Discipline at Private Schools?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It strikes me that privates have more rules and/or higher expectations for how kids comport themselves. Kids get thrown out for offenses that might merit detention at publics. Cheating seems to be taken very seriously at privates. I say this after experience at publics and privates.

I agree. My son was suspended for kicking a friend under a table.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:PPs, name specific schools and provide details where you claim this is happening. Otherwise, my skepticism is high.

The German School. There's has been a significant exodus of great kids over the last few year; worsening discipline standards and increased bullying are one of the main reasons behind this.

[Anonymous]

Interesting. I think boarding schools are tougher because of all the regulations of when kids can leave. They micromanage kids lives. There's more room for misbehavior at day schools.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:PPs, name specific schools and provide details where you claim this is happening. Otherwise, my skepticism is high.

The German School. There's has been a significant exodus of great kids over the last few year; worsening discipline standards and increased bullying are one of the main reasons behind this.

Many thanks for rising to my challenge. IMHO your post above is the only useful piece of information from this entire thread.

[Anonymous]

As a school employee I can't name it but I will suggest you ask about attrition rates for each grade/class not just overall. That will tell you which grade has the troublemakers that drive away the good kids.

[Anonymous]

WIS has issues.

[Anonymous]

It depends on the school

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Which schools have discipline problems? We're waiting on decisions and would hate to spend 30k+ only to find out there are major issues. I know that issues arise at every school but which schools don't handle them well?

All schools have discipline issues. It depends on the class, the students and how well the parents/kids truly understand the rules going in. Every school has kids who screw up.

Enforcement at school does vary.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:As a school employee I can't name it but I will suggest you ask about attrition rates for each grade/class not just overall. That will tell you which grade has the troublemakers that drive away the good kids.

So true. We had two difficult boys in our private. Every single year the entire two classrooms had to be structured around these two boys because the teachers could handle only one of them at a time. One of them particularly liked my DC (a good kid) but was a serious distraction. I asked that they not be placed together the next year and was told "Well, SOMEONE has to be in the same class with him!" That told me it was time to exit and we did.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Depends on the school. We've had kids fight, bring weapons to school, plagiarize, and lie year after year and the same kid walks free in the halls everyday. IME privates are even slacker with regards to discipline than public. They out on a front to attract families but when it comes to it they don't enforce equitably if at all. Wonder if it was different pre-recession.

What school??!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I've noticed here that some private schools here have a very high tolerance for poor behavior. I think if the parents make a significant donation, the school turns the other way.

BINGO!!! witnessed this first hand working at a DC private.

+1

We have zero consequences at our school.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I've noticed here that some private schools here have a very high tolerance for poor behavior. I think if the parents make a significant donation, the school turns the other way.

BINGO!!! witnessed this first hand working at a DC private.

+1

We have zero consequences at our school.

Real question: how do you know? They don't put probation or suspension decisions in the parent newsletter. I get that for older grades kids will generally know if someone has been suspended, but they might very well not know, for example, that a fellow student had been put on probation. And probation is something that schools have to, and do, report in the school report that goes to colleges. So that would be a relatively significant consequence that the school community might not know about.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:WIS has issues.

Do tell.