.

Dating is all about luck, not strategy. So you just have had some bad luck recently, but that is no reason to stop meeting potential life partners.

Keep in mind it is THEIR bad, not yours.

If you cancel your quest to find true love, these cheaters have won.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP you are being much too hard on yourself here.

Try to think rational here. You do not attract losers, there is no loser magnet that you possess for cheaters to come to you.

Dating is all about luck, not strategy. So you just have had some bad luck recently, but that is no reason to stop meeting potential life partners.

Keep in mind it is THEIR bad, not yours.

If you cancel your quest to find true love, these cheaters have won.

WTH are you talking about? Dating isn't about luck - and is absolutely doing something to attract losers. Damaged people attract losers. That's why everyone is recommending therapy - to help her break the patterns. Luck has nothing to do with it. It's about loving yourself first, having upmost self-respect. That means you do spend a lot of lonely nights until you do find the right guy. But a healthy persons doesn't attract losers. Yes, some have rotten luck and catch a bad one now and again, but you dispose of them prior to marriage. Gosh, I wish women would have more self-respect and self-love and higher standards. It would force men to treat them better....and don't put out so easily. Sheesh.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:There are some good guys out there, but they seem to be the exception instead of the norm.

Wrong, you just don't care for them.

Ding, ding, ding.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I feel dead inside too. I'm married a walking wounded type. He said that one of the things that drew him to me was my nurturing nature (a quality his mother lacked.) 20 years later, we are in a sexless, marriage and he doesn't miss any chance to passive-aggressively demean me, especially in front of the kids. This was a quality that his mother didn't lack.)

If I confront the bull shit comments that are obviously meant to make me feel bad, he explodes with everything but the kitchen sink of my faults. Mostly I just ignore it. I don't know why people can't be direct and say what they mean, especially when kids are involved. He's setting a terrible example for our kids and doesn't care just so he can make his demeaning digs in.

Sorry, pp, that sucks. I can relate.