If your mother and father in-law came over from out of state unannounced.

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Anonymous wrote:OP here. Here is the kicker. His mom said thanks for letting us invite ourselves. Then I said nothing and just smiled. And she said don't smerk I know you don't like it. And I just smiled again. What am I supposed to say? My DH and older son go to work and school so I what have to entertain them? I have no real plans but now i feel like being gone but my 2.5 year old needs to nap. They were just here for 4 nights in December and my parents were here two weeks ago. I wasn't planning on having anyone here for a few months!

Leave the house when you can, and do housework during you kid's nap. Do not entertain them. If they make any noise about it, the simple answer is, "I wish we'd had more notice so I could have been prepared to entertain you."

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Anonymous wrote:OP here. Here is the kicker. His mom said thanks for letting us invite ourselves. Then I said nothing and just smiled. And she said don't smerk I know you don't like it. And I just smiled again. What am I supposed to say? My DH and older son go to work and school so I what have to entertain them? I have no real plans but now i feel like being gone but my 2.5 year old needs to nap. They were just here for 4 nights in December and my parents were here two weeks ago. I wasn't planning on having anyone here for a few months!

What a bitch! I would have plans to leave house when your husband leaves for work. Come home only for nap time

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Phyllis, you were right last night when you said that I don't enjoy guests showing up with no notice. You were just here in December and my parents were here for a long visit after that. We really need a few months just to ourselves. You can stay tonight, but let's look at the calendar and decide together when would be a good time for you to return.

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Anonymous wrote:Would it have made a difference if it were your own parents arriving unannounced?

It is interesting that one sees all these gripes about interfering, inconsiderate in-laws and rarely about the parents. I guess all the parents are wonderful non-interfering and considerate people!

It's not like they stopped by unannounced for lunch. They drove from out of state, presumably with packed suitcases, planning to stay for a couple of nights. I don't care who it is, that's really horrible!!

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Anonymous wrote:OP here. Here is the kicker. His mom said thanks for letting us invite ourselves. Then I said nothing and just smiled. And she said don't smerk I know you don't like it. And I just smiled again. What am I supposed to say? My DH and older son go to work and school so I what have to entertain them? I have no real plans but now i feel like being gone but my 2.5 year old needs to nap. They were just here for 4 nights in December and my parents were here two weeks ago. I wasn't planning on having anyone here for a few months!

Oooh, she's a bitch, op. This is on your dh. He's got to tell them this is not okay and will not happen again. She knows she's running over you and your dh won't stop her.

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I would plan on leaving the house. Make up a playdate you have scheduled or something and then come home for nap and just go to your room and watch netflix or something. She sounds awful.
Curious how did they arrive? Call on their way? Ring the doorbell?

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Why did you let them stay at your house? What they did is so horribly rude. I would have used my grown up words and given them names of a few hotels.

Why do people take thus crap? You teach people how to treat you.

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I would never drop what I was doing to entertain them if they showed up unannounced or uninvited. I would be up before the sun and gone all day. I would serve frozen pizza for dinner.

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I don't get it. They are passing thigh on the way to something else or you are their main and only (surprise) destination?

dH needs to step up and demand normal communication and advanced requests for all house guests.

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Anonymous wrote:I would never drop what I was doing to entertain them if they showed up unannounced or uninvited. I would be up before the sun and gone all day. I would serve frozen pizza for dinner.

This would be me. I'd tell hubby I would also charge a hotel downtown and get out of there.

This is a basic houseguest rule: clear the date with your host before you travel and certainly before you show up. Basic courtesy, basic common sense -- unless you are self centered and rude.

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Anonymous wrote:Would it have made a difference if it were your own parents arriving unannounced?

It is interesting that one sees all these gripes about interfering, inconsiderate in-laws and rarely about the parents. I guess all the parents are wonderful non-interfering and considerate people!

It's not like they stopped by unannounced for lunch. They drove from out of state, presumably with packed suitcases, planning to stay for a couple of nights. I don't care who it is, that's really horrible!!

I hear you ............. but my point is that just about all the complaints are about in-laws and there is barely a peep about one's own parents. One would get the impression that the parents of those who complain are paragons of virtue.

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Anonymous wrote:If your mother and father in-law came over from out of state unannounced. How would you react? Would you drop all of your plans???

I'm kind of pissed!!!! They just got her at 7pm, right before my kids bedtimes!!! Now they are saying that that might be staying for two nights!! I feel like saying something to them. They were just here in December.

I would be overjoyed, because my inlaws are awesome. We've been trying to get them to come for months now.

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Anonymous wrote:OP here. Here is the kicker. His mom said thanks for letting us invite ourselves. Then I said nothing and just smiled. And she said don't smerk I know you don't like it. And I just smiled again. What am I supposed to say? My DH and older son go to work and school so I what have to entertain them? I have no real plans but now i feel like being gone but my 2.5 year old needs to nap. They were just here for 4 nights in December and my parents were here two weeks ago. I wasn't planning on having anyone here for a few months!

This is why you should get a WOHM. Then you'd have to go to work all day and it would be no big deal.

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I'd love it.

[Anonymous]

Unacceptable. And then confronting you about "smirking" - in your own house!!! - to boot. And then admitting that she knows you don't like it. So she's antagonizing you on purpose? Is she always this awful? DH needs to step in.