flowers for funeral?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When my dad died, the funeral home director said it's standard to have large bouquets honoring the different roles in his life i.e. "Father", "Grandfather". DH should check with whoever is planning the services and offer a contribution if they are doing such displays.

I agree with this - if you are close family, as OP is, yes, you should send a casket or standing spray with "Father", etc. on it (this is only if you are not Jewish). For my Aunt I did a large one which was good because no one else did,so it was only my spray and a few small basket in a large mausoleum. If you are not as close, then donations are fine.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm Jewish, and we don't do flowers.

More info, please. Is this just a long-held custom? Is there a reason why not?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Do the donation. The funeral home will make sure there are enough flowers so that the viewing looks nice. Or have your DH check with his folks to see if flowers are actually needed. I don't think it's customary for everyone to do flowers-- that could be an awful lot of flowers.

Nonsense, the funeral home isn't going to provide extra flowers for free.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No flowers. I nannied for a family who owned funeral homes around the country and they said most flowers were left behind (because it is an inconvenience for the family to take them all or come back the next day). The funeral home also supplied flowers to make the space look nice.

My father died 2 years ago and almost every donated. He did a donation to his university's engineering school. It was much easier that way than for me to have to deal with things the day after or try to pawn the responsibility off on my other relatives and friends.

Of course they are left behind. The point is not to take the flowers home. Lol

It's a grandparent. Don't be cheap people. Get flowers.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No flowers. I nannied for a family who owned funeral homes around the country and they said most flowers were left behind (because it is an inconvenience for the family to take them all or come back the next day). The funeral home also supplied flowers to make the space look nice.

My father died 2 years ago and almost every donated. He did a donation to his university's engineering school. It was much easier that way than for me to have to deal with things the day after or try to pawn the responsibility off on my other relatives and friends.

Of course they are left behind. The point is not to take the flowers home. Lol

It's a grandparent. Don't be cheap people. Get flowers.

Right! Cause the grandparent's feelings will be hurt if you don't!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No flowers. I nannied for a family who owned funeral homes around the country and they said most flowers were left behind (because it is an inconvenience for the family to take them all or come back the next day). The funeral home also supplied flowers to make the space look nice.

My father died 2 years ago and almost every donated. He did a donation to his university's engineering school. It was much easier that way than for me to have to deal with things the day after or try to pawn the responsibility off on my other relatives and friends.

Of course they are left behind. The point is not to take the flowers home. Lol

It's a grandparent. Don't be cheap people. Get flowers.

Right! Cause the grandparent's feelings will be hurt if you don't!

The spouse of the grandparent might be.
Plus, you want to have it look nice. It's the last send off.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm Jewish, and we don't do flowers.

More info, please. Is this just a long-held custom? Is there a reason why not?

Dunno. I'm sure there have been flowers at the funerals I've been to (easily over 40, all but one were Jewish) but my family has never sent flowers, and when each of my five grandparents died I don't recall ever hearing "those flowers are from Irene and Jerry" or "Oh look at this card from the flowers Ann and Ed sent". There were DEFINITELY no flowers sent to the house. Jews send food. We're practical that way.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No flowers. I nannied for a family who owned funeral homes around the country and they said most flowers were left behind (because it is an inconvenience for the family to take them all or come back the next day). The funeral home also supplied flowers to make the space look nice.

My father died 2 years ago and almost every donated. He did a donation to his university's engineering school. It was much easier that way than for me to have to deal with things the day after or try to pawn the responsibility off on my other relatives and friends.

Of course they are left behind. The point is not to take the flowers home. Lol

It's a grandparent. Don't be cheap people. Get flowers.

Right! Cause the grandparent's feelings will be hurt if you don't!

The spouse of the grandparent might be.
Plus, you want to have it look nice. It's the last send off.

When people specifically say, "In lieu of flowers" it means DON'T GET FLOWERS. It really could not be more clear.

[Anonymous]

I'd make a donation and maybe offer to provide one of the meals that the family will likely have together (pre-funeral, after the viewing, etc). Much more helpful to your ILs and the family.

However, if all of the other grandkids are sending arrangements or are all pitching in for one, just go with the flowers.

[Anonymous]

We said donations instead of flowers,but still received a few arrangements eg about 4. If you order some, don,t get those strong smelling lilies. They stunk the house out, my widower father got hay fever, and we put the bouquets out on the back porch!