Do anyone here actually get along with their in laws?

[Anonymous]

The Midwest comment makes me laugh--a good friend has in-laws in the Midwest and they are AWFUL. Fox News on 24/7 and racist rants at dinner. Terrible, terrible cooking (think Jello and green bean salads). A total refusal to do or try anything new.

My in-laws are from New England. They are warm, hospitable people. Their personalities drive me nuts in many ways, but we get along fine. The occasional issue with my FIL, who can be loud and inconsiderate, and my in-laws are constitutionally incapable of planning anything in advance, which can be really frustrating and annoying, but again, they are nice, welcoming people.

[Anonymous]

I love mine, they are like 2nd parents to me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I do. It's my spouse who has the crazy in-laws.

Me too. My DH's parents are laid back people who love the grandchildren but have their own lives as well. They don't offer unsolicited advice and they're just pretty lighthearted people who see their son as an adult.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Maybe it is because all of my husband's family hails from the midwest. Sorry I'm not being smug here I just see so many people hate their mil or their sil or what have you. I can't relate! I get along with my brother's wife and her family too. I'm wondering if I just really lucked out or if what I experience is the norm?

My MIL is a wonderful lady who made me feel loved and welcome. She made me feel like her son made a wonderful choice and was grateful he found me. Who knows maybe they all talk behind my back.

Although they're now deceased, you've described the relationship I always had with my in-laws. They also got along extremely well with my parents, so we enjoyed many extended family fun and special times.

[Anonymous]

My relationship with my ILs is fairly distant, because that's what DH's relationship was with them before I entered the picture. It's sad for me because I had a wonderful IL model with my parents -- they always got on well with each others' families and visited regularly. My mom is good friends with dad's sister and will go visit her without my dad. That's the relationship I expected but it didn't turn out that way.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The Midwest comment makes me laugh--a good friend has in-laws in the Midwest and they are AWFUL. Fox News on 24/7 and racist rants at dinner. Terrible, terrible cooking (think Jello and green bean salads). A total refusal to do or try anything new.

My in-laws are from New England. They are warm, hospitable people. Their personalities drive me nuts in many ways, but we get along fine. The occasional issue with my FIL, who can be loud and inconsiderate, and my in-laws are constitutionally incapable of planning anything in advance, which can be really frustrating and annoying, but again, they are nice, welcoming people.

Now concerned my DH has a secret wife as this describes my IL's to a tee.

[Anonymous]

I adore my brother's wife! She's my favorite in-law. My DH's family on the other hand...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I do. It's my spouse who has the crazy in-laws.

Same here.

[Anonymous]

I get along with my IL's just fine. We are very different, but they love our DS and that is what counts.

[Anonymous]

After a rocky start I got along just fine with my ILs. My SIL and BIL and their families are very close. My DH gets along very well with both my (divorced) parents and volunteers that we should do more with them. We have done vacations with all sets of parents - ILs because they have a beach house, and my parents in other locations.

[Anonymous]

I would, if they were not insular, cliquish and cold - and were instead warm, welcoming and inclusive.

Not gonna happen.

[Anonymous]

Yes I like my in laws. They have their quirks but don't we all?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My relationship with my ILs is fairly distant, because that's what DH's relationship was with them before I entered the picture. It's sad for me because I had a wonderful IL model with my parents -- they always got on well with each others' families and visited regularly. My mom is good friends with dad's sister and will go visit her without my dad. That's the relationship I expected but it didn't turn out that way.

Me too. It makes me especially sad now that I have a child who will never experience what I had.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We get along fine. They irritate me sometimes, but then so do my parents and I love them dearly.

Yes, exactly this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The Midwest comment makes me laugh--a good friend has in-laws in the Midwest and they are AWFUL. Fox News on 24/7 and racist rants at dinner. Terrible, terrible cooking (think Jello and green bean salads). A total refusal to do or try anything new.

My in-laws are from New England. They are warm, hospitable people. Their personalities drive me nuts in many ways, but we get along fine. The occasional issue with my FIL, who can be loud and inconsiderate, and my in-laws are constitutionally incapable of planning anything in advance, which can be really frustrating and annoying, but again, they are nice, welcoming people.

These things are no more common in the Midwest than other parts of the country, unfortunately.