I'm a new Para. What do you want me to know?

[Anonymous]

Thank you for asking! The main thing is to remember, and really believe, that all kids are good when they can be. The ASD first grader who is otherwise really smart but freezes in front of a particular worksheet is experiencing a crisis that is probably deeply frustrating and embarrassing for him. Ditto the girl who has difficulty transitioning from one task to another. These kids have neurological problems that make them unable to do things that it seems like they should be able to do, and it often looks like they are being intentionally difficult or defiant. They are not. Or if they are, it's to cover for embarrassment about the underlying problem. So love, love, love, compassion, compassion, compassion. And talk to the parents. We're worried about our kids and desperate for information about how they're doing, and just for the reassurance of knowing that someone cares and is trying to help.

In the longer run I'd also urge you to take advantage of the really remarkable expertise that is available in this area, to learn as much as you can and spread that knowledge. There are special needs schools around here that are among the best in the country. Doctors and scientists like Bill Stixrud and Dan Shapiro and David Black are leaders in their fields and give public lectures and teach classes. You will have opportunities to learn from some incredible people if you seek them out.

But mostly, thank you for doing what you do and for wanting to do it better.

[Anonymous]

Great post, PP. Second her thoughts enthusiastically. Thank you OP for all your work with our children!!