Wedding on July 4th

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:A childhood friend is getting married on July fourth, late in the evening - there is no served dinner and guests are told to leave by 930. Would it be totally tacky to just attend the ceremony and then go out with our normal July 4th festivities? We were invited to other events that day and would love to attend.

I don't think it's tacky. Honestly, they're lucky you're attending at all. Some people have a lot of plans on the 4th, like a family picnic/barbecue at dinnertime, followed by fireworks. Just attend the wedding, stay long enough to congratulate them, and go.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's a small wedding in her backyard so she just verbally told everyone.

That's a little weird. My friend that got married listed the events like this:

ceremony: x - gardens
reception: x - ballroom
after party: some bar

perfectly understandable - you rent places by the time... But to just tell people to leave your house at 930 seems rude.

[Anonymous]

Can you just go for a little while and then head out? No one will notice. Our wedding was July 3, but we made sure out of town folks had lots of options if they wanted to stay for the long weekend. Of course, we did (over) feed them and and have a full (open) bar. Evening weddings without a meal? Weird.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Weddings on holidays are just stupid.

Yes. This is a huge pet peeve of mine. Also my nephews birthday is 7/4 and I refuse to spend every 4th away from home because of this. Our street is awesome and I love being home for the 4th.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The wedding is at 730. We used to be super close but our friendship has phased out over time.

So they expect you to have dinner first?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's a small wedding in her backyard so she just verbally told everyone.

This sounds lovely. So many people complain about huge, super planned, over the top weddings. Instead, she's having a small party in her back yard. And instead of being excited about the low level of commitment and expense on your part, you are whining about missing out on a BBQ or some fireworks? Your close friend is getting MARRIED, in a small intimate back yard wedding. And you can't be bothered to attend? Sure, it'd be nice if they were serving dinner, but perhaps they can't afford it but still wanted to do something small and lovely.

I'd say skip it bc you sound horrible.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's a small wedding in her backyard so she just verbally told everyone.

This sounds lovely. So many people complain about huge, super planned, over the top weddings. Instead, she's having a small party in her back yard. And instead of being excited about the low level of commitment and expense on your part, you are whining about missing out on a BBQ or some fireworks? Your close friend is getting MARRIED, in a small intimate back yard wedding. And you can't be bothered to attend? Sure, it'd be nice if they were serving dinner, but perhaps they can't afford it but still wanted to do something small and lovely.

I'd say skip it bc you sound horrible.

Small and lovely doesn't include telling people to leave at a certain time. If they can't afford dinner, they should have the ceremony at a time where people don't expect it, like 2:30.

You sound like an idiot.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's a small wedding in her backyard so she just verbally told everyone.

This sounds lovely. So many people complain about huge, super planned, over the top weddings. Instead, she's having a small party in her back yard. And instead of being excited about the low level of commitment and expense on your part, you are whining about missing out on a BBQ or some fireworks? Your close friend is getting MARRIED, in a small intimate back yard wedding. And you can't be bothered to attend? Sure, it'd be nice if they were serving dinner, but perhaps they can't afford it but still wanted to do something small and lovely.

I'd say skip it bc you sound horrible.

Small and lovely does sound nice, but why is she having it on a holiday if it's going to be in her backyard (i.e. free any day of the year) and there's not going to be food?!? It's just rude to have any sort of party at your house without food, much less a wedding! Even if it were potluck, I would take that over going to someone's house at dinnertime and not getting food.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The wedding is at 730. We used to be super close but our friendship has phased out over time.

So they expect you to have dinner first?

Or after?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's a small wedding in her backyard so she just verbally told everyone.

This sounds lovely. So many people complain about huge, super planned, over the top weddings. Instead, she's having a small party in her back yard. And instead of being excited about the low level of commitment and expense on your part, you are whining about missing out on a BBQ or some fireworks? Your close friend is getting MARRIED, in a small intimate back yard wedding. And you can't be bothered to attend? Sure, it'd be nice if they were serving dinner, but perhaps they can't afford it but still wanted to do something small and lovely.

I'd say skip it bc you sound horrible.

If she can't afford it, don't expect other people to give up their yearly tradition of celebrating with fireworks. Have it on any other Saturday of the year! You sound incredibly idiotic.

[Anonymous]

The 4th of July happens every year and it's the same thing most years. Be gracious and go to the party and have fun. How many fireworks shows have you seen? I think I have probably seen 50 or so. I think I could manage a wedding for an old friend. It might be fun if you can just relax and enjoy it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The wedding is at 730. We used to be super close but our friendship has phased out over time.

So they expect you to have dinner first?

Or after?

Jesus, eat a sandwich and head to the event and have some drinks and dance and have fun. No wonder people are always posting on here, "why don't I have more friends?" Remove the poles from your asses and try to celebrate someone without checking your dog-eared copy of Emily Post.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The 4th of July happens every year and it's the same thing most years. Be gracious and go to the party and have fun. How many fireworks shows have you seen? I think I have probably seen 50 or so. I think I could manage a wedding for an old friend. It might be fun if you can just relax and enjoy it.

I've never heard of someone inviting guests over for the 4th of July and not feeding them. Unamerican, I say!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The wedding is at 730. We used to be super close but our friendship has phased out over time.

So they expect you to have dinner first?

Or after?

Who eats dinner at 9:30 pm?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The wedding is at 730. We used to be super close but our friendship has phased out over time.

So they expect you to have dinner first?

Or after?

Jesus, eat a sandwich and head to the event and have some drinks and dance and have fun. No wonder people are always posting on here, "why don't I have more friends?" Remove the poles from your asses and try to celebrate someone without checking your dog-eared copy of Emily Post.

Highly inconvenient and last-minute. She shouldn't expect people to drop their prior plans to attend.