Would you be OK with this? -grocery shopping

[Anonymous]

I see no problem here at all. If it's in your budget, fine.

[Anonymous]

It's ... weird. I say this as someone with three daughters, one of whom is older than yours. I would have to know what it is she's buying to know if this is truly okay or not.

Okay: she writes "lettuce" on the list and you buy romaine when she wants butter.
Not okay: she writes "big Kit kat" on the list and you buy her a small one and she wants a bigger one

My gut reaction would be to tell her either come with me food shopping or be more specific in what she's writing on the shopping list.

[Anonymous]

I'd give her the list for the family and do all of the shopping.

[Anonymous]

Shop online together? Peapod or another service.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Haha, no, I am not the mother of non-sharing kitchen girl. My daughter is 16. She occasionally does come with me but I work, she plays sports and has a summer job, wants to hang with friends, etc. so it's hard to align schedules.

Why isn't she buying her own snacks?

Because I'm the parent, and I'd rather she put the money in savings or do something useful with it than buy herself food.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's ... weird. I say this as someone with three daughters, one of whom is older than yours. I would have to know what it is she's buying to know if this is truly okay or not.

Okay: she writes "lettuce" on the list and you buy romaine when she wants butter.
Not okay: she writes "big Kit kat" on the list and you buy her a small one and she wants a bigger one

My gut reaction would be to tell her either come with me food shopping or be more specific in what she's writing on the shopping list.

She likes to load up on fruits and veggies and stuff like quinoa that I don't really buy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's ... weird. I say this as someone with three daughters, one of whom is older than yours. I would have to know what it is she's buying to know if this is truly okay or not.

Okay: she writes "lettuce" on the list and you buy romaine when she wants butter.
Not okay: she writes "big Kit kat" on the list and you buy her a small one and she wants a bigger one

My gut reaction would be to tell her either come with me food shopping or be more specific in what she's writing on the shopping list.

She likes to load up on fruits and veggies and stuff like quinoa that I don't really buy.

Good for her then.

[Anonymous]

Get another card on your visa account and give it to her. This way you are not giving her cash.

[Anonymous]

How could this be a bad thing? My 12yo dd's school is near a grocery and the kids like to go after school and grab a snack. Sometimes she will text and ask if she can get something extra like fruit for an after dinner snack, or quinoa for a side dish. I think it's awesome.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DD claims I "never" buy the things she wants at the grocery store, even when she gives me I list I buy the wrong kind/size, etc. and says it's just easier for me to give her money and she buys it herself. So I've been giving her money and she grocery shops by herself. Would that be ok with you?

It's not what I would do. I would tell her that either she provides more information about EXACTLY what I'm supposed to buy or she starts doing the grocery shopping for the family.

But you're not me. If it works for you, that's what matters.

[Anonymous]

What is the thread for the non kitchen sharing girl??

[Anonymous]

What's wrong with a 16yo doing some grocery shopping? I'm sure I was doing it at that age. It sounds like a very reasonable solution.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What's wrong with a 16yo doing some grocery shopping? I'm sure I was doing it at that age. It sounds like a very reasonable solution.

+1 I think it's great, especially since she's buying health food and not garbage. At 16, I was buying most of my toiletries and feminine products with my own money because my mother was incredibly cheap and bought the store-brand of everything including shampoo and maxi-pads.

[Anonymous]

I can't believe people think this is a bad idea. She's 16, not 6!

OP, I have always loved grocery shopping. My mom hated. At 16 when I got my license I did the grocery shopping for the whole family.