How to re-home this cat?

[Anonymous]

I am judging you after all, OP, because you refuse to tell us why you want to rehome this cat. This makes me think it is for superficial and selfish reasons. Your comment in your original post about "sparing" you the judgment, and your tone in saying so indicates that you KNOW you are a cold, selfish person. Terrible lesson for your kids, by the way.

[Anonymous]

All right OP here, apologies for not replying right away (though I suppose some here have already written me off as cold and selfish..mkay). The reason I wrote that is because I read through a few threads on here and saw one verbal assault after another on pet owners who just couldn't do right in some people's eyes. I can't imagine those posters actually think they're helping with such mean comments but they don't sound like they have much else going on, so...

Anyway, the issues with the cat are basically that she is a full-time job. She pees on everything, chews and eats everything, knocks everything over and refuses to let me sleep. She walks all over me at night and if I close my bedroom door, she slams her head against it, meowing loudly until I open it.

Thank you to all who suggested I contact the place where I got her. I'll certainly have a few questions for them about why none of this was disclosed to me.

Not that I need to qualify this to perfect strangers, but I'm a perfectly loving person who wanted a pet, not a new life. It's really hard to love an animal while you're too busy cleaning up fur, urine and broken possessions while operating on a couple hours of sleep before work. And for those who will still find it necessary to call me names from the safety of their computers, I hope you find the answers to whatever is truly bothering you.

Thanks.

[Anonymous]

OP, how old is the cat? My cat was a total nightmare when I got him at 1--attacked my feet all night long, etc but soon grew out of it. As for the rest, have you taken it to the vet?

How about some Prozac for it?

[Anonymous]

OP here. She's 6 so it's not really kitten stuff. But I'll look into Prozac, too. Thanks!

[Anonymous]

I would try the Prozac before giving up. This behavior absolutely should have been disclosed to you, unless they somehow didn't know.

[Anonymous]

OP, it's OK if this is not the cat for you. It doesn't sound like it's the cat for anyone. If the shelter didn't know about her issues, that is too bad -- but it is way worse if they dumped a cat on you with any kind of foreknowledge that it is simply not a good pet.

It's really terrible to have a peeing cat, and it is also no good not to get any sleep. This is your life too and you are not enslaved to your cat. I think it is worth a thorough work-up by the vet to rule out any physical issues and see whether an anti-anxiety medication might help. If you try everything reasonable, though, it's OK to let go.

If she does have a peeing problem that can't be solved, it would probably be kinder to euthanize her than send her back to the shelter. With the millions of unwanted cats out there, it's not fair to the adoptable ones to circulate a cat with an intractable peeing issue back into the shelter where they will probably end up having to euthanize her themselves. There aren't good homes for cats with peeing problems.

One step at a time though -- call your vet.

[Anonymous]

OP here with an update: if I wasn't sure about re-homing before, I definitely am now. I just came out of the shower to find the cat on the stove, chewing the bread out of the plastic sleeve. She somehow hit one of the knobs and the kitchen reeked of gas. This is about more than annoyance now. This cat is so poorly behaved that she's an actual fire hazard.

Thank you to everyone who replied. Calling the shelter tomorrow.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here with an update: if I wasn't sure about re-homing before, I definitely am now. I just came out of the shower to find the cat on the stove, chewing the bread out of the plastic sleeve. She somehow hit one of the knobs and the kitchen reeked of gas. This is about more than annoyance now. This cat is so poorly behaved that she's an actual fire hazard.

Thank you to everyone who replied. Calling the shelter tomorrow.

Do it. It sounds like she needs a different kind of home and she is kind of feral and difficult. We had to do this too, with a kitten who just wreaked havoc in our home and with our existing cat who is now very well behaved since the kitten has been rehired.

Fxxk those who have judged you, and just do the best you can. Good luck.

[Anonymous]

*rehomed, not rehired. Auto correct what are you thinking?