What's an appropriate gift for a gf?

[Anonymous]

Anything in a light blue box.

[Anonymous]

I would love a weekend away but I don't want to go with a broken ankle. I won't heal until another 4-5 weeks. A necklace sounds good!

[Anonymous]

Anyone can buy a spa gift certificate online or choose a generic necklace. Get her a gift that shows you know her, and have been paying attention to her interests. Think about the things she loves, and then treat her to something she would feel guilty buying herself. The incredibly tailored gorgeous suit or handmade briefcase for a young professional, the expensive top of the line running shoes she can't justify buying. The pottery barn chair she loves to curl up in to read on Sunday afternoons. The really top notch camera. Only you know what her interests and hobbies are, and what she loves to do. And points for buying tickets for both of you to go to the concert she really wants to see by the musician you hate or blocking off an afternoon to go to the National Gallery, which you think is boring, and then going cheerfully.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Anyone can buy a spa gift certificate online or choose a generic necklace. Get her a gift that shows you know her, and have been paying attention to her interests. Think about the things she loves, and then treat her to something she would feel guilty buying herself. The incredibly tailored gorgeous suit or handmade briefcase for a young professional, the expensive top of the line running shoes she can't justify buying. The pottery barn chair she loves to curl up in to read on Sunday afternoons. The really top notch camera. Only you know what her interests and hobbies are, and what she loves to do. And points for buying tickets for both of you to go to the concert she really wants to see by the musician you hate or blocking off an afternoon to go to the National Gallery, which you think is boring, and then going cheerfully.

My sister's boyfriend did that non-sense - all practical gifts, no jewelry. Years later they are still not married, but together and she's bitter. Jewelry!

[Anonymous]

Apple watch. Done.

Ha actually jk - that is such a "guy" thing to give bc that is what a guy would want. Nothing really says "I'm serious about you" than a nice piece of jewelry.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Anyone can buy a spa gift certificate online or choose a generic necklace. Get her a gift that shows you know her, and have been paying attention to her interests. Think about the things she loves, and then treat her to something she would feel guilty buying herself. The incredibly tailored gorgeous suit or handmade briefcase for a young professional, the expensive top of the line running shoes she can't justify buying. The pottery barn chair she loves to curl up in to read on Sunday afternoons. The really top notch camera. Only you know what her interests and hobbies are, and what she loves to do. And points for buying tickets for both of you to go to the concert she really wants to see by the musician you hate or blocking off an afternoon to go to the National Gallery, which you think is boring, and then going cheerfully.

+1. If your gf is a jewelry type a necklace is a great idea. If she's not it will make her feel like you don't know her at all. The best gifts are the ones that make you feel heard & seen. So really listen and pay attention to her for a bit. People drop unintentional hints all the time - listen for a casual remark about being interested in a new restaurant and then make reservations there, etc.

[Anonymous]

If you go the jewelry route, make sure it's not in a ring box.

[Anonymous]

If you go the jewelry route, be sure you are not replacing something she cherishes. My dad gave me jewelry for every birthday. When he was dying he gave me a pair of diamond earrings that I would've gotten about a month later. They are now the only earrings I wear. I would hope (and have complete faith) my BF would realize that earrings were not appropriate for me, but a necklace would be.

Do you thank her for what she does? My BF early on never really made me feel like what I did was appreciated or enough. We separated and 4 days later he called me saying how much he needed me, he was wrong, etc. Ever since I get thank yous for all the little things I do and the big ones too. It helped our relationship immensely.

[Anonymous]

OP here. I thank her all the time. I am deciding against jewelry - she has plenty! I think a nice spa day would be great for her. She loves getting pampered. I already have a surprise trip planned for us for her birthday later this summer. I'm talking her on a tropical vacation, in a spot where she said she always wanted to go.