My father is an absolute horrible person. Vent

[Anonymous]

Sorry OP. They both sound toxic. Maybe it would be best for you to 100% cut your dad out of your life.

[Anonymous]

Sorry too OP. I wonder what percentage of people have terrible dads? Mine was narcissistic and my mom did it all with 8 kids. Growing up, most of my friends' dads were jerks too (mostly German Catholics).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Does your spouse have an opinion on the matter.

Frankly, if my wife had a pot-smoking paroled brother who wanted to move into our house, NO WAY IN HELL would I allow that to happen.

Husband thinks we can/should do it. He loves my brother. Brother is a very good person who manages his bi-polar disorder through self-medication. and not legal self-med.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sorry too OP. I wonder what percentage of people have terrible dads? Mine was narcissistic and my mom did it all with 8 kids. Growing up, most of my friends' dads were jerks too (mostly German Catholics).

OP's father is a GERMAN CATHOLIC! only had 5 total kids by 2 women though so maybe not the best Catholic. And none of us speak German so maybe not the best German.

[Anonymous]

Is there some way your brother can be seen by a psychiatrist and get on meds? I hate how mentally ill people end up in prison instead of being treated by doctors.

[Anonymous]

I would write him a monthly check for the amount of money it would cost for him to live in your home and leave it at that. Tell him that you will do this for a year but after that, he will need to be on his own. I would also buy him a one-way ticket to some place cheaper to live than here. Ultimately, this is his cross to bear. He needs to figure it out.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would write him a monthly check for the amount of money it would cost for him to live in your home and leave it at that. Tell him that you will do this for a year but after that, he will need to be on his own. I would also buy him a one-way ticket to some place cheaper to live than here. Ultimately, this is his cross to bear. He needs to figure it out.

No, don't do the above. Contact the parole people and see if there are other options for his living situation. OP wrote that her brother is supposed to stay with a family member.

[Anonymous]

Your father can't have your brother's parole revoked. If parole is granted, the body that has the power to revoke it would be the judge who sentenced your brother and then only after a hearing. Also, I don't know what state your brother was convicted in, but if it is Virginia, parole was abolished in Virginia long ago. It is possible that your brother was not granted parole because he did not have a release plan.

[Anonymous]

Brother in Mississippi but he does need a release plan. Our after was it but changed
his mind.