Should I Tell Him Now...Or Just Wait...Or Not Tell Him At All??

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I recently started seeing this guy and we've been dating for about two months, more or less.

He has told me that he really likes me and wants me to be his girlfriend.

I would like to be exclusive as well, yet have avoided it for one reason.

In my past, I suffered from depression and was prescribed meds. Zoloft and Seroquel.

The meds have alleviated my depression as well as my anxiety and life is much manageable now than it ever has been.

We haven't discussed mental illness, use of medication to treat it, etc. so I do not know how he personally feels about these meds. I know some people have issues with taking medication for depression.

Should I tell him now? Wait? Or just never disclose to him? Thx Everyone. Have an awesome week!~

Those people have no idea what depression is, and they're best kept out of your life.

You will have to tell him at some stage - the fact that you're on medication will affect many aspects of your life (e.g. your reproductive life). Now is a good time as any, I'd say better than further into the relationship, as it won't hurt as much to cut your losses if he turns out to be a jerk who's prejudiced against mentally ill people and people who take medication for depression.

[Anonymous]

I would not tell him, because based upon your other post, you guys are not a good fit.

[Anonymous]

Do him a favor and tell him. My ex didn't tell me and it got much worse during the marriage. It was living hell and not what I signed up for. I was duped and would never have continued to date him, much less marry him. His medication stopped working over time and he became horrible and lied constantly.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My wife didn't tell me she had similar problems before we got married. Had I known, I probably would not have married her. But I did, and the mental illness came back, and it's a living hell for a partner.

My DH didn't tell me about his clinical depression until after we had a child together. I'm not sure I would have married him has I known the truth. I feel he robbed me of the chance to decide for myself - I feel a lot of resentment towards him for keeping this secret. Please tell him now.

[Anonymous]

I cannot figure out how or why people know that someone is the same poster "sock puppeting."

I thought the same person was posting the questions ONLY posts in this section...I thought it was someone either extremely bored or someone who was doing research on relationships/marriage.

But they said they were not one and the same person. I too, thought their writing styles were the same since they only consisted of short questions.

Anyhoo, I believe some people come on here and purposely copy other's style of writing and punctuation. And just because someone posts in a similar time frame means nothing.

I like my ~ !

[Anonymous]

My opinion is that if you are on here so much that you start to recognize similar writing styles, punctuations and emocions, etc., that should be a clear signal that you come on here way too much for your own good.

I can never tell who wrote what post and I most certainly do not have the time or the inclination to copy and paste previous links up to prove my point.

[Anonymous]

I would tell him. It's not fair to either of you to hide it. It is a part of you. He may end it with you if he can't deal, but then good riddance.

Or - he may be totally supportive.

But tell him. Please.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My wife didn't tell me she had similar problems before we got married. Had I known, I probably would not have married her. But I did, and the mental illness came back, and it's a living hell for a partner.

My mother has epilepsy and didn't tell my father before they got married. My grandfather used the phrase "damaged goods." Soon after they got married my mother had such a seizure that she lost her memory and didn't know who my father was. She thought he was a kidnapper who was holding her hostage. I spent my 20's completely terrified I would develop epilepsy and be like my mother. Horrible.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My wife didn't tell me she had similar problems before we got married. Had I known, I probably would not have married her. But I did, and the mental illness came back, and it's a living hell for a partner.

I'm sorry.
I'm in a similar marriage with undisclosed mental and physical ailments on DH's side which are hereditary.

...had I known or knew to ask when we got married at 22....

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would not tell him, because based upon your other post, you guys are not a good fit.

+1000. Breakup and you won't have to tell him anything. The guy sounds like a control freak and your relationship does not sound like a good match at all.