Potty training and developmental delays

[Anonymous]

What do your 6+ year olds in diapers do at school?

[Anonymous]

Out of diapers at almost 4, semi-frequent pee accidents until almost 6. In retrospect, the accidents were yet another sign of anxiety and that the school setting was completely wrong.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What do your 6+ year olds in diapers do at school?

Toileting issues go in the self-care section of the IEP. They have to accommodate.

[Anonymous]

My kindergartner wasn't completely trained when he started. They sent the classroom aide with him to the staff restroom for a few months until he got the hang of everything.

[Anonymous]

Very reassuring to know.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My kindergartner wasn't completely trained when he started. They sent the classroom aide with him to the staff restroom for a few months until he got the hang of everything.

Was he delayed?

[Anonymous]

Pee at just about 3yo, poop is still coming along (he's almost 4yo now). We can generally catch him before he has to go and put him on the potty. Night training is nowhere near.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Pee at just about 3yo, poop is still coming along (he's almost 4yo now). We can generally catch him before he has to go and put him on the potty. Night training is nowhere near.

None of my NT kids were night trained until 4+.

[Anonymous]

After a year of off and on angst mixed with periods of ignoring the entire thing...DS practically did it himself right before he turned 4. During the day, that is. I can't remember a single 'real' accident. At night he is still in pull ups. We haven't even tried to get away from them -- he's always wet in the am, doesn't wake up even if he soaks through his pi's, and I'm counting on the idea that when he's ready, he'll do it. He's almost 5 now.

[Anonymous]

I'm 8:17 above. Yes, my kindergartner was delayed In Every area of development when he started K. The school was great about working on the toileting issues.

[Anonymous]

About 3 for pee, still working on poop (almost 4). Has progressed from many poops in underwear to now wearing underwear all day and requests a diaper to poop and asks to be changed when done. Insists on standing up to poop and won't get near a toilet when he has to go. Potty training issues actually started us down the path for ASD diagnosis...

[Anonymous]

not the OP..new poster here..

one of my daughters who has an ASD diagnosis is now able to sit on the potty for pee and do it occasionally..she is still in diapers/pullups..should I switch her to underwear and see if it will help her be more consistent?

another daughter who doesnt have a diagnosis (but we have an appointment with dev.ped set up) just sits on the potty and asks to sit on it for pee, doesnt do anything, but then wipes and flushes..its like she likes to do the routine of sitting and wiping and flushing..how do I help her?

Thanks

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:not the OP..new poster here..

one of my daughters who has an ASD diagnosis is now able to sit on the potty for pee and do it occasionally..she is still in diapers/pullups..should I switch her to underwear and see if it will help her be more consistent?

another daughter who doesnt have a diagnosis (but we have an appointment with dev.ped set up) just sits on the potty and asks to sit on it for pee, doesnt do anything, but then wipes and flushes..its like she likes to do the routine of sitting and wiping and flushing..how do I help her?

Thanks

For both:
Be consistent. Put them in clothes they can pull down on their own without any snaps or zippers. Take (don't ask) the child to the potty on a regular/sensical schedule about every 2 hours, e.g., upon waking, b/f snack, b/f lunch, b/c leaving the house, etc. Have them sit 5 minutes on the toilet to help stimulate the elimination reflex (poop).

Use whatever motivates them too, e.g., stickers, points. Praise for trying. Don't get mad when they have an accident. I don't recommend using pull-ups and always carry extra clothes with you. It will happen.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:not the OP..new poster here..

one of my daughters who has an ASD diagnosis is now able to sit on the potty for pee and do it occasionally..she is still in diapers/pullups..should I switch her to underwear and see if it will help her be more consistent?

another daughter who doesnt have a diagnosis (but we have an appointment with dev.ped set up) just sits on the potty and asks to sit on it for pee, doesnt do anything, but then wipes and flushes..its like she likes to do the routine of sitting and wiping and flushing..how do I help her?

Thanks

For both:
Be consistent. Put them in clothes they can pull down on their own without any snaps or zippers. Take (don't ask) the child to the potty on a regular/sensical schedule about every 2 hours, e.g., upon waking, b/f snack, b/f lunch, b/c leaving the house, etc. Have them sit 5 minutes on the toilet to help stimulate the elimination reflex (poop).

Use whatever motivates them too, e.g., stickers, points. Praise for trying. Don't get mad when they have an accident. I don't recommend using pull-ups and always carry extra clothes with you. It will happen.

Thanks for the reply..I'm getting anxious just thinking about them without any pullups/diapers (thinking of all the extra work lol), but I suppose I have to do it if I want them potty trained..

[Anonymous]

If the accidents are behavior related, then definitely ditch pull ups. Some kids have medical conditions that may require pull ups, but your developmental pediatrician can help you determine this.