Who pays?
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Anonymous
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Usually my parents pay. They are local and we eat with them often (occasionally in restaurants and frequently when my mother has us over for dinner).
My mother-in-law, however, rarely reaches for her wallet. She lives out of state and we see her a few times a year. |
Anonymous
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They pay most of the time at formal restuarants, but we pay for at least one nice meal per visit.
Food court at a mall would probably mean the kids are with us and grandma's visiting for the weekend, tagging along with us on weekend activities - we'd most likely separate and get our own food, but if we were eating at the same place, we'd pay. |
Anonymous
Another like this. Typically we split the check at expensive dinners. |
Anonymous
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My parents always pay though there is typically a friendly argument that ensues before this happens. The only way we get to pay is if we expressly arrange beforehand.
With my in-laws, it's about 50/50. |
Anonymous
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My parents insist that until they retire they will pay. My DH will usually insist and every-so-often he will pay. Food court type scenario- every man for himself. If its something small, my parents will let us pay. That being said- they have made it clear that once they are retired and on a fixed income, they will no longer pay for that kind of stuff. Maybe for special occasions.
We pay for everything for FIL. MIL and her husband probably split with us 50/50. They will always find a way to sneak the bill if its a pricey place. |
Anonymous
| My parents always try to pay. After some coaxing, they will allow us to pay, sometimes. I have to coach my husband to get them to let us pay. |
Anonymous
My parents and I have a game - each person tries to sneak the bill without the other person noticing. It's gotten a lot easier now that Dad is distracted playing with grandkids, and I can quietly take care of the check before he sees anything  .
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Anonymous
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With my in-laws, we pay.
With my parents, they pay, unless we're out with my in-laws, in which case we pay. My parents raised me to believe that once you're an adult, you pay for your parents. The reason they pay when we go out is because they pay for my sibling's family and feel it wouldn't be fair otherwise. We also engage in regular friendly fights for the check and I usually don't let them win the expensive checks. They let us pay when we're out with the in-laws because they know the in-laws can't reciprocate and don't want anyone to feel uncomfortable. |
Anonymous
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Food court we would probably get our own and stop at different places. Actual restaurant, my mother would always attempt to and want to pay, though I pick it up every so often when I can. bigger family dinners my parents always pay (unless like you said, birthday or something.
ILs, always awkward moment when the check comes as they will wait for us to grab it or tell us what we owe, occasionally actually picking it up, but it's always awkward. |
Anonymous
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Anonymous
| We make considerably more than my In laws - with them we always pay. We make considerably less than my parents - they always offer to pay although sometimes we do pay. |
Anonymous
| I always pay when my daughter and I go out to eat. |
Anonymous
| My parents always pay. |
Anonymous
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With American set of parents, it's a fight for who pays, regardless of who is visiting whom.
With the European set of parents, the bill sits until we pay, regardless of who is visiting whom. Both sets of parents have enough money. |
Anonymous
| We have now decided that eating out bills are split 50/50 with family. It was getting ridiculous previously. |