Paying for IL's hotel
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Anonymous
| Can your ILs afford to stay in a hotel? If so, let them pay. If not, ask if they would like to split the cost. To assume that your parents would want you to pick up their hotel tab without their permission is patronizing. |
Anonymous
This. |
Anonymous
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We're in the same boat, no guest room now that we have a second baby. When the kids are a little older they'll share if we have guests, at least until they're too old to share without feeling weird (boy-girl).
My parents would never let me pay. We sometimes pay for my in laws-always if they're coming down to help with something. But they want to visit once a month and there's no way I'm paying for that. |
Anonymous
| I don't pay for my parents hotel when they come to visit (they live on the west coast) but if I did, I would expect to pay for my siblings hotel cost as well. But in my case, my parents are far more "well off" than I am--literally a case where my parents take several vacations a year (and by vacation, I mean 3 weeks in New Zealand, a six week cruise around South America, 2 weeks in Italy, etc.) whereas if I was to pay for their hotel stay, I'd have a hard time affording groceries that month. |
Anonymous
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It really depends. If you both can afford it and they've never mentioned it being a strain, I'd let them handle it. Be generous in other ways with them. Show appreciation for them coming and taking the time and expense, things like that. That would mean much more to my parents than money to pay for the hotel.
If there's a disparity in incomes, and you are very well off, while your inlaws are living more modestly, then yes I'd offer to pay. Or perhaps off to pay for the airline tickets or use your miles (if you have them) instead. |
Anonymous
| My ILs are poor, while we are your usual student loan-burdened middle class types. I would never pay for their hotel. I just don't think that's anyone's obligation. |