How old were you when you had your second (or third)?

[Anonymous]

33 and 35

[Anonymous]

32 and 34. We're planning another one. Never thought that I'd want 3 but both DH and I come from families of 4 and 2 just doesn't seem enough for us. I'm 35 now and DH is 43. We'd have 4 if we were both younger. We want to have our third (and last) in the next year or two so we can have the kids out of the house by the time we start collecting social security!

[Anonymous]

34 and 37. We are game to have a third, but #2 is just 5 months and that's a bit too soon for me. Plus, I don't have my period back yet. We'll probably start trying when she's 15 months to squeeze in #3 before I turn 40.

[Anonymous]

married at 28, had #1 at 35, #2 at 36 and I am SO done!

[Anonymous]

39 when I got pg with my first, but she had downs, and I decided to do a termination. I had two healthy babies after that without any artificial means for having them. Then I had my first at age 41 and second at age 43. I wish I could go for #3 but due to pg complications with #2, just don't think it's a good idea.

[Anonymous]

27 and 31

[Anonymous]

36 and 38

[Anonymous]

I love all these mid-to-late 30/early 40s pregnancy posts!

I posted earlier about having my first at 32 and we would like another but are in no hurry - it's great to see so many people having them "later."

To the poster who is struggling with secondary infertility, I am so sorry - but you are young and still have plenty of opportunities. Good luck to you.

[Anonymous]

Had number one at 30 and hope to have number two at 33-34.

[Anonymous]

31 and 34. Had ruled out a third because I'm now "advanced maternal age" (35), but seeing all the late 30's, early 40's parents is making me reconsider!

[Anonymous]

37 for #1 and 39 for #2 (on the way now). Probably won't for for #3, but haven't 100% ruled it out. Don't let the age be a reason not to go for another (or two) - most OBs in this area don't even consider anything below 40 high risk. Good luck with whatever you decide.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm 35 now and just had my first. I always thought I'd stop at one given my age, both in terms of it being more difficult to get pregnant and also in terms of wanting to enjoy a little "me" time without young children in the house by the time I'm in my fifties. Now I'm reconsidering because, well, having one has been incredible so far.

I'd love to know when other people had their children and how they feel about it after the fact. Or, alternatively, when others are planning to have their second or third and how old they'll be. Just looking to hear other people's perspectives. thanks in advance.

I had my first soooo easily at 28. I figured to wait a little while for number 2. Well, here I am 32 and have been trying without success to get pregnant for 14 months. I wish I had started when #2 was 18mos. I now am faced with having to go to a RE and the whole thought of going through fertility tests is exhausting, overwhelming, and depressing.

I'm feeling afraid of this happening to me. We got pregnant on literally the first try at age 34. Besides being quite large, had a very easy pregnancy and a healthy boy. We waited a while and debated a long time on whether to have a second. Finally made the decision to go for it last fall, started trying in November and nothing yet. Last month we even timed it perfectly to ovulation and still nothing. So, of course now we wished we hadn't waited so long, etc., etc. Plus, I just hate the whole thought of sex on demand, etc. versus the first time when it was so natural with no effort - just pure luck. If we get to the point of having to look at fertility tests, etc., I don't know that we would do it. I think we waivered enough on making the decision on a second that we'd consider that maybe it wasn't meant to be, though I would be heartbroken. Plus $$ would be a major factor for us right now. So strange how things can change from one baby, or one year to another. I wonder about the science behind this. Good luck to you!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm 35 now and just had my first. I always thought I'd stop at one given my age, both in terms of it being more difficult to get pregnant and also in terms of wanting to enjoy a little "me" time without young children in the house by the time I'm in my fifties. Now I'm reconsidering because, well, having one has been incredible so far.

I'd love to know when other people had their children and how they feel about it after the fact. Or, alternatively, when others are planning to have their second or third and how old they'll be. Just looking to hear other people's perspectives. thanks in advance.

I had my first soooo easily at 28. I figured to wait a little while for number 2. Well, here I am 32 and have been trying without success to get pregnant for 14 months. I wish I had started when #2 was 18mos. I now am faced with having to go to a RE and the whole thought of going through fertility tests is exhausting, overwhelming, and depressing.

I'm feeling afraid of this happening to me. We got pregnant on literally the first try at age 34. Besides being quite large, had a very easy pregnancy and a healthy boy. We waited a while and debated a long time on whether to have a second. Finally made the decision to go for it last fall, started trying in November and nothing yet. Last month we even timed it perfectly to ovulation and still nothing. So, of course now we wished we hadn't waited so long, etc., etc. Plus, I just hate the whole thought of sex on demand, etc. versus the first time when it was so natural with no effort - just pure luck. If we get to the point of having to look at fertility tests, etc., I don't know that we would do it. I think we waivered enough on making the decision on a second that we'd consider that maybe it wasn't meant to be, though I would be heartbroken. Plus $$ would be a major factor for us right now. So strange how things can change from one baby, or one year to another. I wonder about the science behind this. Good luck to you!

PP here. Forgot to mention that I am 37 now; will be 38 this fall.

[Anonymous]

34 at No. 1; 37 at No. 2; and 40 (almost 41) for our third

[Anonymous]

I also LOVE all of these late 30's posts! To the woman who was worried about being AMA at 35, girl, don't sweat it! It's true that there are higher chances of some chromosomal anomolies, but personally I think the age is less of a danger than the fact that I blissfully drank DC tap water for the better part of the last decade... And the chances for trouble are still SOOO low, statistically speaking. It's easy to get caught up in how much "higher" your chances for an anomoly are until you realize that even if you're twice as likely to have a baby with a problem than a younger woman, it's still rare.

I was worried that I would not have the energy to be pregnant at 35 (will be 36 in a few short weeks) but the truth is, I feel fantastic. I've never felt better and I've never felt healthier. We're a much "younger" generation of 30 and 40 somethings than even a decade ago. I really think that is true for the most part.

Good luck all of you awesome older mommies!