Why won't my husband admit he likes our cat?

[Anonymous]

I think it's just called getting a rise out of your uptight wife.

[Anonymous]

Maybe your husband and cat are plotting against you ? I suspect mine is doing that.

My husband loves all of our cats. He doesn't hide it either.

[Anonymous]

My dad was like that. Always said bad things about the cat. But at dinner he'd drop little bits of chicken to the floor for her. He'd watch Jeapordy and she'd sit next to him on the couch and he'd rub her head in a clumsy, Lenny-from-Of-Mice-and-Men sort of way. When he went to sleep at night, she'd settle in on the pillow that used to be my mother's on the other side of the bed. Love is what you do, not what you say.

[Anonymous]

My DH also refuses to admit his love for our kitty. Even though he readily dropped $7K on him when he got really sick. He pretends it was a favor to me

[Anonymous]

I've never heard that liking cats is "unmanly". Never met a guy that says he hates cats. Dad loves cats, DH loves cats, FIL loves cats, DS loves cats.

Weird that boy's clothes don't have cats, though.

[Anonymous]

I have a cat. This is my second cat, so it's not like it's a new thing for me to have cats. Apparently I am a cat person. I find it a little embarrassing to be a cat person. I feel like there is this stigma there. it's not all-American and accepted like being a dog person. (which I'm totally not.) And I'm female.

Look, for whatever reason, your husband thinks it's embarrassing to admit that he likes your cat. Liking cats is kind of considered to be a female thing. It's kind of cute that he denies liking your cat. be glad he does, even if he doesn't admit it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I know this is a dumb topic but it's something that bothers me. We have 1 cat who was mine before we met. He pets her, plays with her, holds her, brushes her and even on occasion makes a bed for her in an empty box. All actions of like/love to me, yet he claims he doesn't like her at all. I ask then why he does all those things and he says "so she won't claw my eyes out while sleeping. I need to stay on her good side". I point out, she's never clawed anybody or even killed any bugs so why would he think she'd do that and he says "there's a first time for everything".

I think he likes her but doesn't want to admit it for some reason... Why? To piss me off? Is it because it's not considered manly to like a cat or something?

I think you hit it with it isn't considered "manly" for men to like cats. Ridiculous, isn't it?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My dad was like that. Always said bad things about the cat. But at dinner he'd drop little bits of chicken to the floor for her. He'd watch Jeapordy and she'd sit next to him on the couch and he'd rub her head in a clumsy, Lenny-from-Of-Mice-and-Men sort of way. When he went to sleep at night, she'd settle in on the pillow that used to be my mother's on the other side of the bed. Love is what you do, not what you say.

aw. This brought tears to my eyes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think it is the unmanly thing. My dad was the same when we were growing up.

Yes. Gender identity insecurity. Does he drive a giant truck or SUV?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My dad was like that. Always said bad things about the cat. But at dinner he'd drop little bits of chicken to the floor for her. He'd watch Jeapordy and she'd sit next to him on the couch and he'd rub her head in a clumsy, Lenny-from-Of-Mice-and-Men sort of way. When he went to sleep at night, she'd settle in on the pillow that used to be my mother's on the other side of the bed. Love is what you do, not what you say.

aw. This brought tears to my eyes.

Very sweet. Bless your Dad.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Look, I'm a guy and hate cats, but they love me. Despite hating cats, I will generally be nice to them because I think it is wrong to be cruel to pets, especially in their own homes. They have no choice in their habitat or lives. So, if I'm visiting or staying in a home with cats, I'll be nice to them, but I will try to avoid them where possible and will never have one. Fortunately, my wife is allergic to cats, so I'll never be stuck like OP's husband.

Cats are attracted to indefference. Disdain even

Like women

[Anonymous]

Hahaha...Funny story there.

Yes, it is either one of two things. On second thought, it could be both. Lol.

For one, he probably thinks that real men do not like cats. Only pussy. (Sorry. Yes, I just went there....)

Also, he doesn't want to admit he is ever wrong because of his damn pride.

As long as he treats the kitty with respect, I wouldn't make too much of a big deal about it.

I have two kitties and know they would never hurt a fly.

Yes, there is a FIRST time for everything...I'm still waiting for hell to freeze over.

[Anonymous]

Our sons love our cats very much.

[Anonymous]

I think not admitting he likes the cat serves three purposes:

1) to tease you
2) the unmanly thing,
3) to make sure he is not assigned any work re the cat

I think no. 3 is the most important. The second he is outed as liking the cat, he's fair game to be asked to do something for it. This way, he's got you trained so you don't even ASK him to do anything for the cat!

Wow. That's very cat-like of him.

[Anonymous]

haha op here. I can't believe this thread got so many replies! I guess I came off as uptight in the original post but it is kinda funny to me. It's just that it's gone on for so long now that I wish he could admit he likes the cat and we could all move on with our lives!