Dating a man with hearing aids?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:54 year old woman here. It wouldn't be a turn off at all. What's bothersome is older men who refuse to wear hearing aids because they think they make them look old and then end up frustrating others and themselves because they have a hard time communicating. Good luck! You sound like a nice guy.

This, exactly.

[Anonymous]

It wouldn't affect my feelings about someone at all. Do I notice hearing aids? Sure. Do I care? No.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:54 year old woman here. It wouldn't be a turn off at all. What's bothersome is older men who refuse to wear hearing aids because they think they make them look old and then end up frustrating others and themselves because they have a hard time communicating. Good luck! You sound like a nice guy.

+1

[Anonymous]

Just leave 'em out, and smile and nod whenever she talks.

She doesn't have to be bothered by them, and you don't have to listen to her empty-headed chatter.

WIN-WIN!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:54 year old woman here. It wouldn't be a turn off at all. What's bothersome is older men who refuse to wear hearing aids because they think they make them look old and then end up frustrating others and themselves because they have a hard time communicating. Good luck! You sound like a nice guy.

^^This right here. Good luck, OP!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm mid-40s and the man I'm completely and utterly in love with is early-50s. This is NOT an issue whatsoever. It wasn't even an issue when I was just getting to know him. Don't even give it another thought. I guess I would say IF there is a woman who cares about something like that, she is shallow anyway. It's hard to believe anyone would care, but in case you run across one, good riddance to her.

I'm the pp who wrote this and although I didn't say it word for word, obviously I meant he has hearing aids.

I agree about the guys who won't wear them out of vanity are the ones with whom it would be an issue.

I would not tell a potential date, OP. It is not an issue and should be treated as such. Good luck!

[Anonymous]

I'm 30, wouldn't bother me at all.

[Anonymous]

OP, it wouldnt bother me. What would bother me, if you will act like you are lacking confidence because of your hearing aid. That would be a big turn off.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, it wouldnt bother me. What would bother me, if you will act like you are lacking confidence because of your hearing aid. That would be a big turn off.

OP here. I understand that.

I've had hearing aids for almost 20 years now and honestly I can't count too many times that it even registered with anyone. I rarely even think about it and I have a good sense of humor about it.

But appealing to (new) women is a wrinkle I haven't dealt with. I was simply curious how women would react to them in that sort of scenario. Sounds like I shouldn't make it a concern. So I won't.

Thanks all.

[Anonymous]

Everyone I know who has hearing aids is married. I assume that means it wasn't an issue for the folks to whom they are married.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Everyone I know who has hearing aids is married. I assume that means it wasn't an issue for the folks to whom they are married.

This. And most of them had them before the got married.

You will be fine OP. Good luck dating!

[Anonymous]

OP, we all look at our supposed faults much harsher than other people. The great majority of people are more interested in how you listen and respond vs. the tools you needed to hear in the first place.

[Anonymous]

OP, I'm rounding 40 now, but I can say honestly, hearing aids would never have bothered me. A jerk with lack of confidence would bother me.

I have a friend who had meningitis at age 4. Even with double hearing aids, she is considered deaf. she is lovely, well accomplished, smart as a whip and a dear friend. She suffers a lot of judgment about her intelligence, usually to the detriment of the person judging. She's wonderful.

A few years ago, I had a very handsome co-worker who was completely deaf. I bumbled along in ASL with him, he lip read, we wrote, he spoke. We communicated, in essence, better than many people. It was elaborate and simple at the same time. And had he asked me on a date, I'd have been all over that. He was a super nice guy, smart, great to work with, not to mention cute as heck. Years later, he let me know he had wanted to ask my out but never did, thinking I would be worried about him hearing. I wished he had asked me out..s too late now, but all I'm saying is every time I was with him, I was HOPING (yeah, don't ask my why I just didn't ask him). Confidence, brains, wit.. That's what gals dig. Hearing aid? Nah.. No worries?

If it makes you feel any better, I know a guy with cerebral palsy who needs double canes to walk. He lives in a polygamous relationship that is loving and awesome. I know for sure he's been told he'd never get ANY girl - and he has two hot women that even make ME drool

[Anonymous]

OP, there you have it. The way to a woman's heart is confidence!

[Anonymous]

It should not be and issue, but to someone, it will be an issue. Some people have issues with my glasses, or worse, scars from cancer surgery.... On the third date with someone, things were getting steamy until my shirt came off... she was horrified by the scars and called me a monster. I responded calling her a b****. She slapped me...I never saw her again. I wish I could leave feedback on match.com. note that I am upfront about my history, as it taught me a new way to live life.