But another confrontation in a library playroom!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You were. You shouldn't allow your child to throw blocks of any kind of setting.


And what difference does it make that she was a nanny or a mother?

+ 1 Nannies are "the help" in some mother's minds and shouldn't be allowed to speak to any "master".

+2 no throwing toys indoors. Small children can't be expected to know the difference between toys that will hurt and those that won't. And a corner could've hit someone in the eye.

[Anonymous]

I feel for you OP with the energy and all but community play spaces are for playing with toys as they were intended. This is so anyone playing there will feel and be safe. Throwing a ball? Fine. Throwing a block (no matter how light)? No.

The nanny had the right to speak her mind directly and if your child is indeed as energetic as you say, developing a thicker skin as well as better strategies to divert energy is a priority. You'll be the one cheering loudest on the sideline however when our kids are the team VIP's! Or at least that is what I keep telling myself

[Anonymous]

Come on - you are. You can't allow throwing of toys, doesn't matter if they're heavy or not. The behavior is wrong and you indulged it and then got mad b/c someone said something. I find people like you so strange and unaware.

[Anonymous]

If I was in that situation I really would have liked to hear what the nanny suggested, not just that I needed to "do something." I welcome help on difficult situations, especially if the person has lots of experience.

[Anonymous]

Oh , op I understand caring for a high energy child and being relieved they have found something to occupy themselves for a bit.

But, throwing toys no matter how light shouldn't be allowed unless you are in a space specfically meant for that.

Now speaking, as a nanny , the nanny could have spoken to you more nicely, Had the shoe been on the other foot and you had spoke that way to her I can nearly promise you she would be on some nanny board complaining.
My guess is she has disapproved of your actions with your DC for a while now, and finally tired of you "letting things go"

You live you learn!

[Anonymous]

You LET your child throw blocks in a library? Insane.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If I was in that situation I really would have liked to hear what the nanny suggested, not just that I needed to "do something." I welcome help on difficult situations, especially if the person has lots of experience.

No, it is not the nanny's role to tell her how to parent. It is her role to tell anyone throwing blocks that they should stop, and better yet, to tell it to the parent and let them handle. What else should she do if she sees someone exhibiting such bad parenting?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If I was in that situation I really would have liked to hear what the nanny suggested, not just that I needed to "do something." I welcome help on difficult situations, especially if the person has lots of experience.

It's your own child and you need a suggestion from a stranger? How about taking the blocks away and telling him firmly that that is not allowed. What is wrong with everyone? It's like you're scared of your own children disliking you for disciplining them. If you don't want to discipline, then you need to keep a child like that at home.

[Anonymous]

You! You don't let kids throw toys in public places, damn. Get it together.

[Anonymous]

Just curious what OP's reaction would have been if the nanny had said something like, "Could you please stop your son from throwing blocks? I'm worried he'll hit someone. Thank you."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Just curious what OP's reaction would have been if the nanny had said something like, "Could you please stop your son from throwing blocks? I'm worried he'll hit someone. Thank you."

I would have said exactly what the nanny said. Is that acceptable because I am the mother and not the "domestic"?

[Anonymous]

You don't let your kid throw blocks.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Just curious what OP's reaction would have been if the nanny had said something like, "Could you please stop your son from throwing blocks? I'm worried he'll hit someone. Thank you."

OP doesn't have the brains to tell her son to stop throwing blocks, that do not belong to him, in a community room with other children. Do you seriously think the wording of the request would have made a difference?

You were dead wrong, OP. And you're a jerk for needing to point out that this was the nanny and not the mother.

[Anonymous]

I feel for the nanny. You know if she had asked nicely the OP would have said, "I'll make sure he doesn't hit anyone" and would have let him continue throwing.

You were in the wrong, OP.

[Anonymous]

The nanny sounds like a keeper. She did now cower and look the other way. She actually spoke up. The horror!