Insecure guys with big egos

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Combination of insecure and big ego is an oxymoron.

Not at all. They often go together.

Big egos are often fragile egos. Small, humble egos tend to be secure.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Combination of insecure and big ego is an oxymoron.

Not with BPD. Especially in men. This sounds like my stbxH so I took a chance. Foundation is self loathing, escapes reality of his poor choices with narcissism.

[Anonymous]

Maybe he was just thinking about you but knows everything is working against your being together?

[Anonymous]

I fell hard for a man like this and it was devastating. My advice: RUN.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Can someone explain what's going on with these individuals? How do you make a connection? The one I know has problems being vulnerable, gets needy if he thinks he'll lose me and distant if he thinks he's got me. I like him, though I'm not overly invested. I want to know what makes him tick.

Borderline Personality Disorder with a touch of Narcissism. Its a real winning combo.

There's no way you could diagnose BPD given that info.

The narcissism sounds right though. He has a grandiose self image. When he fails to live up to his own ridiculous expectations (and others fail to "recognize" his awesomeness) he probably gets upset.

But, when his ego recovers, he's back to taking people for granted again.

I was thinking this, too. I divorced one of these men.

[Anonymous]

He is probably just depressed.