Teachers and gifts-- it's just too much
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Anonymous
OP, you pay in to the teacher's gift and we'll get you a Starbucks card! Everybody wins. 
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Anonymous
| You say you're tired of the constant discussion on these boards about teacher gift, but this is the only post about teacher gifts I've seen since Christmas. So as far as I can tell, you are your own problem here. |
Anonymous
Wow, yes, because everyone gets pregnant when they want to. |
Anonymous
| Teacher here. Please don't feel obligated to give a gift. Really, I do not expect it at all. And while I appreciate the thought behind any gift given, no gift is better than a personal note from a student or parent letting me know how my student has benefited from her/his class. |
Anonymous
| You didn't bring your child's teacher the traditional gift of a package of cabbage for St. Elbow's Day? |
Anonymous
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If ti bothers you then don't do it. I know you are thinking "but my kids ask me for gifts for the teacher", tell them that the best gift is a handmade card or a letter. This puts the onus on the child and also teaches them that personal expressions of gratitude are more valuable than money.
I'm not going to say anything bad about your desire to not give a gift, and honestly it wears me out too. I truely believe that if it does not come from the heart you should not give a gift. I do think the gift giving is excessive in MCPS also. |
Anonymous
Well two reasons. One is that my child wasn't born in summer. The other is that my family's income depends on me working summers, so I would still need to take unpaid leave from work if my child was born during summer. I'm not complaining about my job. Different jobs have different perks. I read all the time about federal government workers who get benefits like comp time, leave banks, and pumping rooms. I read about lawyers who get benefits like the flexibility to flex hours so that they can attend events with their kids, "bill" work from home, and year end bonuses. These things sound great to me. One of the perks of my job is that 1 week a year some parents leave bagels in the teacher work room, and the PTA gives me a $20 gift card. One year, instead of a gift card, the PTA sprung for a water cooler for the staff lounge for all of us to share. As someone who drinks a lot of water, I really appreciated that, as it meant that I had access to cool fresh water throughout the day. Somehow, though, DCUM and the rest of the world loves to debate the perks of my job as if they are undeserved. |
Anonymous
This is what I mean. Don't compare your perks to mine. I chose my job you chose yours. Also at our private we are encouraged to do gifts for birthdays, christmas, tracer appreciation and end of year. |
Anonymous
Just like we don't owe all the poor kids in the school free meals, a coat drive and free supplies. Not our problem, their parents chose the wrong path in life. |
Anonymous
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Anonymous
So teachers = poor kids? |
Anonymous
| Jesus you parents complaining about this sound like real assholes. |
Anonymous
NP here. Yes, they could. And yet, you, the lawyer, are the one complaining about the fact that some people actually appreciate what teachers do for their kids enough to want to get them a small gift. Strangely, OP, it sounds like you are jealous of the fact that no one appreciates you. Maybe YOU are the one that chose the wrong profession....
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Anonymous
Well I thought this was funny! Got lost in all the bickering! We DID remember the package of cabbage, and actually found some cute ideas on pinterest to make our own bows with the shredded cabbage. Don't we just exist to make all the other moms look bad!?!
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Anonymous
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Excessive gift-giving is unprofessional.
I do mind if the school is operated unprofessionally. It affects all families, not just the families who give (too much) |