Toot your own horn!

[Anonymous]

I like to tell people how good they look today, how cool their shirt is, how beautiful their hair look...

stuff like that

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If I see another female, someone I know or not, who looks particularly pretty or has on a pretty shirt or cool shoes or something, I always tell her. So many women never compliment other women. I know that, technically per good manners, you are never supposed to comment on another person's appearance, but telling another woman that her shirt is pretty, or you dig her shoes, or she looks radiant, can really make someone's day. I try to do it regularly and it I often get a surprised look and then an brillaint, happy smile, and thanks and it always brightens up my day too!

I do that do! But one time I accidentally insulted a woman at work. She'd gotten a new haircut, it looked great, and it was a big change. So I told her I thought her new 'do was really nice. Instead of saying thanks, she wanted to know why I didn't like her old haircut! I didn't even word it that way, all I said was I like the new one. Anyway, I like to give compliments, but only sincere ones.

And, if I get really good service somewhere, I let someone know. I think we are so quick to complain about people in retail and service professions, but when we get good service we don't always speak up. So I like to do that, especially if I can let someone's supervisor know they impressed me.

[Anonymous]

I try to remember to smile, say thank you, and not respond with anger - even if treated poorly. What really really helps is having a toddler around watching your every move.

I try to hold open doors.

When I am alone at the grocery store, and I see a woman trying to wrangle, a grocery cart and kids trying to get groceries in her car, I offer to return the cart for her (I guess I should do the same with men, but I notice women more often).

I try to give people the benefit of the doubt (maybe they didn't mean to cut me off, maybe they are just having a bad day).

I .....*gasp* .......let people merge into my lane when they have their blinker on. It always makes my day when I don't have to fight just to change lanes.

[Anonymous]

I:

ask tourists with maps if they need help

offer assistance to disabled people

give up my seat on the metro for pregnant, disabled, elderly and children (but not for kids over 5 - sorry, but you're young and haven't been at work all day!)

give up part of my lunch when I see someone digging through the garbage for food or buy a homeless person a cup of coffee on a cold day

buy Street Sense to help the homeless whenever I can

follow the "golden rule" in general & try to do one mitzvah every day!

I like this post - it's nice to hear about the good in people...

[Anonymous]

yesterday a woman asked me for help in the metro parking lot - her car wouldn't start. i hesitated because I was running late for the daycare pickup and didn't think I'd be much good, but said i'd look at it. it turned out her steering wheel had locked when she parked, so it wouldn't start. i've done this a few times so I was able to "fix" it by turning the wheel sharply to the right, which released it and allowed the car to start. She acted like I was a hero. It felt pretty good to actually be able to help someone.

[Anonymous]

OP here. Thank you for all the comments. Please keep them coming.

[Anonymous]

I write handwritten notes to people, and not for any particular reason. To tell a friend how much they mean to me, to thank a store manager for good service, to my great-aunt so that she'll get some mail other than her bills, etc.

[Anonymous]

I pay an illegal immigrant $25/hr to watch my son when I need help or want to go out. She walked here from El Salvador accross the desert, and sufferes from PTSD from the horrors she witnessed and suffered during their very bloody civil war. I could pay her half that, but she lives on the brink of poverty and spends all of her money on diabetes medication and has very little income potential. I give her friends and family first shot at any odd jobs/handyman work I have to have done around the house and pay them "citizen" wages. I always have her and a couple of her family members in for our holiday feasts.

[Anonymous]

I also compliment random strangers, especially if they look down.

[Anonymous]

I give blood whenever possible, give a child a push on a swing when they need one, try to have good manners and treat others as I wish to be treated (expect when driving on 495), never talk on my cell phone when someone else is waiting on me-kind of like treating them as if they not important enough for your full attention when they didn't choose to wait on you in the first place, let my friends know I'm there if they need me, call my grandmother once a week and listen to a little blathering because I know her grandkids are the only thing she gets really excited about these days; make sure I always have a funny story about my nephew for her(that one's easy), see if someone stopped on the side of the road needs help or needs to use my cell phone, try and write something positive or encouraging when people on this site post that they are sad or don't feel empowered, let Jeff know about SPAM when I see it. That's about it.

[Anonymous]

This thread is so positive...gasp...troll power diminishing. Huff, puff...Find myself unable to flame...or even mildly judge...Must depart immediately...Exeunt

[Anonymous]

So this is how we get trolls to go away!

[Anonymous]

I try and act kindly towards everyone. I exercise patience. When I have some extra money, I give it to folks who need it. I listen.

[Anonymous]

I love this thread. I need to improve myself wrt kindness.

[Anonymous]

I hereby donate my used car or truck to Purple Heart in honor of Leah Patricia-vaya con dios.