SAHMs, how do you deal with the loneliness?

[Anonymous]

I SAH and am not lonely. This is because after becoming a SAHM, I put myself out there - I started tennis lessons and now play regularly with a group of other SAHMs and part-time SAHMs, I volunteer at my children's school regularly, I own a dog and walk him through the neighborhood daily and have managed to meet others while walking and now have dog playdates (funny, I know), and I am very close to my Mom and call her daily. I am a total introvert, but eventually I meet people who are more outgoing than me and will invite me for coffee, etc. Ha! Also, when I had my kids, I totally put myself out there in terms of hosting play dates in my tiny, out-of-date home. Moms were so happy to have a place to bring their babies/toddlers and talk over coffee and muffins. Eventually, I made close friends through this and we still get together twice a month or so. Regular date nights with the husband also help.

But really, I would LOVE to have a flexible job or part-time work.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I SAH and am not lonely. This is because after becoming a SAHM, I put myself out there - I started tennis lessons and now play regularly with a group of other SAHMs and part-time SAHMs, I volunteer at my children's school regularly, I own a dog and walk him through the neighborhood daily and have managed to meet others while walking and now have dog playdates (funny, I know), and I am very close to my Mom and call her daily. I am a total introvert, but eventually I meet people who are more outgoing than me and will invite me for coffee, etc. Ha! Also, when I had my kids, I totally put myself out there in terms of hosting play dates in my tiny, out-of-date home. Moms were so happy to have a place to bring their babies/toddlers and talk over coffee and muffins. Eventually, I made close friends through this and we still get together twice a month or so. Regular date nights with the husband also help.

But really, I would LOVE to have a flexible job or part-time work.

I know right??? That is truly having it all! A PT job sounds like complete perfection.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I SAH and am not lonely. This is because after becoming a SAHM, I put myself out there - I started tennis lessons and now play regularly with a group of other SAHMs and part-time SAHMs, I volunteer at my children's school regularly, I own a dog and walk him through the neighborhood daily and have managed to meet others while walking and now have dog playdates (funny, I know), and I am very close to my Mom and call her daily. I am a total introvert, but eventually I meet people who are more outgoing than me and will invite me for coffee, etc. Ha! Also, when I had my kids, I totally put myself out there in terms of hosting play dates in my tiny, out-of-date home. Moms were so happy to have a place to bring their babies/toddlers and talk over coffee and muffins. Eventually, I made close friends through this and we still get together twice a month or so. Regular date nights with the husband also help.

But really, I would LOVE to have a flexible job or part-time work.

All of this! Except the dog, which is the next thing on my list once the youngest is a little bit older. I'm also an introvert, but being a SAHM has forced me out of my shell. In fact, most people I know now think of me as an extrovert. You really have to put yourself out there and accept that everyone you meet will not be your best friend, but that if you keep trying, you will find a circle of friends. My first year as a SAHM was tough, but the last two have been great because I made a huge effort to make friends and be open to any social opportunities that arose. I also stopped worrying that my house was too small or too out-of-date and just started inviting over friends. Like PP said, most SAHMs are just happy to get out of their own homes, no matter how large or beautiful they are, and spend time with other people...and if they judge you on your home, then you wouldn't want to be friends with them anyway.

[Anonymous]

Tennis and flirting and the occasional book.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Tennis and flirting and the occasional book.

Who do you flirt with, and how far do you take it?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Tennis and flirting and the occasional book.

Who do you flirt with, and how far do you take it?

lol- I could really just say flirting because tennis is what allows me to wear short tennis skirts out and about. And yes I do it for the male attention but sorry only my fantasy life is open the real thing is for DH only.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Tennis and flirting and the occasional book.

Who do you flirt with, and how far do you take it?

lol- I could really just say flirting because tennis is what allows me to wear short tennis skirts out and about. And yes I do it for the male attention but sorry only my fantasy life is open the real thing is for DH only.

Do you tell DH about the guys flirting with you? Does it turn him on?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Tennis and flirting and the occasional book.

Who do you flirt with, and how far do you take it?

lol- I could really just say flirting because tennis is what allows me to wear short tennis skirts out and about. And yes I do it for the male attention but sorry only my fantasy life is open the real thing is for DH only.

While he pays for your lifestyle. Classy!

[Anonymous]

50 shades of rotten.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Tennis and flirting and the occasional book.

Who do you flirt with, and how far do you take it?

lol- I could really just say flirting because tennis is what allows me to wear short tennis skirts out and about. And yes I do it for the male attention but sorry only my fantasy life is open the real thing is for DH only.

While he pays for your lifestyle. Classy!

He's happy having me be happy and he keeps his game up.

[Anonymous]

I think it's hard to be lonely if you're a SAHM in the city. If you live in the suburbs it's hard to not be lonely whether you SAH or not.